Boyfriend expects me to be on the phone with him all the time and I have no time to study - what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I am far behind with my work because he called as soon as I wake up and/or expects me to call first thing in the morning otherwise he gets grumpy and he stays on the phone at least 2-3 hours and gets upset if I try to get off. He then expects calls all evening and 4-5 hour phone calls at night forcing me to sleep past 3am which sometimes makes me miss morning classes.

I am behind with the first few weeks work because he doesn’t leave me any time whatsoever to study. He gets drunk every other day and creates a scene at night which stressed me out. We have been together for seven years and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to fail I want to do well in my studies.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you’ve spent 7 years prioritizing his needs and wants, and ignoring yours. It’s never too late to set some boundaries, and he has to learn to respect your life outside of him. I don't know what his life is like, whether he has goals and things outside of just drinking and existing but it says a lot when he isn’t encouraging/motivating you to study, graduate, or prioritize your own mental health. He’d rather be an emotional leech, act selfishly and that’s just not fair. Start putting your foot down and explain that you aren’t setting limitations to hurt him but your future is also important. Any man who can’t understand that will only drag you down too with their sinking ship. Don’t let love ruin your hard work and future goals.

[Rosexøxø]

Ouu girl you better prioritize. Establish yourself make your mark/ leave your footprint in the economic world, and then spend time together more.

Technically dating and relationships are supposed to be two people living their lives next to each other, if you both can’t make some time to spend together that’s a “I just don’t see how it’s gonna work” moment or a “can you wait for me” kind of thing.

All the best 🙋‍♀️

[sirderpsalot123]

Turn off your phone and study.

[panamared1]

Study

[panamared1]

Dump him fast, he has no regard for your need, he is all about himself