Meeting a man I have been talking to for the first time... but im fat?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking too a man for the past several years and a long distance relationship kinda formed but then life got in the way and we both went our separate ways for about 6 months. I am now about to fly to see him for a few days face to face. here's my issue... i feel extremely fat and have zero confidence because i have never been this big. Im 5"3 and 149. Im so afraid he will take one look at me and just die. I gained weight after a hysterectomy i had and I've never sent him pictures since except for my face. I want to cancel my trip but actually i have blown him off over this subject in the past which is why we went our separate ways. He thinks i dont care about him and i really do!! i just didn't want him to see me so freaking fat. What should i do?

[Anonymous]

find clothes that work best for you :) trust me, it makes you feel more confident. it helped me a lot when i found this out. for instance, wearing dark colored clothes, especially black, wearing clothes of chiffon material, being stylish and accesorizing. wearing a cute top and a sexy cover up. flattering coats (if u live in cold weather), like high low cuts, etc. these are the things that work for me personally, so its just my suggestions. good luck! and think about your other good qualities. being kind, funny, smart will make you feel more confident. i can relate to you, I've literally avoided going on dates with guys because of something similar (not exactly the same, but i still get it). I don't know if this helped, but wish you the best..

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him the truth. If he really likes you he won’t care.

[Anonymous]

you got two options 1. you lose the weight and the fat 2. show him a picture of your whole body before you spend thousands on a plane ticket hotel car rental food etc.
If he does love you then he won't care about your body and what it looks like if it's lust he'll leave knowing how your body is and how much you weigh you'll have your answer either way you may not like the outcome or you may
and no i'm not going to sit here and give you some liberal progressive bullshit answer of love your body love yourself or accept your body body acceptance type shit you want answers you came here for advice and i gave it to you hardcore fucking truth

[Guy13]

Small waist⁉️ Small waist then all sizes look 👀 good …

[Anonymous]

Id just be straight up with him before spending money on the flight. Send a full body pic. Don’t make a huge deal of it. And he probably won't. Call me weird but i really wouldn’t consider you fat based on your height and weight. But seriously though. Most of us guys just want ladies to be straight up honest and open with us. That’s always the best approach. And think of it this way. If he objects to the weight you saved your self thousands and can close that chapter of your life and look for someone that won't make a big deal out of in my opinion such a small amount of weight. Chances are you’re more concerned about it then he will be though. Unfortunately people are almost always their own toughest critic.

[Andridaca]

- Be honest with him.

- You are not that fat tho lol.

- Avoid simple carbs for a week and fast three days of the week (bi-daily).

[Mangospacho]

He’s probably hiding something himself. I wouldn’t worry about your weight since you are still a reasonable weight.

[Iron_Man]

Just meet