On average, who do you think is hurt more by rejection?

[crmoore]

Guys

Girls

Roughly equal

[D_Bone_Steak]

I said girls, but only because I feel like they're not used to as much in-your-face rude rejection... they tend to get used for sex a bit more often in my humble opinion which can be seen as a pretty nasty source of rejection, so I was close to saying roughly equal.

Now that I'm thinking about it, I've seen and heard of guys freaking out from rejection as well, but looking at it from my own perspective, it's not a big deal for me, but I know damn well some chicks will get straight up violent. When I was single, sometimes it felt like the general female consensus was I have to get with porky pig hitting on me simply because I don't have a girl already. Needless to say I've been cornered and have actually been tried to be coerced into getting with chicks I just didn't find attractive... sometimes their looks, sometimes behaviors, but I simply didn't want anything to do with them. So it's really hard for me to say for sure one way or the other. I do know for sure though I've been put into some real bullshit by chicks that get it in their heads that they're going to make me theirs. I'm talking psycho crazy shit that only made me want to avoid the chick even more.

Also for me rejection feels kind of like a relief... like, "that bullshit is over with and now I can stop wondering about it."

[globetrotter22]

Men are more used to rejection. But just because you are used to being (figuratively) slapped across the face it doesn’t mean your skin won’t still turn red.

Anyway one big area were too many miss the boat is understanding that men crave respect. You reject someone but still have respect for them.

But too many women confuse attraction/likeability for respect. They are similar but not the same.

So when women reject they are either very rude, bitchy about it OR if the guy is “nice” they see him as weak and assume he’s okay with friéndzone (which he sure as hell isn’t). But below is the right way to reject a man:

“Hey so so. I just want to let you know I respect you. I know it took you courage to ask me out. I respect that. I really do. But to be fair I have to be honest with you.

The truth is I don’t feel the same way. I know that’s probably not what you want to hear. But I don’t want to lead you on either.”

LEAVE IT AT THAT. Don’t ask him to “be friends”. Don’t give him any details on why you are not interested (unless he asks why). Don’t tell him that “some other girl will like him”. No. Nothing more or nothing less than above.

He might be initially disappointed or upset. But after he calms down it will dawn on him that you showed him respect. That goes much further than you will ever realize. Men need that.

[TenderFantasy]

Equal. It's not dependent on gender. To me, it's dependent on who really wanted (needed?) a relationship more, the man or the woman! Who wanted a FAMILY (a marriage and baby) more, the man or the woman!

When I broke up with my ex-fiance, I wasn't able to get over him (and I'm STILL not technically over him) and it's been almost 5 years already. There are days I'd miss him terribly but it ended for a good reason. And to be honest, maybe he didn't love me as much as I thought? It's complicated. It WAS complicated.

But at the end of it all, I have to love myself more. I can only control MY half of the union.

[MoniqueTLC]

Both get hurt but women suffer more when they're actually doing the rejection. Only because they're deemed to have more empathy then men, and are known to take into account another persons feelings into consideration a lot more than a guy would.
This is quite interesting, and explains it a bit more in depth;
https://www.theloveconsultants.com/do-girls-find-it-easy-to-reject-a-guy/

Rejection is literally associated with feeling physical pain which is never great for anyone, but guys will sometimes associate it with their masculinity, and ultimately effect their self-esteem and ego.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Bull fucking shit.

The research shows the exact opposite of your answer. Women are glorified animals.

[Marianna546]

i agree most of the time i rejected guys if felt kinda bad..

[Marianna546]

i felt**

[ElvenMr]

I feel bad when i reject someone. It's not a women exclusive thing. So there goes the article lol.
There are bad people who feel nothing, or even worse, they enjoy it and be cruel while rejecting someone they don't like.

[MoniqueTLC]

@ElvenMr Noo I didn't mean it's only women who feel bad, just that they can sometimes feel it on a higher level than what's necessary.
Yip, I think that's along the lines of sociopathic behaviour, stay clear of those individuals!

[ElvenMr]

Yea, i know women are more emotional generally, then men. I think there is more to it then just gender. Different levels of emotional intelligence in a man/women can stir this up a bit hah.

[OlderAndWiser]

Whoever is answering the question has felt the deepest pain.

https://youtu.be/QNXRU05nB1Y

[7barbieringz]

I disagree with most of you

It's true that men experience more rejection, therefore they are less phased by it. Meaning they are also less hurt by it. Men expect to get rejected. It definitely still is hard, but when u expect it, it's less painful.

