I keep dreaming that i'm cheating on my girlfriend with my 'first love', it scares me?

[Anonymous]

A little bit of context, although i used the phrase first love me and her (first love) never actually dated in any sense and she was actually a emotionally manipulative women. But i keep waking up feeling like shit, but also part of me feeling a little proud that

The dream is detailed enough where i know exactly who it is that i'm sleeping with, but it scares me when i wake up because i'm not sure (when i wake up) if the dream was fake because it felt so real

[kylee2437]

I dream about my ex boyfriend that was abusive also and I think it’s because the abuse causes trauma obviously and that can be a sign of ptsd. Your brain is trauma bonded to your ex because she was manipulative

[Asker]

That's the thing, technically she isn't an ex as we never dated. It's a long story. But i get where you're coming from

[YourNightOwl]

Fantasy isn’t cheating. Dipping the noodle is. Ask yourself if you really are happy with your girlfriend, or is she being used by you as a gap filler until you find someone else. What sate really afraid if? That you’re gonna have yo settle with her?