What is your stance on strippers at bachelor/bachelorette parties?

Question

*At your own party? *At your SO's party? *What if it isn't for your SO but for a party that they are attending?

lolwerinit · Accepted Answer

My stance on it is that if you are in an open relationship, go for it; if you are in a loving and committed monogamous relationship? Don't.

The reason that sexual behaviour with someone who isn't one's partner is a big deal is because part of what makes the monogamous relationship so beautiful and romantic is the implication inherit in it: that a person has chosen their partner over all others. The "choosing" I am speaking of has emotional and physical components to it in that you dedicate yourself to your partner exclusively in many emotional and physical ways. One such way that you exclusively dedicate yourself to your partner physically is through sexual behaviour. When the stripper comes in and does that job for you, your partner is no longer fully dedicated to you sexually, he isn't choosing you over everyone else. This is an especially big deal for those of us who tie sex and romance together. I personally do not want my partner to connect to other people on a romantic level, and because sex is inherently romantic for me, I am against.

Flamingtrashcan · Accepted Answer

If he has a stripper at his bachelor party, he’s getting his ring back and I will happily NOT walk down the aisle. Obviously I wouldn’t have one at my own either. It’s trashy and feels like a violation of trust

BullShark · Accepted Answer

First of all, I'm not much of a party person, nor do I see myself getting hitched anytime soon, so it can't be for me. Moreover, I'm the sort of person who gets reeeeally uncomfortable if some random stranger or even a friend who I'm not that close to, regardless of gender, comes up to me, starts touching me and starts grinding against me. I think it's maybe because I still sometimes get PTSD from that one time I was abused as a kid by my neighbor's maid.

Anyways as for others, I really don't care, nor do I think you oughta be mean to strippers either. It's their job, isn't it? So there's a 95% chance they won't be catching feelings any time soon from you and neither should you, either. If you didn't want strippers, just don't call them. Like I said, if it WERE me or my bachelor party, I'd just tell my friends not to call strippers over and if they call them over regardless, I'll simply tell the girls "hey, would you mind maybe not touching me or giving me a lap dance? Go for my buddy Mujtaba instead, he loves that sorta stuff."

MrCon10t · Accepted Answer

Stupid. I find it to be really inappropriate and self-defeating. You’ve found the love of your life; the woman you’re about to vow unending loyalty and faithfulness to. But your way of celebrating that is to intentionally put yourself in the presence of women who’s job it is to evoke lust? It’s just insane in my opinion. But then, I find the concept of “one last hurrah” to be stupid because I don’t think there should have been ANY hurrahs in the 1st place.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’d rather be his stripper in our own private party. Why have some stranger when I can pretty much do the same thing as her?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sorry, but I'm kind of conservative this way. I don't want my man to be staring and stripping women. If he's getting married to me that's even more true. If he needs a strip tease I'll do it for him so he sees my naked body (and not some other woman's). I'll do all sort of dirty, raunchy sexual things to him that he really wants me to do. I'll fulfill sexual fantasies he has. I'll give him lots of sexual pleasure. I just want all of this to be done with me and not another woman. If he's seeing a woman's naked body I want it to be mine.

I apply these same rules to myself and if it's another guy's bachelor party

Chris7094 · Answer

I think it's the stupidest thing I've ever heard of. If you're lucky enough to be in a great monogamous relationship, to the point where you're ready to get married, the LAST THING on earth people need is to be messing around with strippers to celebrate. I swear that custom was made up by some jealous fuckers who wanted to ruin the relationships.

When I got married neither of us even had Bachelor/Bachelorette parties. We seriously wanted to get married and why fuck it up? Just to entertain our jealous friends?

hahahmm · Answer

See, part of the problem with today's world is people do risky things, play with fire & then get surprised when they get burned. If you don't want your SO banging a stripper it's a bad idea for them to be with 10 whoring friends at a show with escorts.

I made sure to marry a woman who doesn't have whoring friends & who has no interest in strippers. She always said I can go to see strippers if I want but I honestly have no interest in it... & don't see the point of paying some whore.

Mr1derful · Answer

Totally over clichéd, overrated, and a complete waste in my opinion. I don’t get it at all. Before my wedding I’ve only been to a strip club a couple of times and it did nothing for me. My wife felt the same way. So instead of this dumb tradition, we got together and had a party at a resort with all the close family and party member from each side and their others just get together and have a nice party together instead! It was a lot of fun. Folks went skiing and tubing and we got to share that fun!

LilyoftheLake · Answer

Honestly? It seems so counterproductive.

Bachelor parties are supposed to be about commemorating a brotherhood, and bachelorette parties sisterhood - not relishing your last moments of sexual freedom!

lightbulb27 · Answer

I wouldn't invite one.

If someone else did, I'd leave since she is for the other guys... not me.

my friend kinda went through this and he was embarrassed and just dealt with it for a few minutes.

There's personalities that like this... or mentally screwed up people, depending on how ya look at it. I think it's stupid... and really, classless.

Katie1964 · Answer

What is your stance on strippers at bachelor/bachelorette parties? They are no big deal. A right of passage for men. Hubby had some at his. I did not. No big deal.

