Husband yelling and disengaged?

[Anonymous]

My husband is very explosive lately and it is beginning to scare me. He has thrown me into the wall before and tried to suffocate me when I was sobbing from a flashback. I forgave him, and he had changed…But now o feel like he hates me. I can’t work until I hear back about a medical claim. I think a lot is $, but he never touches me really…doesn’t want to talk to me…calls me a lot of names. Please help. This is my first and hopefully last marriage. I want to work this out.

[DaveJord]

Honestly once that level of frustration and anxiety enters into a marriage it pretty hard to rebound. I was in a marriage with a women and I went through these bouts with her. I mean I never got physical with her in any way... but she never took any responsibility for any thing and it really started to wear on me... but she was never going to change.

So not knowing the details, he sounds very dissatisfied with the relationship. So its really hard to say, but if you absolutely dependent upon him... then yes guys really start to resent that in a women if she not contributing in a meaningful way.

If you're not working and its about money then you need to start working, medical condition or not. I mean if you get your medical condition as you seem to want it, what's that mean? You can't work indefinitely? You're going to me that much more dependent upon him? I don't think that is was he was thinks when you go married and now you in this situation and he's frustrated about it. Because if he divorces you then he's got to pay you for long period of time... that's frustrating for a man. Because the medical condition becomes your excuse for everything while he had to just go out and keep gridding it does nothing to improve the situation for him it just makes it worse. It makes all his hopes and dreams for the future that much harder to achieve.

[slatyb]

Get the hell out. That's seriously abusive. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (hotline. org) 800-799-7233

[Bee-Hatch]

Your relationship is physically abusive, you're being attacked. How much do you need to endure before you walk away?

[Anonymous]

It's time for you to move on. This is a toxic situation.

[20yearsolder]

File divorce papers, it's not going to get better. Anytime he gets physical have him arrested.

[Avicenna]

You need to get out of there for your own safety

[Asker]

Honestly, I can’t imagine not having him in my life. It just breaks my heart. Six years is a long time.