Why won’t he move halfway?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year we aren’t moving in together yet I want to wait another year for that but everytime we discuss it he wants to move to our hometown which is two hours away from where I can live due to my daughter and custody agreements I’ve tried explaining this to him I can however move halfway and so could he so neither of us has to give up our jobs for the other in all we both would be driving at least an hour a day to work and back. But he won’t move halfway when it’s time mind you this would be two years of being together. I don’t mind either way but I own a small business down in the city and his job is in a smaller city this could work but he won’t even think about it expects me to drop my child and the life I’ve created down where I live leaving friends family and my business I don’t think that’s fair for me to just move up there when he won’t meet me half way and compromise eventually we want kids too and I’d have to travel back and forth imagine me driving two hours there and back with two little ones which is not ideal. So I’ve attempted several time to talk about the issue and he ignores it so at this point should I just give up on the relationship?

[Bee-Hatch]

You're a single mother, so he has to understand that your kid is important to you. I mean understand as in know the difficulties you've got to deal with and the challenges it presents. And any arrangements that go with that child matter. If he won't compromise then he's looking out for himself. Can you really rely on someone like that when your kids involved? Is he really ready to take on some responsibility that goes with having a child in the mix? You need to be certain because it's a big thing for your kid, who needs stability, not a flake who will break away if he's got hurt feelings.

[Avicenna]

If it’s that crucial of an issue and he won’t address it, you may have to break up with him. But before you do that, brainstorm and see if there is a solution you’ve missed.

[boggboss]

What reason will he not this don't make sense surly he would know if this is not responded its the end of the relationship

[Asker]

Which I have explained to him he says he wants us to get married have kids but when it comes to talking about serious things he shuts down. I’ve explained my situation to him and he knows I cannot move up there but I can meet him halfway I attempted to say maybe we should just stop seeing each other before it gets more serious if this isn’t what he wants he responded it is what he wants but we will talk about it when it comes up more which I feel won’t I’m not begging to move in with him either just want to know because I don’t want to waste my time if there’s no future

[boggboss]

I think he is wasting both you and his time by hoping the problom will fix itself when it can't he need to be part of that process

[Asker]

My daughter is half way raised so there’s only little time left til she’s grown we do get alone time a lot because I share custody I see him when I don’t have her most of the time. But now I’m just feeling I’m at a standstill and going to have to make the decision to end it or stay and just never be able to live together if that’s the case then I’m not going to have more kids because the idea of hauling around kids in winter with snow and ice driving two hours sounds like a nightmare. I’m being reasonable with him I don’t ask much of him I don’t ask him to pay for me or half of our dates I pay. I feel like this just isn’t working anymore but he doesn’t want us to break up everytime I mention him seeing other women where he wants to live to see if he can find someone else to give him what he wants but he won’t.

[In_Trance]

I don't see why this is such a big deal at the moment. You were happy in the relationship so why not leave it that way?
If it's meant to be then it'll work out one way or another

[Iron_Man]

That sounds like a tough decision