*At your own party? I didn't have any and didn't want any.

*At your SO's party? I had them, I didn't care.

*What if it isn't for your SO but for a party that they are attending? That's fine.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

There are some states that ban stripping businesses. So, you’re basically asking people who live in high populated states like Las Vegas and California.

Also, strippers are all time low now. There’s not much girls applying for those jobs and not much customers interested in going there anymore.

So, you’re basically asking “hey, would you rent porn at blockbuster?”

figuecristi · Answer

It depends, if it's some kind of show in a Magic mike or Burlesque type of thing, then sure go for it, if they bring you ln the stage even better.
But if it's just some girl giving you a lap dance or takes off her clothes for you then it's a no for me.
The third option would be to go together to a strip club, that i wouldn't object to

ZackBan · Answer

The whole idea of having a stripper at a bachelor party is the test of temptation.
You're supposed to turn down the stripper as a show of loyalty to your betrothed.
Then your friends can take over and do what they like and pay for with said stripper.

So I have mo problem having one or her having one but I do wanna confirm that she passed the test and ensure I do too.

Datboi65 · Answer

Absolutely disgusting. Often times leads to cheating. I will not have a stripper at my bachelor party, neither will I want that at my future SO's party. I personally don't even believe in bachelor/bachelorette parties, but that's a whole 'nother story for a different day.

MrOracle · Answer

I would never have such a bachelor party for myself. I have been to those parties that other guys wanted, but it's not really my thing.

My bachelor party would involve lots of BBQ, music, a swimming pool, cold drinks, and maybe an ice cream/sundae bar.

If I was going to a strip club, it would be because my SO wants to go. I wouldn't have much interest in going alone.

MrHopper · Answer

Don't really mind, not that type that worries about such things. I had my "stag" a few weeks back and we need l called it a "slag do" as was me and 4 female friends and they didn't do a stripper. If they had I think I would have just felt really awkward

LilSicilian · Answer

I think it’s pure adult entertainment, strippers are people to, I mean it takes a lot of balls to get naked in front of people you don’t know.. it’s a job like any other job (except the naked part lol) but as long as you can trust your SO then I say let them have fun etc. But if u don’t fully trust your SO then I say be very cautious cuz there are some trashy slutty strippers (the trashy ones are the ones that give all strippers a bad name ) .

ethanallen · Answer

It is well documented that women as well as men engage in sexual activity with strippers at bachelor/bachelorette parties. The answer to this depends on what mutual understanding the two partners (fiance and fiancee) have with each other. If they are agreed that they are monogamous after becoming engaged, then having a stripper at either party is inappropriate. However, if they agree that each can have fun until the wedding day, then it is fine. Talk about it with your partner first.

AviatorTom · Answer

Back in the time when I got married (about 30 years ago), going to a strip club was very common for a guy's bachelor party. It was the duty of the best man to arrange it, and if the best man chained a bowling ball to the groom's leg, the strip club let the entire group in without having to pay a cover charge. For my bachelor party of 6 guy friends, we went bowling first, ate dinner there, then went to a strip club.

KennethNoisewater · Answer

It's adult entertainment. They are paid dancers that are doing their job of entertaining. It's not like someone hired a group of hookers for a party. That could raise some eyebrows for sure. I think if your uncomfortable about dancers and think they will ruin marriage, well, it's probably already ruined TBH.

Kabluie · Answer

No big deal, ever seen movies like my best friends girl? Even taking a girl on a strip club date is actually a legit thing. If you gotten this far to the party before the mono marriage, you shouldn't have to worry about your partner doing something out of boundaries.

Andres77 · Answer

My wife went to a bachelorette party last year. All the other girls got naked. Everyone, including my wife, stroked the stripper's cock. No one sucked him. No one fucked him. Just enjoying the big bouncy thick cock. She showed me all the videos (I hope).

They had fun, I had fun when she came home.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

It brings unnecessary drama. I've seen a bride to be show up to her husband to be bachelors party. She tried to act cool with the strippers until he got a lap dance. Called off the wedding. Who needs that drama? No one. Just get drunk with your friends and leave the strippers to the desperate folks.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

oh lord. I've organized 2 bachelor parties. thank god we had some cool and greedy strippers. the shit that goes through my mind even raised the eye of the bouncers. "as long as you got the money and YOU dont hurt the strippers i have no reason to bust your heads you sick fucks"

laurieluvsit · Answer

It has to be mutually agreeable between bride and groom, then it is OK.

Anonymous · Answer

I find bachelor/bachelorette parties kind of silly in general. Like any reason/excuse to party I guess (?) LOL. I've never been married, but I think I'd be uncomfortable with it in general, unless she knew about it and was ok with it. Even then it might be uncomfortable.

Dalisay409 · Answer

I'm all for it. One last stand. What happens there, stays there.

CasaNorba · Answer

I think bachelor/bachelorette parties are the stupidest things ever.  why the fuck have such nonsense when I can stay single and fuck with strippers whenever I want. which is what I'm currently doing

Anonymous · Answer

I am of the opinion that men are free to have sex with strippers at their bachelorette party the night before their wedding. After all, we all know marriage is a contract between 2 parties and the government and that most women are marrying their husbands for their stability and financial resources.

