Which one is harder for you: making friends or trying to get dates/laid or into a relationship?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Order of difficulty for me from hardest to easiest: relationship, dates=getting laid/having sex, making friends.

I can make friends with almost anyone! Including guys- heck the majority of my friends are guys. And when I say friends, I mean they are just friends. Not f buddies, friends with benefits, or any hidden agenda. I mean REAL friends that I can hang out with and talk to on a daily basis without any sexual tension.

But dating? LOL. Ask me the last time I was in a relationship- I will give you a hint: I was in my 20s, young, optimistic, and still had dreams and aspirations back then.

I've accepted my bachelorette status, and am okay with it at this point in my life.

Bubbles16 · Accepted Answer

I say making friends because when I was younger I didn't have any trouble making friends but as I got older and started caring what people think of me making new friends became harder for me

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

hmm, I would not say it is hard or that it would represent a problem for me...

is just that I am very selective so for me to develop a friendship or a relationship is a process that takes time, a long time usually, but I don't see a problem in that nor hardship

as for dating around, that is just something I don't do but if I were to do it it would not be difficult given the fact that as you know, I've been asked before so I would just have to take the offers, lol

"getting laid" is just another thing I don't do, just not the way I am... but if I were that way, then I would be as promiscuous AF lol

wowop99266 · Accepted Answer

As a short man, 2 to 4 are the hardest. I'd say the hardest of them all would be the 3rd.

Sarahr123 · Answer

No problems tbf it’s more so a problem of finding the right one as far as serious relationships are concerned.

I don’t do friends with benefits or casual but that I can get anytime anywhere if I wanted to.

Making friends has also never really been an issue.

As far as going on dates is concerned, I don’t like formal dates or even casual meetings where people get involved in boisterous activities. I’m very girly girl types and I am also a huge introvert so my ideal date is netflix and chill.

That’s about it as far as explanations are concerned.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Mm tough to chose, making friends these days is harder, i only have one friend from high school i speak to every once in a while. Hanging out with otgers is harder cause people are busy these days and have their own thing going on. But it's also harder to make friends cause I've always been a introverted person and some people are pickier/closed off with friendships.

As for dating, I wasn't much of a guy magnet either. I only had two boyfriends, one being my now husband. I think if we stayed broken up, I'm not sure if I would of got into a new relationship with anyone else. Men didn't gravitate towards me often during my teens or young adult years so I'm sure I would be single.

PamelaRivers · Answer

In my case, the easiest would be getting a date / getting laid. If that was all I wanted, I wouldn't even have to leave the apartment complex I live in to find to find five or six guys that would be happy to get me in the bed. The problem is afterword they would still be just as fast to jump in bed with the next girl that makes an offer.

Finding a guy that is willing to get to know me is proving more difficult. True friendship, to me, means really knowing each other and that takes time. And finding a relationship takes longer for the same reason.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

All of those as today (in these days) women/men have become Electronic Zombies, there is no more going to the Pup (Bar) and have the people you with checking their phone every minute, You go on a date and they start checking the phone again and they lose the track of conversation they say "yeah, hhm, ok", but few seconds later...: "and you were saying?"... For real?🤦‍♂️, so yeah Thanks to today's Devices, social life/meeting/getting laid Is done ONLINE!

Moose304 · Answer

I want to be clear about my comment before I get accused of being an insensitive jerk. For me, it is 100 times harder to make a friend than to get laid. I can get laid most anytime I want. For me befriending someone takes years. I don't just hand out my trust easily. Most of the folks I call my friends I have known for 20+ years or more. I don't have relationships because I don't want to. These lyrics from the song night moves kind of express my feelings about getting laid.

And we'd steal away every chance we could
To the backroom, the alley, the trusty woods
I used her she used me but neither one cared
We were getting our share.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/xH7cSSKnkL4

ChiTown33 · Answer

I don't seem to have any trouble making friends. People always tell me what they like about me is I'm real and as a result i always seem to have people come to me for advice. Not because i dispense good advice so much i think the fact that they like that i listen without any agenda. And people either really like me or hate me. You're not always going to like what I say but you'll never have to wonder about where I stand.

