I accidentally cheated on my girlfriend, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I got in a fight as I don’t like her ‘friend’ that is a male. They always spend time together and it makes me feel jealous. I left our house as I wanted some fresh air and drove to our local city for some drinks.

I wasn’t thinking and ended up hooking up with a woman that I met there.

My girlfriend found out when she saw our joint credit card statement, it had the hotel booking on there. I haven’t admitted I cheated but I came back home on that day after hooking up with the girl so she can put it together and guess what I did.

Anyway, what would you guys do in my situation? It was a total accident.

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1 y

Not sure why everyone is saying it wasn’t an accident when it clearly was, I didn’t mean to have sex with the woman.

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1 y

A lot of you are taking her side automatically and victim blaming me.

[OlderAndWiser]

An accident would be that you are walking down the sidewalk, totally naked, and a totally naked girl is approaching you. A sudden gust of wind pushes you toward her and you both fall to the ground with you on top of her. Somehow, your dick ended up in her pussy and because she is so tight, you have a hard time pulling out and you must keep trying many times before you cum, your dick shrinks, and then it falls out. That is an accident.

When you go to a motel room with a girl and you stck your dick in her pussy, you aredoing xexactly what you want to do. That's not an accident.

I suspect that you are just another TROLL! Similar posts appear several times a year in which someone claims to have accidentally cheated. You should be embarrassed for being so unoriginal.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Love this answer ❤️🤣

[God_of_Thunder]

There's no such thing as "accidentally" cheating. You didn't trip, and land on her vagina dick first. That's a bullshit excuse.

You cheated. Period. There are no moral/ethical justifications for it. If you can't control yourself while drinking, then don't fucking drink. You made that decision, and you are responsible for the consequences.

Not only that, but you didn't even tell her. She found out on her own. The only reasonable thing for you to do is break up with her, so she can find someone that's not a piece of shit, because she deserves better than you.

[Asker]

Chill - it’s not a big deal. I just told her she’s overreacting and we will try to work past it. It was a small accident.

[God_of_Thunder]

It IS a big deal, and the fact that you don't think so disgusts me.

You got jealous of her male friend, and yet you think it's not a big deal that you cheated on her?

You are a hypocrite, and a cheater. You are repulsive.

[Asker]

You call it cheating, I call it an accident.

[God_of_Thunder]

Then you're a liar, and an idiot.

[BlueScorpio]

You can't "accidentally" cheat my guy. That's a conscience decision you made out of jealousy. There's really nothing you can do, you can try to explain why you did it but it's really up to her and how she handles it. I think what you should of did was have sit down with her and express how her always hanging out with her male friend is making you feel jealousy/insecure before all this went down. I don't know if you feel like the guy friend was too much in the way and nothings going to change, then you can choose to end the relationship.

[EmmaMary]

"Accidentally" my fucking a**.

[Asker]

It was an honest accident, there was drinking involved and a beautiful woman who was at least a 9/10. I didn’t mean what we did.

[musicbrain5]

Right? “Accidentally” 😂

[EmmaMary]

Ref. Updates.

You are now seriously taking the p***... For fuck's sake just Grow Up and accept your cheating habits.

Hopefully by now she will be your Ex Girlfriend.

[Asker]

Ok I’m sorry

[EmmaMary]

You do realise that it's not us you need to say sorry to.

[Asker]

I’m sorry I understand that I am in the wrong now. I’ll tell her the truth when she’s back from work.

[EmmaMary]

Good Luck.

[Asker]

She has kicked me out of my own apartment and broke up with me. Great.

[EmmaMary]

Well truthfully speaking I'm not in the least bit surprised... I would have done precisely the same thing myself.

Hopefully let this be a lesson learnt.

[Asker]

How do I get her to forgive me

[EmmaMary]

That's really for you to figure out.

[Asker]

I tried and she won’t take me back and has literally told everyone we know about what I did

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

"A lot of you are taking her side automatically and victim blaming me."...

Wait, are you claiming to be the 'victim" here? ...

You're the one that chose to cheat and then think you can excuse it by calling it an accident..

So if your girl was hooking up with her male friend you're jealous of, could she claim it was an accident and then you'd be okay with it? ...

Cheating is cheating, whatever the reason (excuse) and is a bad decision but definitely no accident...

[TheorionMage]

It wasn't an 'accident'... it was egotistical "I deserve to hook-up too" to soothe your fragile self-image of attractiveness and allure.

It WASN'T an 'accident', You weren't 'date raped' or even 'seduced'; you WENT actively LOOKING FOR IT!
At ANY POINT, you COULD HAVE halted this 'side piece' trist. You DIDN'T.

