my partner works away and he only gets to come home for 24 hours every few weeks. i work full time. we live with his mother which makes life stressfull enough. usually i would cook meals for him and do his laundry when he's home and go shopping for him or whatever else needs to be done to help him get back to work. lately I've been working a lot more and i haven't been able to do thoes things. im kinda glad about it because there is always something wrong with the way i do things or the food i make him. eg. he wanted to eat healthy so i made healthy food and he didn't like it. i took a more intence job so that id be on a salary which means wed look better for morgage applicants in a few months.
he wants our first house to be our only house and it has to be perfect. this is impossible! weve been living with his mother for 3.5 years now and it sucks big time. i can hardly hold it together anymore. between keeping his mother happy and him refusing to compramise on his idea of our future house and then feeling underappreciated because all we talk about is houses or his mother or his work or my work or finacials. we got into an argument where he said he felt the relationship is one sided. that he's doing all the work and now he's refusing to come home for his 24 hour break. which i think is being further unhelpful. how do we untangle this?
he wants our first house to be our only house and it has to be perfect. this is impossible! weve been living with his mother for 3.5 years now and it sucks big time. i can hardly hold it together anymore. between keeping his mother happy and him refusing to compramise on his idea of our future house and then feeling underappreciated because all we talk about is houses or his mother or his work or my work or finacials. we got into an argument where he said he felt the relationship is one sided. that he's doing all the work and now he's refusing to come home for his 24 hour break. which i think is being further unhelpful. how do we untangle this?