I'd say dating/relationships. Because very seldom are women transparent about how they feel what they want. When I ask women out invariably the answer is always no. But that doesn't stop women from approaching me. It's pretty much gotten to a point that I feel it's a game to most and one I'm not interested in playing anymore.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

I've never had a problem making friends, a date, laid or an SO. I talk to everyone & things happen.

My SO & I have a baby together & he's talking about marriage... Honestly, I don't know if I want to be married again, as I don't believe in it (my ex-husband cheated on me, we were together, in total, 7yrs). But we'll see what happens.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Neither are hard but I’m picky when it comes to both. And i dont even give people a chance to be friends Unlessthe goal is to be friends to work our way into a relationship. Frielationship or gtfo 😭🤣

WhateverMayBeWillBe · Answer

B, C and D.

I make friends so incredibly easy but really really struggle at attracting someone I would want to date, sleep with and be in a relationship with. It's actually really upsetting & frustrating and I have definitely vented about this issue on this site over the years as well as complained ad nauseam with friends & family to the point where I've just stopped & given up.

2Wheels · Answer

This is super weird because I just realized I don't have trouble with any of these, even though most days I think I do.
I just like to get to know people first before I would get into a relationship.
I don't do "getting laid". Committed relationships only for me.

Ευδεμονια · Answer

In general I have problems in doing all these things but making friends is the easiest. I did on this site, and I do in real life.
I’m the other hand, having a date (with all its future and not obvious consequences, like getting laid and having a girlfriend) is the hardest, in my opinion.

Lionman95 · Answer

Though I wouldn't say that I'm good at making friends getting a date, and finding a partner is way more harder than that even if you're not interested in a sexual relationship.

Like there are people that have it easy in such situations and there are people like me that feel finding a good partner that has a mutual interest is equally realistic like winning the lottery.

menina · Answer

Definitely getting a boyfriend. However, I'm not concerned with the fact that I can't get a boyfriend because dating now would be impossible for me. But making friends is easy.

Kabluie · Answer

Friends. You lose the whole social aspect of going to college classes and parties and there would be someone new to meet potentially each day. You didn't always sit next to the same guy or girl in lectures for example. Versus going to work you see the same people. So less social functions over time makes it harder to make friends without doing more work.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Dating is probably harder for me honestly.

making friends and acquaintances is honestly pretty easy for me now a days I’m so easy going, laid back and easy to get along with that it just kinda happens naturally anywhere I go for decent periods of time.

But I’m also very selective about who I become friends with because of people in my past so I don’t trust easily.

LindsayR07 · Answer

Getting laid is easy, just wear a skimpy outfit, stand on the bar, and shout "if y'all get me drunk a couple of you will get lucky tonight!"... You won't have to buy a single drink all night and you'll have at least one playmate before the end of the night... Probably 5 if you want them!

EndGame55 · Answer

I choose E because I don't actually seek any of these things. So I don't know maybe that wasn't the right answer for me. Because if I was trying I'd probably be F. Although I don't have trouble making friends. For some reason girl think negatively about me. I don't know y.

McKellar · Answer

For the most part of things,.. making friends comes easy for me. Minus the bullshit fake friends and the pretentious people I do come across (they're gone out of my life so whatever. To hell with them) Making friends for the most part comes easy for me,... seeking a female mate, unfortunately no where near.

melanieeeB · Answer

I picked relationship but only cause I'm a picky ass person and would never just jump into something and calling it a relationship.  I would rather die alone instead of being with the wrong person.

dolemite89 · Answer

sex isn’t hard to get but actual relationships don’t always work out well for me usually. My work schedule is pretty crazy so even with just hook ups i tend to go for girls that have similar fucked up hours as me like nurses 😂 i’m open to a relationship if the right girl could make things work though.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Making female friends 🥺💔😭. Many of them on this app have blocked me for no reason. One of them is an Indian.

