Is she afraid of her feelings for me or just lost interest. Women please help?

[Anonymous]

So I've (22M) been texting and seeing this girl (22F) for about 10 months now, and although we kissed a few times there was never anything serious between us. 3 months back I realised that I actually liked her and wanted to take things further. she was taking me home from work and the vibes were so great she went past my house and drove the block just so we could spend more time together. The following night we kissed but she seemed very closed off. She's very closed off as a person and keeps her cards close. After that we sat together on a work bus trip and she was very happy, but once we got off the bus she became very cold and distant. At the end of the night I asked her if she wanted to go on a date to see a movie and she gave me "we'll see". We ended up not going and she continued to be cold and distant with me for the next week. The following week we didn't go straight home after work and decided to hang out, we got very personal and intimate and she said she liked me and said she wanted to go on a date. We went for a walk, held hands and had a great time. we then went on the date at the weekend and had a great time, we held hands and spent all day together. She told me her dad didn't like the last guy she was with but thinks he'd love me. We hung out for a month and most recently went to the beach, she got me to paint her nails, lay on my chest and was very affectionate and cute with me, it was such a change from her normal self. After a few days she returned to just how she was the week of the work trip, she's been very cold and distant towards me again and although she said its not me, it's work that's stressing her (we're very understaffed) she wasn't in the mood to kiss me. While it seems like the exact same scenario as happened a month ago I'm still confused and worried she's lost interest. Her friends think she's just frightened or scared of her feelings for me and how quick things were moving but I can't deal with it.

[ElementoP]

Dude I can't count the number of times this has happened to me. I won't pretend to understand why women do that, but that shit got old for me real quick and I avoid ones that do that at at all costs. You could just ask her directly what's going on and get it out in the open if you think she's worth it, but if I were you I would run in the other direction and find a girl who doesn't play emotional games. Which I did, they're out there

(And don't get all pissy that I recommend you leave that one alone, I don't care what you do)

[Guy13]

I am just guessing her as I am not an expert. There are probably 800 numbers for this kind of thing. Does she have psychological diagnoses past? She sounds a little Bipolar to me BUT I am not an expert. If you know anyone in counseling field, it may be worthwhile to consult their time for an assessment. It will need to be much more detailed than here...

[itsmicaelaxo]

If the last guy hurt her she'll get in her own head about stuff. Try to be patient. Don't bombard her and allow her to come out of her shell on her own. Support her and show her you're there for her, and respect her. That's what she wants. If you push her, she'll leave because deep down she's hurting as she is torn about liking you but is afraid of things going south