Do you easily catch feelings or you try not to catch feelings so you don’t get hurt?

[Pinay_ako]

[idk87334F]

I easily catch feelings (sort of like a like at first sight, though it has lessened a lot as time went on, pheww!!). But since I easily catch feelings, I immediately try to find out if the person is single, and I go for it. If I just watch the person from afar and don't interact with him, and I keep having feelings for him, and I find out he has a significant others or another crush, then that would hurt me a lot, so I prefer to know as soon as possible if he's available and whatnot. I would also prefer if the person rejected me outright right away, rather than me getting to know him so well, and then having it happen.

[Lucy68]

I try not to catch feelings, and unfortunately it comes to the point that when I unfortunately do I try to push them away. I'm trying to protect my heart at all cost, it's been hurt, bruised, and wounded way too many times and honest don't want it to get hurt anymore. So I try not to and the moment I do I'll push them away

[ChiTown33]

If left to my devices i probably would. So as a rule. I keep a very tight reign on my feelings.
Most people in this world don't want you. They just want whatever they can exploit you for. I don't think most people are selfish per se. Just "self involved".
I try to be pleasant to everyone but I try to figure out who I'm dealing with in that. Experience has taught me to be wary of people who want to know too much about you too quickly. I've said I trust easy (it may not appear that way but I do) but my trust is lost easily.

[ChrisMike1919]

Unfortunately I get attached pretty easy...

[OlderAndWiser]

I have learned to hold myself back in the first 6-8 weeks of dating. By that time, most people (including me) have a good idea whether the relationship has any staying power.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Both.

I attach fairly easily (something I'm working on), but I'm making strides in raising my standards and learning more about how to spot red flags and warning signs.

My mother didn't let me have boundaries growing up, so I've had to learn the hard way how valuable they really are.

[luxxoxo]

I try not to catch feelings/get attached because in reality in some cases the package looks better then what’s inside of you know what I mean. He is sometimes what you want him to be and looks the part but once you get to know him better for who he truly is it’s like… okay never mind. But for some reason you still be attached to this cycle and person which is sooooo weird.

[crossdressingrihno]

I'll admit growing up I've been a bit of a serial romantic I was also very good at getting women but never really kept them for very long the longest relationship was about 2 years give or take however that said I didn't like who I was becoming so I just quit dating entirely and so for the first time and I think 3 years I actually asked someone out and got rejected didn't bother me any actually I kind of knew I was going to get rejected but hey.

[crossdressingrihno]

Honestly part of it feels kind of good to be on the receiving end of a rejection.

[Guccigabbana18]

I used to catch feelings fairly easily, but now I've gotten my share of hurt so I tend to hold off on catching feelings quickly or easily. I tend to rationalise my feelings as well to make sure I'm seeing the real person not just an idealised version

[Valso]

I try very hard not to catch feelings, I've even developed a method against that. It's not easy but it works most of the time.

[Pinay_ako]

How?

[Valso]

I try my best to look at her as a bystander and find any cons that normally are turn-offs for me and that having feelings would make me blind for. Sometimes I ask my friends if they see any cons in her and if there are any turn-offs matching mine, that helps a lot for not developing feelings.
It may sound complicated but complicated is better than being hurt ever again.

[DrewJay]

No I dont easily catch feelings especially not to get hurt 🤣😂 some people I have talked to for about a year before I could say I had some love for them.

[mayur1598]

I think I do both the things...
1st I catch feeling very easily... But then I tell myself that you should control it... So its for better...

[Marshymallow]

I rarely meet people I like. But when I actually like someone I be catching feelings so fast. I stop myself from catching deeper feelings though lol

[driven159]

getting feelings right away has its benefits and down falls too but being yourself no matter what the important thing be true to yourself I have always like a woman that has her heart on her slave you know what she is feeling good and bad

[anon1903]

Attraction is exciting. I pretty much don't give a fuck even after a person becomes my crush. So it's all good.

[JakeS00]

I don't catch feelings fast. Some women will often mistake me for showing "feelings" for them when I'm neutral.

[JakeS00]

*But I won't say I avoid it so I don't get hurt.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I can catch feelings a certain way. But repeated betrayals can sour those feelings.

[Wubs3000]

I am fine catching feelings but I try to manage it and keep expectations low I guess. But for my boyfriend I just took a nosedive immediately

[AndrewAzul]

I imagine a whole life with a pretty girl the moment I see her for the first time and enter cardiac arrest when she rejects me lol. So I'd say I catch feelings very easily

[bakajana]

I catch feelings easily and sometimes is really confusing but I can't control it

[RedThread]

I rarely feel romantic attraction. Then again, I don't mind being alone so that may have something to do with it.

[Luopio27]

Im training myself not to care, not to like the girls I like more than as a friend. Fooling myself just ain't as easy as fooling others.

[silkjames]

My feelings are like kevlar at first but if she feeling me IL take my kevlar off lol!

[Jamie05rhs]

I used to when I was younger. I have learned not to do that. I feel like I have a pretty good handle on it now.