Men do you want to carry the entire family on your back financially? (Page 2)
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Some people are not cut out to be parents. It’s hard to know that until they actually arrive. Working allows much needed space that can allow them to still be a parent and keep their sanity.
I would say no. That's an easy fix, though just dont have a family. Most men that generated their wealth generate it by themselves anyway a family just takes up time and resources. Women need a family and the security it provides which is Why the question is asked from a female perspective.
I don’t necessarily want to, but I know I will probably have to.
Thank you for being honest
I feel like it's becoming irrelevant, do whatever it is you want to do in life, children for me will always be optional, so long as my wife and I are happy, there's no need to think about things that are expensive, tiring and leech what little free time we have to ourselves, so to answer your question, I don't.
In this day and age I don't know.. I guess it depends on where I live and what my ultimate salary will be.. And yes I do want a partner and Mayne one day be able to support them.
Not the way that the divorce/family courts favour wife/mothers to the exclusion of the husband/fathers, there are a lot of men who have looked at current situation and decided that they are in no way going to put their physical and mental health at risk by getting married. They feel and not without cause that staying single would be better for their physical and mental health,
I don't mind it, it would be nice to have a break occasionally. My wife has rheumatoid arthritis so the only income is mine. There are times I wish there was another income so I could take a little bit of a breather
Well if it is nuclear family it would just be my wife and me. Considering the disparity in income, provided I get the job I am about to take a certification test for, I will be the primary breadwinner by a large margin. Since we won't have kids unless we adopt, I don't think large financial inequity will be an issue if we choose to adopt.
do you realize adoption centers are very selective on who they give vulnerable children to? one of the requirements is that the couple must be very financially stable. Because they know that if the couple ever gets into financial trouble, its very likely that the adopted child will be the first to suffer. Because after all, the kid is not actually your kid.
@Haha456 so, we'd be financially stable before being allowed to adopt, if we ever choose that route.
I think every man who truly wants a family would prefer this if he can swing it financially. It's obviously the best thing for the children, by far. I also think there are a lot of women who want the same thing, but can't do it for financial reasons, and they regret it. I don't earn enough yet for that to be realistic but I sure plan to.
I did this for 11 years when my kids were little. It was challenging at times but it was worth not having my kids raised by strangers.
Its not possible to live that way unless you are part of the massive earners of society
Hell no, it's both the parents job to support the family, and if you're poor, then child adds in at legal work age of 16, to teach them how to pay bills & utilities, along with learning to budget.
Sure, why not? 90% of the costs associated with raising kids is daycare; if you have a stay at home wife you don't need to pay for that. Making kids much more affordable. I think that I could support a wife and kids without it causing me too much more financial stress.
That's simply just isn't possible for most men assuming you he desires to live in accordance with 21th century living standards especially in modern economic hardship.
As for your update:
If a person actually takes the time to breakdown all expenses within a year to maintain a family of 4 just to live a decent lifestyle, not counting, car maintenance, gasoline, insurance, retirement fund, vacations etc and assuming this man doesn't lose his job or gets seriously sick and can't work for a extended period of time.
You are easily looking at about $35,000 conservatively assuming you are living in a cheap U. S. state and area too.
The mortgage alone will be about between $20,000 to $25,000 a year which is around $2,000 a month.
People seem to have no idea how bills quickly pile up especially if you are caring for a minimum of 3 other people's needs and desires.
Yes, and yes. That lifestyle isn't as expensive as many think. It's more about how you use your money that is important.
It's hard to have a family on one salary these days. And it leaves a single point of failure in the event of a serious recession or, heaven forbid, disability.
I could do it no problem... but I would rather not, it's not ideal
I currently do this and it works out well for us. My wife and mother in law take care of the kids and the house is spotless. We have four children and my mother in law lives with us too and does not work.
My children are the most important things in my life. I trusted my wife to rear my most treasured things. How could I resent that?
re, your update/ You make enough if you're willing to sacrifice.
If marital / divorce laws were equitable, yes. Under current laws I'd have to be terminally ill to even consider marriage, and that only so I could pass on my assets to my best friend without her having to pay inheritance taxes.