On average, who do you think is hurt more by rejection?

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globetrotter22 · Accepted Answer

Men are more used to rejection. But just because you are used to being (figuratively) slapped across the face it doesn’t mean your skin won’t still turn red.

Anyway one big area were too many miss the boat is understanding that men crave respect. You reject someone but still have respect for them.

But too many women confuse attraction/likeability for respect. They are similar but not the same.

So when women reject they are either very rude, bitchy about it OR if the guy is “nice” they see him as weak and assume he’s okay with friéndzone (which he sure as hell isn’t). But below is the right way to reject a man:

“Hey so so. I just want to let you know I respect you. I know it took you courage to ask me out. I respect that. I really do. But to be fair I have to be honest with you.

The truth is I don’t feel the same way. I know that’s probably not what you want to hear. But I don’t want to lead you on either.”

LEAVE IT AT THAT. Don’t ask him to “be friends”. Don’t give him any details on why you are not interested (unless he asks why). Don’t tell him that “some other girl will like him”. No. Nothing more or nothing less than above.

He might be initially disappointed or upset. But after he calms down it will dawn on him that you showed him respect. That goes much further than you will ever realize. Men need that.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I said girls, but only because I feel like they're not used to as much in-your-face rude rejection... they tend to get used for sex a bit more often in my humble opinion which can be seen as a pretty nasty source of rejection, so I was close to saying roughly equal.

Now that I'm thinking about it, I've seen and heard of guys freaking out from rejection as well, but looking at it from my own perspective, it's not a big deal for me, but I know damn well some chicks will get straight up violent. When I was single, sometimes it felt like the general female consensus was I have to get with porky pig hitting on me simply because I don't have a girl already. Needless to say I've been cornered and have actually been tried to be coerced into getting with chicks I just didn't find attractive... sometimes their looks, sometimes behaviors, but I simply didn't want anything to do with them. So it's really hard for me to say for sure one way or the other. I do know for sure though I've been put into some real bullshit by chicks that get it in their heads that they're going to make me theirs. I'm talking psycho crazy shit that only made me want to avoid the chick even more.

Also for me rejection feels kind of like a relief... like, "that bullshit is over with and now I can stop wondering about it."

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Equal. It's not dependent on gender. To me, it's dependent on who really wanted (needed?) a relationship more, the man or the woman! Who wanted a FAMILY (a marriage and baby) more, the man or the woman!

When I broke up with my ex-fiance, I wasn't able to get over him (and I'm STILL not technically over him) and it's been almost 5 years already. There are days I'd miss him terribly but it ended for a good reason. And to be honest, maybe he didn't love me as much as I thought? It's complicated. It WAS complicated.

But at the end of it all, I have to love myself more. I can only control MY half of the union.

MoniqueTLC · Accepted Answer

Both get hurt but women suffer more when they're actually doing the rejection. Only because they're deemed to have more empathy then men, and are known to take into account another persons feelings into consideration a lot more than a guy would.
This is quite interesting, and explains it a bit more in depth;
https://www.theloveconsultants.com/do-girls-find-it-easy-to-reject-a-guy/

Rejection is literally associated with feeling physical pain which is never great for anyone, but guys will sometimes associate it with their masculinity, and ultimately effect their self-esteem and ego.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Whoever is answering the question has felt the deepest pain.

7barbieringz · Answer

I disagree with most of you

It's true that men experience more rejection, therefore they are less phased by it. Meaning they are also less hurt by it. Men expect to get rejected. It definitely still is hard, but when u expect it, it's less painful.

Women tho, don't expect it. Most assume that any guy will take them because they have a vagina. Most women believe men are simple and will chase anything with a p*ssy. So when women believe that all they have to do is be "a girl" to get men's attention.. when they get rejected its more of a blow to their self worth and ego.

ManOnFire · Answer

I think  very attractive women  are probably the demographic who hate rejection more than anyone, because they don't expect it and believe 100% of men will always want them, and when that doesn't happen they get in their feelings about it and are ready to start ranting about how unfair it is that they're still single and how lousy guys are. But then, most women tend to hate rejection because they're taught that they can always get a guy. Men are taught to expect rejection and that getting a woman will always be a challenge.

trumpets310 · Answer

I voted both. There are guys who ask out lots of women, so they get rejected a lot. They probably take it well bc they're used to it. Same with women, some take it well bc they know they have other options. There are also men who flip out that a woman had the audacity to reject them - and women who do the same

Adam1978 · Answer

The person that usually doesn't get rejected so women. Men knows that whatever they try there is a good chance for a neutral or negative outcome. So we aren't surprised when we get rejected. So if a man get seriously hurt, he must have lived a spoiled life.