AsaKyo · Answer

Making real, genuine friends is hard Finding a real, genuine relationship can be hard as well  But between the two, I would say friendship is definitely the hardest

Orange85 · Answer

Friends… all guys are looking for sex. Most people don’t wanna connect just have sex. And it’s easy to be like wann hookup? People lining up down the street to Do That

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I’ve never been good at starting relationships, but I used to be a lot better at making friends and going on dates. The last couple of years I’m starting to painfully realize at how awkward I’ve become outside of casual or professional small talk.

MTC29 · Answer

Friends, mostly because I'm not looking for new ones. As for the other, this community is filled with horny fifty-something year old women so that there is no challenge at all.

SkyCastle90 · Answer

Making friends. I can trip and fall into a relationship, but making genuine friends seem so difficult.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Definitely making friends. There is much more involved. I know that sounds weird, huh?

Fuentes · Answer

No issues at all, people wanna be my friend and smashing chick's is easy cause I'm very upfront.

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Making true friends has been the most difficult. I have never really had difficulty with any of the others.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Making friends is harder for me. I’m literally the reason 😂ppl like me and stuff and I always get along with people but I’m not super consistent and I usually let the relationship die.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

Friends. Friends is okay, but I speak of actual real friends, people who will stand by you when in need of help, guidance, support. Those are hard to make.

VanguardTitan · Answer

Making friends is super easy Everything else is impossible

littlepig2002 · Answer

I have trouble with dating, getting laid and getting a girlfriend. Every woman I am with thus far seems to only want something exclusively platonic. Making friends is the easy part since I had peer support services.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

What's hard for me is having too many friends. Like a mom with lots of children. 😪

MemeSupreme · Answer

i think the initial part of dating or making friends is easy, but maintaining them is hard for me.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Getting laid during a relationship. I'm not great at the others either but that's the worse.

OneManOnly01 · Answer

I’m not sure but a lot of people probably think I’m annoying.

SolitarySolace · Answer

All of the above accept for making friends. Making friends is easy. Dating, relationships and sex are impossible

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Find a girl I can really trust to be in a relationship with

Anonymous · Answer

I don't make friends.. I make enemies... I don't dates... I hire them...✌️

MrPickles13 · Answer

I struggle to make friends and despite a long time of looking I still have yet to go on a date or meet a girlfriend.  All of it is really really hard for me.

poneglyphs · Answer

For me I can make friends, I can't get a date, laid or get a girlfriend 🤔 🥺🥺🥺

TroyDT · Answer

Dates are easy. Making friends or having a long term dating relationship both require a lot more for me.

MysticDevice · Answer

Getting a date feels virtually impossible at the moment.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

I guess an LTR is the hardest, but that's only because I want more than one.

MsJackie2001 · Answer

Friend get laid wouldn’t be hard. I mean can get laid on demand especially with apps like tinder. Friends especially true friends is hard to make.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I make friends super easy 😁 . It hard for me to get dates. And if I can't get a date then I'm getting laid either.

MCheetah · Answer

B through D.  Women have no problem with any of these; they just demand perfection too often.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Lately it’s been finding the right person for a relationship

bigpauly · Answer

Getting a date is significantly harder for me than making friends.

Jltakk · Answer

In order of ease Making friends ... ... ... Getting a date ... Getting laid ... ... Getting an actual relationship

sab_sal · Answer

Getting laid is easy but actually dating someone is a bit more difficult

Ezra_lila · Answer

Making friends, You know that kind person attracts more unkind person most likely fake person

petitedollbabee · Answer

Making friends I guess.

Lucy68 · Answer

Getting a date

JaxiCats · Answer

I don’t trust people easily

SkyExplorer · Answer

All of the above 😂😭

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Making friends and getting a date

Light909090 · Answer

The Gym is my girlfriend.

Andres77 · Answer

If it’s meant to be it will just happen

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