I was in the same situation, and am honestly still working through it. I ended up going to therapy, which helped a lot. I’ve learned that I had to force myself to open up. I used to either be so closed off to the point I wouldn’t make eye contact OR I would over share to the point I made people uncomfortable. I had to find balance and not go to one extreme.
In my past, I chose absolutely toxic relationships: one’s that were obvious (bullying, cliquey, negative intention, etc.) and ones that weren’t (fun but never aligned with the path I wanted to take in life). I isolated myself for 4 years. I finally learned to put myself out there, no matter what my anxiety/depression told me.
You don’t have to be super confident or know yourself completely. No one knows who they are completely or has full self confidence. I promise there are people out there looking for you, & they are waiting just right around the corner to say “WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?” It’s not just luck I promise :)
Did you have family trouble growing up?
I have no close friends other then family & don’t feel it’s necessary to have them. I gad many people I thought were friends in Highschool and college. Most of the people I thought were friends turned out to be the opposite so I cut them off entirely. Friends come and go if you’re able to find true friends all the power to you. Otherwise I wouldn’t feel bad about it.
That's cause there's no such thing as "just friends"
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u You have to get out there like at a college make yourself available talk to people
in time you will
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