Is this considered abusive?

[Anonymous]

If you’re in a relationship with someone who doesn’t physically abuse you and actually does respect you, but you aren’t happy and you tell them you want to leave…if they guilt you into staying by reminding you of everything they have done for you and telling you you’ll regret leaving them and them telling you “I won’t stop fighting for you and us” even after you’ve made it clear that you don’t want to be fought for you and you have no desire to make the relationship work… is that considered to be abusive on their part?

[Thepumpkinhead]

He's guilt-tripping you to stay. It's gonna weigh you down a bit, if you keep looking back just like what he said. I think you really wanna break up with him. So just do it. Doesn't matter if he did great things with you, it's his duty as a boyfriend. You should break up before you accumulate even more years together and waste more time

[OlderThanILook]

in my opinion no because there's nothing stopping you from just leaving. I have no problem leaving someone that says that. To me, they're just bringing up their argument for why I should stay in the relationship, and it's not a very good one.

[spartan55]

What is with women just refusing to breakup and trying to force the guy to do it. So stupid.

[Asker]

Maybe because when we do it, we never hear the end of it. Even years later, he’s still gonna tell the sad sap story of the woman who broke his heart 🙄 men are so fucking dramatic when they get rejected or dumped.

[Asker]

Also, blocking you because your responses are always so negative and I always roll my eyes when I see that 50 year old “Spartan55” has shared yet another one of his asshole opinions.

[spartan55]

Oh no, how can go on?

[spartan55]

So what if he gripes about you breaking up with him? You think anyone gives af? Why would you care wtf he thinks after you broke up? If he is not being a good partner, and you break up with him that DOES NOT reflect negatively on you. Your excuse holds no logic. There's an asshole opinion for ya... pink anon (what a surprise!)