If a married couple lives under the same roof, why one of them post this on social media?

[kitty71]

If you read this on someone social media account, Could you say it is a way to say, he is having relationship problems? But the person do not say it directly he has issues with his partner but he posts similar messages like that on social media often.

The message says: "Sometimes you are not in love with the person, but with the proyect you imagine to have with that person and it turns out that today that person do not fit in that proyect"

Would that phrase makes you believe the guy is having issues with his lady? The husband of my cousin post today that on his FB account but as far as I know they are not separated or divorced, in fact like one month and fifteen days ago, they both had a family get together at a cafeteria to celebrate my cousins birthday and they both were there as husband and wife, but today the husband posted that on his FB account. I mean if you live under the same roof with your wife, why he posts that? My cousin used to have social media one year ago but she remove her account like 6 months ago. On the contrary the husband does have but he posted that today.

[AviatorTom]

I'm not sure why he would pot that on social media, where others can see it and try to figure out what it means, but then, in today's world, lots of people do that. It looks to me that he is doubting why he is in his marriage... he's unsure if he wants to continue it but hasn't made a decision yet.

[pizzalovershouse]

Sounds like he his expectations are to high no liv in a world is just the way you want so if he is mad a his wife buy a sex bot that will clean hiusecan do as he says

[pizzalovershouse]

Mho thanks

[spartan55]

Sounds like none of your business.

[kitty71]

Im just asking for an opinion that is all

[spartan55]

That is my opinion. It looks as if he is drawing attention to some problems, but who knows? It could have all gone away by now. If you are wanting to know why don't you call your cousin and ask her? Ahhhh, but you won't because then you will known as a Busybody.

[Guy13]

I’m looking to get out…

[Guy13]

She is not what I thought. Nor is she malleable. She is NOT what I thought I was getting. How long married ⁉️

[kitty71]

this year it will be their 3r anniversary

[Guy13]

Yep. 2-3 and 7-8 years seem to be Evaluating Period. Have you found that to be the case too?

[kitty71]

I dont know I do know for what i heard the evaluation period is like 2 years or 3 after married

[Guy13]

How is she, crushed?

[kitty71]

I dont know im giving my conclusion based on what her husband is posting on social media that makes me think they are having issues and why in earth a husband post that kind of messages on social media.

[Guy13]

That is an immature individual. It’s almost the reaction of someone who “lost”…didn’t get his way and simply wants to inflict pain on another. It is damn cruel. Recovering from that is maybe a 7 year marker. “It could be over at any moment is how I would feel.” No trust

[kitty71]

It seems to me my cousin was not what he expected the person he thought. They were dating like 6 years though before getting married

[Guy13]

Oh, this is the 8 year Thing. His Mom must not have told him it all changes when married. Heard that all my life 🤷🏻‍♂️

[kitty71]

My cousin husband and my cousin were very christian when they were dating and when they got marrid 3 years ago. But he changed jobs and that is where he started to change

[Guy13]

Kind of Job?

[kitty71]

He worked for the public sector and had a lets say stable job 9-4 schedule, and lets say a good pay, but he got tired of that during the pandemic and decided to go on his own. My cousin do work in a company with an schedule and a normal pay not so much but ok as she does nto ahve kids yet. But the husband and her decided to risk and he left his job and decide to hgo on his own. Car, upholstry cleaning services.. My cousin never left her job though, but she helped the husband on the new one. But then his husband wants to become weatlhy in so short time that he kept posting memes and memes on his social accoutn about envy jeaolusy and messages abotu successful people and very shallow stuff. He is aiming high for sure but you dont know if that job will succeed or not.

[Guy13]

Wow… he doesn’t know which way is up. Life has not worked out as planned. Women can get frustrated. Men can feel like they are inadequate in the eyes of Wifey. Who knows what’s going on here 🤷🏻‍♂️

[kitty71]

I mean. My cousin husband, had had several jobs in the past most of them were desk jobs but he got always paid, I dont know how much though but it was a steady job. Then maybe he did not want to be working anynore for someoen and be his own boss so he quit his last job during hte pandemic and strted his own, taht quickly cleaning services for cars, rugs, etc, At the beginning the business was not bad, his wife helped promote the job. But like for the past months this year, the gy is aiming super high, m posting memes on success that he will have enverythign he wants soo if he works hard, and that when he will work hard he will have money etce Like someone has to take him from a cloud so he can set foot on the ground. I mean his actual job could work sure and he can be successful but that takes time, patient, good management, etc I have the idea he wants things fast. ANd besides working on your own you have to work even harder

[Guy13]

That never works. I actually started planning my life at 15 after a decade of playing Monopoly. It’s taken a decade to get my Business strong. And from decade of Excellence (good Numbers) other opportunities opened up. Frighteningly, in a contracting Economy, those desk jobs are a treasure while Service industry gets crushed. We are in a recession if you have not notice. I know Numbers and we definitely are in one 🤷🏻‍♂️

[kitty71]

Indeed the desk jobs are hard to get rid of

[Jennz6]

Good question but I am not married