There is this woman I was in love with. I had confessed my feelings, we hanged out for some months but she always refused to advance physically without giving me a precise reason. She only had told me that she "didn't want to hurt me".
Months later, she finally told me that during all those months we her hanging out she was in a very problematic relationship with a guy (since long before I met her) but she decided to stay with him. She also told me that she is firmly monogamous anyways and when she is in a relationship with a guy she doesn't want to offend his confidence. That made me admire her a lot and made me think "oh, yeah! I 'd like to be in a relationship with a woman who respects her partner".
However, I later found out that while the whole period we were dating and her refusing to advance with me, she was hooking up with several other guys who treated her like an one-night-stand and that all that "monogamy" thing was pure shit.
Don't misunderstand me: I know I have no right to claim her body, but I feel very offended by this, because I was giving my whole soul for her and at the same time she didn't respect my feelings, my time, my efforts. I would prefer her to tell me "I don't like you, you are not my type", than giving me hopes and doing all that behind my back.
I was able to handle the fact that she was in a relationship. It was hard at the beggining and I struggled to move on but I respected that. But the other thing, hell no! I was thinking "why did you have sex with those guys if you could have sex with me?" or "if you are not in a monogamous period, why did you hide it from me? At least we could have enjoyed it together, too".