OWN UP to your wayward behavior and ASK HER straight-up... if SHE feels your relationship can move beyond YOUR immature 'indiscretion'.

NOBODY WANTS to perpetually atone for their past.

[420Rachel]

My guy... This was no accident. You trying to say you slipped and fell into her vagina or some shit? 😭🤣 Get outta here with that. Use your brain, which is exactly what you did when you made the DECISION to hook up with this girl. You cheated, you made a CHOICE. End of story.

[yucychan]

BS. You cheated, there's no accident.

The other woman didn't force you at gunpoint/knifepoint to bang her, you did so out of your own free will. So, cut the crap and just admit it.

Let your girlfriend dump your sorry ass so she could find a better guy than you.

[yucychan]

It's so bizarre that the asker is still insisting that it was an accident he cheated and is wondering why everyone is victim-blaming him. Probably, a troll.

Anyway, how was it an accident? Did the other woman trip and fell on you and it so happens, your fly was opened with your dick hanging out, and she landed on your dick?
You are an asshole, you cheated and that's all there is to it. The more you try to defend yourself just makes you even more of a moron and a bigger asshole.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Was going out for some alcoholic drinks an accident?
Was driving to the hotel an accident?
Was going inside the horel an accident?
Was going to the front desk and paying for a room an accident?
Was going into the room with the other woman an accident?
Was having sexual relations with the other woman an accident?

All five questions have the same answer. 🤔💭💡 The answer is no. Everything you did was on purpose.

In a response to what NottyNatty said you reied by saying "I was drinking and she was at a minimum a 9/10 bro. I had to". That proves you knew what you were doing but still want to claim qhat you did was an accident.

Your girlfriend should leave you for the bettermeant of herself.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Accident - an undesirable or unfortunate happening that occurs unintentionally and usually results in harm, injury, damage, or loss; casualty; mishap
Consensual - formed or existing merely by consent.
Consent - to permit, approve, or agree; comply or yield (often followed by to or an infinitive)
If you're driving and stop at a four way intersection an continue forward you will be on Cheater Rd., you go left you will be on Cheater Rd, you go right you will be on Cheater Rd and if you turn around you will still be on Cheater Rd which you're already on. If you go off roading it just means you are trying to avoid the problem you purposely caused.

[Snsl153]

'Accidentally cheated'. Oh sure, and you 'accidentally' had fun with her, 'accidentally' had sex, 'accidentally' got drunk too (probably). You're a very funny boy! :D

[888theGreat]

he should put his pp on a leash

[hrxy_ishere]

Cheating is nothing you can do that wasen't on purpose. This is the most stupid question I've seen! "I accidentelly cheated on my girlfriend." Shut up. Hope that girls leaves your nasty butt and finds someone who is way better then you. She deserves better.

Remember, cheating is not an accident, it's what you do on purpose. You cannot even by accident hook up with another women. Absolutly nasty.

I don't understand why cheating is even an option.

I wish the best for that girl!

[Melinara]

From the girl's perspective, you seem overprotective, jealous and impulsive. If you don't admit what you did, you'll end up adding even more negative traits in the list. Tell her the truth. Tell her you couldn't control yourself cuz you felt vulnerable. If she really loves you, she'll appreciate your honesty. But be prepared that at first she'll be very mad and will need her space. And also don't forget to reassure her that this will not happen again...

[Danielle93]

So every single time you have an argument with any girlfriend, your solution is going to clubs or bars for a couple of drinks and a hook-up?

If that's the case either don't be in a relationship or find someone that's into open relationships, that you won't have arguments. Lastly nope, it's not an accident to go to a place where you know you're going to get drunk and do the deed. You still chose to put yourself in that situation and cheat. Not an accident.

[888theGreat]

it was revenge sex

[drakethibault1]

I might not be a lot of help, but DUDE just forget her, that's it, you spilled the milk. I mean even if you get back well together, she s not going to forgive you and think about being even with you. But according to your story you shoudve ended that relationship a while ago

[TonyV]

You don't " accidently" cheat.

You can't fix this, you let your insecurity and jealousy, which you can't blame on her... take over.

You should break up with her, it's cowardly to make her dump you, you fucked up, did the worst thing possible, and you don't deserve her anymore.

Your fucking trash, break up, and stay single till you get your ridiculous jealousy under control.

[MaKa_newbie]

You can't say it was an accident. You can't cheat on "accident". It is NOT just one silly mistake! To cheat on someone takes a lot of continues mistakes that you CHOSE to do! You talk to them, buy them drinks, invite them over, take your clothes off, take their clothes off, kiss, have sex... IT IS NOT ONE MISTAKE!!! Don't try to justify yourself. You screwed up and you have to admit it to yourself first. So yes, ofc everyone will take her side...