Birdlegs · Answer

Women easily. Most have never had their ego checked like that. Guys have definitely taken it very hard to the point they become violent but I’ve seen far more women get angry about being rejected than I’ve seen men. So yea in general women take it harder

ZackBan · Answer

Depends on who's rejecting.
Women are notoriously more emotional and so might feel it more but they are also so flooded with options that they can bounce back within seconds.
Men after a rejection tend to recuse themselves from the playing field for a while to heal the broken ego. So I'd say men

dustybiker · Answer

Better question “Who goes in with greater expectations and allows the result to hurt themselves?” That could still be either or.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

I don't know anyone that enjoys being rejected. It's not a good feeling. Both men and women are affected by it.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think either is hurt more by rejection, on average.

However, men experience it far more often than women because men are the ones who have to do the vast majority of approaching and risking rejection. So if we are talking "quantity" here, then by that measure it is clearly men.

Marianna546 · Answer

Everyone gets rejected even Madison Beer.. so both genders are affected

DoctorSex · Answer

Depends.  Before sex is 50/50. After sex, it swings violently and dramatically to the female side. It's damn near spiritually fatal. Kind regards, DoctorSex

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Neither is hurt more or less by rejection. Men are simply socialized to expect it and behave better upon experiencing rejection. It still sucks.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Guys experience more rejection and indifference, but women experience a more intense reaction. With guys it adds up and compounds.

spartan55 · Answer

Considering girls rarely have to deal with it compared to guys (in most cases).

Guy13 · Answer

Guys because it is harder for us to expose our feelings, fully.

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

Women lead men on more  But reject a hot girl and you’ll see an actual crazy person not only that reject and show interest in a woman less attractive than her she will act a donkey 😂

truthisthree · Answer

based off what I have seen girls  cause guys build up a shell  girls not so much

JRGaide01 · Answer

I believe guys are. They’re expected to show no emotion. Girls often have an on/off emotional safety switch. No one likes rejection. Attractive people can at least fall back on good looks. It can temper the amount of time suffering alone.

cth96190 · Answer

Males, because we experience a lot more rejection than females do.

Xrynx · Answer

Men might seem to get rejected more easily but men and women both get hurt by rejection

Sparkie460 · Answer

I think women get hurt more than men by rejection. Men probably just brush themselves off and move on to the next victim.

BLP11520 · Answer

Guys get hurt and move on. I got neither of the 2 I wanted to marry. So what? My wife and I are not perfect... she can be a real bitch. I have my warts..

Chthou95 · Answer

Women. Because they dont get rejected tons and tons of times the way men do. So they wouldn't be use to it. Men and women experience rejection differently

Anonymous · Answer

maybe people who rarely risk it, so either gender i guess.

summer_of_91 · Answer

I think men get rejected far more than women do but being rejected by someone hurts just as much whether you are a woman or a man

Anonymous · Answer

guys seem to get rejected more at least thats my experience

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Women because they rarely recieve it. Men are used to women rejecting them

SenseiSeptred · Answer

I have seen females get rather wild because I rejected them.

Anonymous · Answer

Short men. We would rather be rejected for literally anything else other than our height. And yet, our height is the single most important reason for getting rejected.

hostboy__fastestlaps · Answer

Guys because they are more concerned about their own looks than girls are of their own and of guys'

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Females , is not even close  females would do anything to bring down the guy that rejected them

Anthony20108 · Answer

guy's for sure woman can be a little heartless sometimes man.

Anonymous · Answer

My guess is probably girls since guys are pretty used to it.

Lucy68 · Answer

It's equal in my opinion to nr honest

TheeTrybrid · Answer

Males , they are killing women for rejecting them.

Aurora1010 · Answer

Guys are

WhitneySnow · Answer

Equal

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

Men.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Clearly girls.

Anonymous · Answer

rejection just hurts

KuriousityCills04 · Answer

its painful for both

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