Anonymous · Answer

My friend's sister had entered the party, riding on the back of the man who was on all fours like a horse. Other girls were kicking his bare ass. The horseman had all the girls take turns on his back throughout the party. His ass was livid and purple from being kicked by girls at the end of the party.

SaartjieJane · Answer

I’d call off my wedding if my partner got strippers at his bachelor party

erandal · Answer

I went to a friends party where she had some male strippers and they did a lot more than I had expected. Not my sort of thing.

fonduegirl · Answer

I'd definitely want one. Luckily, my friends know me. Then again, I don't believe in marriage. I just wanna blow off some steam, it'd be hot if I get to tie the knot next. Or not.

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

I'm not interested in stripers myself but if I was dating someone who went to an event where they were, be it his or someone else's, I wouldn't really be that fussed because if I'm dating someone I would hope I could trust them around other people.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would not allow any strippers at my bachelor party. And if anyone brought them, I would not only kick out the strippers but I would also remove the fools who thought it was a wise idea to solicit them.

datnoodchick · Answer

i'm good with it, just make sure you tip them well

hihihiok · Answer

I can't stand that idea though. I will be highly offended if my partner does it.

SuperMikeL · Answer

I never had a bachelor party ever with or without strippers. If I did have one I am for it. I am for girls having bachelorette parties with male strippers as well. Would not bother me at all. Each person has a choice of their own to make and it is nobody's business I think what one chooses.

cth96190 · Answer

No even slightly interested, although I once saw a stripper use her vaginal muscles to propel a dildo three metres through the air, where it was caught by an appreciative member of the audience.
Every man in the room was thinking the same thing.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I’m very anti-stripper. More pro-hooker. If i’m paying thousands of dollars for a woman to pretend to like me, i expect more than a case of blue balls in return. Ell oh ell!

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It's stupid. Why would an engaged person even want to pay a stripper? Skip the party entirely and just have your SO strip, it's free, you know the person will be hot and sti free, and you won't be a cheating shithole for it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am all for it, especially if I am allowed to touch them.

Wyldsparrow · Answer

It's a nay from me and from my guy. He actually doesn't care for strippers or strip clubs. Just not our thing.

Goth_cat · Answer

I dont really like the idea of it and wouldn't really be okay with partner having a stripper at his party as well

Thot_Stomper · Answer

I was engaged and had my bachelorette with a male stripper my friends ordered. The next day I was single…bad things that felt good happened. I guess it was for the better.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t think it’s that bad. I think it’s like watching some P*RN I guess. If I can happily watch some P*RN with my man. Then he can see the strippers and I can see the male strippers. As long as nobody is cheating and going deep inside.

Lexi_87 · Answer

Personally it's not my thing so wouldn't want that at my party, but as for how I feel about strippers in general. It's each to theor own

spartan55 · Answer

Had some All Pro Level strippers at my bachelor party. It was like any other weekend for me during that time.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

I don’t believe in bachelor or bachelorette parties. They’re a huge insult to the person you’re about to marry. I saw some bachelorette parties on Beale Street in Memphis that would have convinced me to call off the wedding.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I don't see why they are needed there. Id rather my SO not have them. And I myself wouldn't every have them at a bachelor party anf I i ever attended one where they were there I'd leave. I have nothing against people who do that for a living but it's not something I'm interested in seeing irrigsrless if I was single or not.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Fine with me x3 I don't care y would I care?

Moonshae · Answer

its usually innocent.. looking at them naked. i heard of a few times when the stripper had sex with the bachelor/bachelorette

KrisPW · Answer

AS long as it's at a club, with rules to keep things from getting out of hand (or in hand?), then I'm fine with it.

DJB72 · Answer

If my best man had brought out a stripper I'd have had a total freak out. Not my thing. My wife would have said the same if her maid of honour had done.

Zeus_66 · Answer

I don't have any issue with it. One off events are different than it being a regular thing. I'm not really into it myself, but I don't see the big deal.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Like one user @babygirl_s said, we do not have it in our culture. I don't think anything further needs to be said.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It's not really something I would be getting for me haha. If she wants male strippers at her thing that's fine. Strippers don't do much for me.

Valso · Answer

My best friend had strippers at his bachelor party. I didn't enjoy them at all, mostly because they were plastic dolls (tons of makeup and silicon on them). If I'm ever to get married, which is highly unlikely, there will be no strippers.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I thought strippers at a bachelor party was a tradition. I've been to a lot of them and each one had strippers. Nobody had sex with them. They just gave everyone hand jobs.
As long as Nobody gets offended, I don't see anything wrong with it

Tomsta · Answer

It's only a stripper... what's the issue

Provided i'm informed before hand in some way then go for it

If she decides to take the plunge with a stripper well then her loss and she never really liked me to begin with then

Anonymous · Answer

Mandatory element for sure... A man must face final temptation before being sure he can commit, and they are professional temptresses! I respect it!

Kelly6 · Answer

I strongly support strippers at these parties

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