If you and your girlfriend/boyfriend got into a fight and they told you that you’re not what they were looking for, would you stay with them?

[Anonymous]

Along with telling you that you’ve done little to nothing worth caring about…

Would you stay with them and continue to try to work things out or would you feel like they didn’t mean what they said?

My boyfriend and I got into an argument last night and this morning I tried communicating to him that he made me feel unappreciated. And he flipped it all on me and told me that he wonders what a good girlfriend is… and that I’ve done little to nothing he’s ever cared about… and then followed it up with saying that he was hoping to find someone “real” amongst other things. Mind you, I have done so much for him. I have literally been there for him anytime he’s ever needed me, I’ve been a best friend to him literally. I’ve done so much just for him to spit in my face and tell me that little to nothing I’ve ever done was worth caring out.

What would you do if your significant other said those hurtful things but then when you broke up with them, they told you they didn’t mean anything they said? Would you stay with them if you felt like they truly didn’t mean it? Or would you leave because you felt like they truly did mean it? How would this make you feel if your significant other said these things to you?

[Guy13]

I would part company and stay far away. Block etc. when you see one another be friendly and engaging. Go on about life…

[Asker]

I feel so stuck on what to do. He says he wants to marry me. If that’s the case, then there’s no way he meant what he said when he said I wasn’t what he was looking for…,

[Guy13]

It seems he wants to string yiu along and always have some place or person to fall back on. Until you say, ENOUGH ⁉️

[Asker]

But how would he be stringing me along if he’s saying he’ll even marry me?

[Guy13]

When he gets you a 💍 then he means it.

[onepeaceoflove]

Probably shouldn't but I know it's hard to leave someone you love. But, you need to listen to what people say im anger because they probably mean it

[Asker]

The thing is… he’s apologizing and even saying he wants to marry me.

[onepeaceoflove]

Even so, do you really want to be with someone who says things like that carelessly when he's upset?

[Asker]

So it’s actually been two months since this happened and everyday he’s been trying to get me back saying he didn’t mean what he said and that he was taking me for granted the whole time. He says he would do anything to get back with me and to make me believe that I am the one he is looking for. He says he even thought about proposing to me. ALSO, a crucial side note that is important to know… he has been learning and growing to become a better person and not say things like that when he’s mad anymore. So knowing all of that, how would you go about it?

[LazerBean]

Of course not. There is 0 point in staying with someone who is using you as a placeholder.

[Asker]

But what if he’s saying he wants to marry me?

[LazerBean]

Of he said that then he's either a liar or someone who says hurtful things that they don't mean when they get upset, and staying with a person like that would be stupid.

[Asker]

Why?

[Asker]

Don’t we all say mean things in the heat of the moment?

[LazerBean]

To the person you supposedly want to marry? No, only idiots who are too immature to be in any sort of real relationship do that.

[Sixgunsound]

Asker, @LazerBean is over 100% correct.

[Sixgunsound]

If you’re not what they’re looking for, what further reason is there for you to know each other?

[Asker]

So it’s actually been two months since this happened and everyday he’s been trying to get me back saying he didn’t mean what he said and that he was taking me for granted the whole time. He says he would do anything to get back with me and to make me believe that I am the one he is looking for. He says he even thought about proposing to me.

[Sixgunsound]

Don’t take him back. He doesn’t sound very mentally stable or emotionally mature, and he was also being honest about taking you for granted. Someone who takes you for granted is just looking to slip back into the rhythm of you’ll always be there you’ll always put up with his crap you’ll always pick up his socks etc. and he needs to contribute nothing to the arrangement to keep you coming back. I would take him out as word and take the heartbreak as tuition in the school of life.

[endoftheline]

No, that means I should leave.