Do people think should choose the person they love or choose the person who loves them?

[OnThursday]

[DaveJord]

So I think it all evens out over time, when I was younger I always chased after the ones that I loved. This because as a young person you have nothing but time to sort those things out... determine what you really are looking for and want out of a person and hope you find it. But you can only figure those things out through trail and error. And through that process you hope to find true love.

As you get older you tend to have a better idea of what you really want and you are less likely to chase after people who are really not giving you what you want. But you have learned this through out a life time of trying to get the one you love and it then figured out that the one you love may not be the one you need or even want. So then you start to focus on the ones that are giving you the attention you really want, because in the end those are the ones that more likely to make you happy.

Some people consider this settling, and I guess maybe on some level it is but its really not. Sure the one that loves you may not be a super model, but they are more into your emotional needs and wants and more likely to give you that emotional fulfillment. verses the one that you think is the ideal person but they make you work way more then you should for their attention and they never seem to put themselves on a level with you in which you can truly progress with them. So if you go with the one who loves you vs the one you love... is it really settling? The The answer for me is no, because I will love the one that loves me more and will be twice as happy about it.

[ohsheeT]

It has to be a mutual thing you have to be able to feel each other from thousands of miles away you have to know who they are on the inside if they have a beautiful heart if they're confident if they're happy if they're smart you have to make sure exactly who they are on the inside because that's who you fall in love with the outside is all just an extra bonus

[Shiface92]

The person you love will cause you anxiety and most likely won’t really accept you as you are you’d be stressed out always trying to impress the person while they try to mold you into something they’d like, you lose your own identity in the process Someone you love = too much effort

while someone who loves you loves you as you are and won’t try to change you. Someone who loves you= little to no effort and you get to be you

[Tina19]

I would always choose someone that i love as i once choose the guy who was madly in love with me but even after i tried i couldn't feel the same intense love for him and i was only able to like him and then i started to feel the relationship to be a burden and ended it

[Pinay_ako]

I choose the one who owns my heart.

[RomaTaker]

Neither, you should choose the person you love and who loves you , cuz if you choose the person you love you will always feel insecure and will overthink about if they will ever loves you or not and if you choose the person who loves you , you may wronged this person with you if you never fall in love with them and you will feel guilty about it

[Emiliamazing]

The love must go both ways, and be of similar definition by each individual. We are all capable of loving and of being loved. When you have decided you love someone, it should be a hope/aspiration of yours to prove yourself worthy of their love. Obviously they did that for you.

[Pot8o]

Very good question. I want someone I love. I mean, ideally I want both, a reciprocal relationship. But I don't think it's fair on someone you don't love to be in a relationship with them. And you're missing out too.

[Stay-hungry]

always Choose someone who loves you , it’s just better and safer

if you’re the one who loves it’s gonna turn out one sided and you might end up hurting yourself

[DoctorSex]

Women should choose the man they love

Men should choose the woman who loves them.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Lliam]

It has to be both or a marriage won't work.

[midnightmoon05]

Both who love and respect each other enough to work through good and bad times together.

[mohammed93alaa]

Its not the correct question..

Because love is related to time , its a changeable feeling..

You should choose the one who is ready to accept you and your terms of living !

[NathanDavis]

if is not mutual... then I don't want any of it

[Anonymous]

I will choose the person who loves me, because I know that I will fall in love with that person as time goes by..

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats the same person. Why love a person that doesn't love you back?

[maximumpower]

Both.
It can't be one-sided - BELIEVE me.
AND - if you found you've been duped, ditch her/him immediately.
It won't get better.

[Jamie05rhs]

Whether I love someone or not, it makes no difference. I can't make them love me.

[Shamalien]

Choose the person they love who loved them back just as much.

[Anonymous]

I have to feel attraction for anything to happen.

[Aiming]

You Go for what you want.

[misfittoy]

both

[LazerBean]

Both.

[Iron_Man]

I think both

[Anonymous]

Yes.