Why do I feel like I’m taking his time or space? how do I not feel that way? I always feel like a bother?

[millyneenee]

So my car tire had busted. I had to spend from Thursday night till Sunday night with me boyfriend. I don’t know what is wrong with me but I feel like that is too many days to be with your boyfriend I felt like after the third day he needed a break. I don’t know how not to feel like I am in his space too much and why can't I just feel comfortable and spend as many days with him.

[Black_Ivory]

Communication and trust are the foundation of every relationship. If they do not exist then you might as well not be together.

Communicate with your boyfriend. Share with him your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to address your concerns AND TRUST his response to you. You can always keep an eye on his body Language but I am confident that if you can be vulnerable and share with him how you feel then this will probably make him feel comfortable enough to open up and be vulnerable with you.

You do not need to ask strangers on the internet what to do. Just trust your woman's intuition and always be able to communicate your thoughts and feelings with him. If you cannot do that because you are afraid of him rejecting you or judging you, then you are already in a doomed relationship and you might as well call it quits. Don't just be placeholders for each other until something better comes along because you are afraid of being alone.

You need to find out asap if this relationship is truly leading to something magical and important that you cannot see your life without this person in it, or if this is just a summer fling or place holder for now.

If the guy does not communicate well with you after you open up to him, then maybe he is not worth spending your time with anyway. If you cannot communicate with him directly about everything then he probably is not the one for you after all.

[Smegskull]

Depends on why you feel this way.
Did he give you the impression that he can't stand to be around someone for an extended period of time wirhout a break?
Do you feel guilty because you lived under his roof for a few days and contributed nothing to his home/life?
Did he have other plans that you disturbed?

[millyneenee]

I feel like it’s because I was under his roof for four day. I don’t know if I got in the way of any of his plans. And when I am away he takes hours to reply it’s just weird..

[millyneenee]

I told him about my trust issues I had and how I feel and I think he somewhat took it into consideration

[Smegskull]

If it's the living under his roof thing this actually a good thing (it means you aren't comfortable being a leach). Just do something (s) nice for him as a thank you (don't tell him it's a thank you) untill your conscience is clear.

[Smegskull]

The problem with being uncomfortable with burdening others is if you tell them about it you then feel more uncomfortable because you have now burdened them with knowledge of your discomfort on top of whatever initial burden made you initially uncomfortable.

[hIopinionated_]

I know the feeling gal.


Feeling like such a burden to people in my life is quite annoying. I would like to change that mentality but I’m also a loner so I don’t put forth an effort to make real mental changes. .


I think it could be an insecurity depending on why you feel that way. Think of why you feel like such a bother and address them. Does your boyfriend give you that indication? What’s his body language like? Tone? Is it all in your head? It’s not a very positive thought so it should definitely be addressed with him so you guys could move forward and be happy. Even if you’re spending weeks with him

[melanieeeB]

Well seek a conservation with him and tell him how you felt and he should normally immediately tell you that you're overthinking and that everything is fine.


To the why - Either you're really just overthinking and/or maybe you felt often as a child, as if you were a burden, so you took this with you in your adulthood and act like that with friends too OR unconsciously he is making you feel this way and you're taking in the vibes of him and aka he isn't that much invested in you... I don't know, I'm literally just assuming stuff...

[MoniqueTLC]

Do you have any past experiences either in your childhood or adult life where you were made to feel like you were a nuisance, or in someone's way/space?

You might feel like this if something occurred before which has now made you feel insecure about being in somebody's else's space.

Was your boyfriend welcoming when you had to stay with him? if he wasn't, this would also fuel your anxiety over it and make you feel more conscious about the situation.

[FilmGuy93]

Just gotta work on that sense of self-worth!

[Alex8736]

You always want to prevent overkill but just remember this situation if he ever asked you to live together 🤔

[Staximus]

Your boyfriend doesn't know how to change a tire? What a useless bum

[Anonymous]

Id say its normal to feel that way, so don't think too much into it.