I cheated on my girlfriend, now what?

[Anonymous]

I've been losing interest in my relationship for a while and I told her but she wanted to keep trying to I felt guilty and said ok.

But hey, I guess I'm selfish and a girl approached me at a party and after some drinking I ended up having sex with her.

I haven't told my girlfriend yet. What do I do?

Tell her, apologize and break up with her.

Tell her, apologize and ask for forgiveness.

Don't tell her, but just break up.

Don't tell her and act like nothing happened.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I choose option D. I mean if you can hide it and you won't have some side chick manipulating the situation... then you'll deal with more bullshit than ever just because you want to be honest. Of course, if you're ready to leave, then leave... just leave... otherwise you'll be playing hide'n'seek about things unless something changes in your relationship.

But to be real... if your girl isn't really doing shit to change in order to make the relationship better, your loss of interest is just going to get worse with time.

[Asker]

Thanks man. Yeah, I've often found that with this relationship. Doing the "right" thing has always ended up making her more mad than she would've been otherwise, so I'm at a loss. Maybe I can just tell her that she's better off without me without giving any details and just break up.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I've had a lot of relationships, and I've done a lot of cheating. Doing the "right" thing has always just equaled the drama stuff. Even when I was just revenge cheating and it was justified... like literally after being told by her, herself, that it was okay and she deserved it. Best to just avoid a chick's drama in my opinion.

As far as the relationship goes, if you're already unhappy and the effort is basically a one-way street... Well, if it hasn't begun to change yet, it's not going to. Good luck, and I hope you just find the path of least resistance.

[RobT312]

Hey man experienced exactly the same.
only I was caught, I apologized and tried to work it out.
if I could do it all over again I would have broken up before cheating.
if it’s not the right relationship, just break up and no need to tell her

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing man. Yeah, I wish I'd done that now too. I'm thinking that's the best thing, not give details, just end it. Easiest for both of us even if it's not the most honest.

[RobT312]

It ended up working out for me and I moved on... I’m sure the same will happen for you, it always does!

[RobT312]

Thanks for the mho and hope everything goes well

[EmbraceThePain]

The one thing you should 100% do is to immediately tell her everything. Be fully honest and then let things happen from there, but personally speaking I think after you are fully honest about everything you did, you should let her move on with someone that will not cheat on her. If she stays with you, it could be because her low-self esteem, past abuse issues, etc. Women stay with men that are not good for them, as history has shown. So, be the one to leave her because she needs better.

[Asker]

Thanks. Yeah, I kinda expect she this would be the final straw for her, she probably wouldn't come back after this. I know in the past when I've done more minor things (not show enough affection etc), she's asked to have a break and then come back later.

[kinggeorge007]

Telling her will only make her hate you and all the men out there and will make a huge mental impact on her. Don't do that. She doesn't have to suffer for your faults.

Just talk to her and break up with her. Don't tell anything about the cheating.

[Asker]

Thanks man.

[Anonymous]

If you are not happy in your relationship than is best if you ended. Don’t tell her what you did, that can really fuck her her emotional state, confidence and trust to people. So if you fee miserable, don’t make her future miserable by taking her time and youth. Just let her go, eventually she will find someone that deserves her more than you do because let’s face it…you fucked up!

[Asker]

Damn thanks, this is an interesting one. Because a lot of people would say I should own up to her and tell the truth, but then like you said, the truth could end up hurting her more..

I know I fucked up big time, I'll have to live with it now. Not too sure what to think.

[sheikalana]

You should tell her and apologize but we cannot say if you should break up with her or not. If you feel like you don't have anymore feelings for her than breaking up should be the best option instead of hurting her. But if you still have feelings you should talk to her about it maybe she will forgive you maybe she won't.

[spartan55]

Own your shit dude. Tell her apologize and break up. Trust me on it's the best way.

[ChrisMaster69]

Just tell her and break up.

There is zero point in continuing the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Well if you’ve been losing interest but she won’t let you go then this is your way out. Just be upfront with her and break it off.

[clampfan101]

B, but don’t expect any forgiveness you ask for as you don’t deserve it.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It would do her no good to know you've cheated on her again. Just end it.. You're no good for her!

[Twalli]

You still may want to break up with her, but you should tell her and ask for forgiveness, even if you do break up at least she's forgiven you.

[1GoldTwins]

A is the only choice you have.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

Just tell her and break up

[jahaims]

Now you can realize you are a trash human

[Asker]

I'm surprised it took this long for someone to comment a hostile response.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her it's over.

[Kereology]

Either A or D.

[mrlongdongsiilver]

if u do not