Women tho, don't expect it. Most assume that any guy will take them because they have a vagina. Most women believe men are simple and will chase anything with a p*ssy. So when women believe that all they have to do is be "a girl" to get men's attention.. when they get rejected its more of a blow to their self worth and ego.

[globetrotter22]

For the most part what you said above is accurate. But the problem is many women think its okay to be rude and/or disrespectful when they reject guys OR they think the friendzone is laying them down with gentle hands (it’s actually the worst thing you can do)

They figure “oh they’re just guys”. But the this rejection or more accurately disrespect can build up for many guys and really screw them up.

[ManOnFire]

I think very attractive women are probably the demographic who hate rejection more than anyone, because they don't expect it and believe 100% of men will always want them, and when that doesn't happen they get in their feelings about it and are ready to start ranting about how unfair it is that they're still single and how lousy guys are. But then, most women tend to hate rejection because they're taught that they can always get a guy. Men are taught to expect rejection and that getting a woman will always be a challenge.

[trumpets310]

I voted both. There are guys who ask out lots of women, so they get rejected a lot. They probably take it well bc they're used to it. Same with women, some take it well bc they know they have other options. There are also men who flip out that a woman had the audacity to reject them - and women who do the same

[Adam1978]

The person that usually doesn't get rejected so women. Men knows that whatever they try there is a good chance for a neutral or negative outcome. So we aren't surprised when we get rejected. So if a man get seriously hurt, he must have lived a spoiled life.

[Birdlegs]

Women easily. Most have never had their ego checked like that. Guys have definitely taken it very hard to the point they become violent but I’ve seen far more women get angry about being rejected than I’ve seen men. So yea in general women take it harder

[ZackBan]

Depends on who's rejecting.
Women are notoriously more emotional and so might feel it more but they are also so flooded with options that they can bounce back within seconds.
Men after a rejection tend to recuse themselves from the playing field for a while to heal the broken ego. So I'd say men

[dustybiker]

Better question “Who goes in with greater expectations and allows the result to hurt themselves?” That could still be either or.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I don't know anyone that enjoys being rejected. It's not a good feeling. Both men and women are affected by it.

[TenderFantasy]

Boy aren't YOU popular. :( Why can't I be as well liked as you. No fair.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TenderFantasy lol whatever that means

[TenderFantasy]

"lol whatever that means"

Well, I gave a lot of details in my similiar answer yet it hardly got noticed (I think) or got the love/like emoji on it! 😕 what have you done differently compared to me that got you more attention and likes is basically what I'm asking. 😕 This isn't the only time it's happend. I guess I'm just whinning *sigh* lol.

But yeah, any helpful tips you care to share? 🙂

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TenderFantasy that's just the way GaG is sometimes. I've written the well thought paragraphs before too and didn't get any "likes". Trust me, I'm not well liked here. But I'm also not here for likes. If you were happy with your response and felt it was helpful then that's all that matters. Don't take this site too seriously.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

@TenderFantasy and you got selected as MHG lol...

[Anonymous]

I don't think either is hurt more by rejection, on average.

However, men experience it far more often than women because men are the ones who have to do the vast majority of approaching and risking rejection. So if we are talking "quantity" here, then by that measure it is clearly men.

[DoctorSex]

Depends.
Before sex is 50/50.
After sex, it swings violently and dramatically to the female side. It's damn near spiritually fatal.
Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Marianna546]

Everyone gets rejected even Madison Beer.. so both genders are affected

[Chazmatazz269]

Neither is hurt more or less by rejection. Men are simply socialized to expect it and behave better upon experiencing rejection. It still sucks.

[FilmGuy93]

Guys experience more rejection and indifference, but women experience a more intense reaction. With guys it adds up and compounds.

[spartan55]

Considering girls rarely have to deal with it compared to guys (in most cases).

[Guy13]

Guys because it is harder for us to expose our feelings, fully.

[Creampiekarl420]

Women lead men on more
But reject a hot girl and you’ll see an actual crazy person not only that reject and show interest in a woman less attractive than her she will act a donkey 😂

[truthisthree]

based off what I have seen girls

cause guys build up a shell

girls not so much

https://www.youtube.com/embed/qGeBwHYTjjc

[JRGaide01]

I believe guys are. They’re expected to show no emotion. Girls often have an on/off emotional safety switch. No one likes rejection. Attractive people can at least fall back on good looks. It can temper the amount of time suffering alone.

[cth96190]

Males, because we experience a lot more rejection than females do.