[MaKa_newbie]

You had a lot of chances that night to say NO, but you didn't. So, don't play a victim

[exitseven]

Yes, I have had that accident too. I accidently tripped and fell on top of a woman and my dick just happened to go into her. Total accident. I could have happened to anyone.

[musicbrain5]

Accident? Did you trip and your dick slipped inside her vagina? You knew what you were doing, either be honest with your girlfriend since she’s already suspecting it, or dump her before she dumps you.

[Asker]

We were drinking and I wasn’t steady on my legs, it was a total accident that I didn’t mean to do.

[musicbrain5]

Come on man, you weren’t unconscious. Your inhibitions were lowered but you were still aware of what you were doing. Be honest with yourself first. I’ve been reading your comments. The girl didn’t roofie you and then rape you

You can tell your girlfriend it was an “accident” and see how well that wording goes over.

[KatherineJ]

Congratulations Blue Anonymous! This is one of the dumbest questions I’ve ever read! You do not “accidentally” cheat! You do not “accidentally” have sex. Personally, I hope she leaves your pathetic ***! And I hope she lets everyone know what you did to all of your friends, and any female you ever meet in your life.

[CallmeTheKnight]

You're both sabotaged the relationship. You're an idiot if you believe you cheated on accident. You been wanting to do that.
Although that male friend of hers may have been there before you, there is no reason she should be spending so much time with him.
The both of you got a joint bank account and you paid for the hotel room with that account
... idiot. You're an idiot

[Light909090]

An accident yeah cause sticking your dick in a Girl is a total accident it’s just like Falling down the stairs because you didn’t pay attention when going down the stairs.
Tell your girlfriend I’m
Sure she will understand how Getting down and dirty is a complete accident because people are so Forgiving look at church for example People at church won’t judge you they will support Your Atheism.

[FilmGuy93]

I wouldn't presume that she thinks you cheated. Honestly, unless she accuses you of something, you're better off just sweeping that under the rug and making sure to never do it again.

I think your first step here is to acknowledge to yourself that the reason you suspected she and her friend of cheating is because... well... you ARE the kind of person who cheats. Identify why that is, do whatever self work you need to do to resolve it.

[FilmGuy93]

In response to your update: People are saying it wasn't an accident because you intentionally put yourself in a situation where the cheating was more likely to "just happen."

[Andrew2128]

How do you accidentally cheat on your girlfriend anyways? I had a girlfriend once 12 years ago and I cheated on her quite regularly it wasn't by accident I know what I was doing just like any other man knows what he's doing when he's cheating on his girlfriend

[TheoPfeifle]

How do you accidentally cheat? Did you trip and fall with your genitalia out and accidentally slip inside a woman laying with her genitalia out? Pretty ridiculous idea, isn't it?

Simple... You made a choice... And it was wrong. Confess... Get dumped... Move on.

Accidentally cheated... You're an idiot.

[TheoPfeifle]

After reading responses... Aside from the chickenshits who answered anonymously, agreeing with you (anonymously should tell you they know they're wrong, too), it's pretty unanimous that you're in the wrong and it's no accident. Cheating is a choice, dude... Unless you were raped or you literally fell with your dick out into a woman with her vag out (pretty fucking unlikely), you chose to cheat. In one of your responses, you even said it was consensual... How is consent not a choice you made, idiot? It's disgusting enough that you have jealousy issues... More so that you chose to cheat... But it's absolutely abhorrent that you choose to lie to everyone (including yourself) by saying it was an accident. You really have issues with accepting responsibility for your own feelings, reactions, and CHOICES, don't you... I'm willing to bet this is a pattern. "Life sucks because (some external thing triggered feelings YOU CHOOSE to react adversely to)... (That stimulus) made me do it!" Really, dude... Let her find someone else who is actually worthy of her time... Because, frankly, you're not.

[TheoPfeifle]

After you were updates, it's very clear that you are either too stupid to understand the difference between a mistake and an accident...

Mistake: noun- an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong.

Accident: noun- an event that happens by chance or that is without apparent or deliberate cause or choice.

You deliberately chose to drink. You deliberately chose to hook up. You deliberately chose to pay for a room. You deliberately chose to sleep with her.

Next definition... Victim...

Victim: noun- a person who is tricked or duped.

You're not a victim... You're the trickster.

You are either very stupid, very narcissistic, or a troll.

[TheoPfeifle]

After your updates... Stupid talk to text.