If a girl uploads something such as this, does this mean she is single? best way to comfort her if her relationship ended? the break up move on stage?

[Anonymous]

Returning back after a failed relationship

While the relationship failed
It doesn’t mean she’s a bad person does it?

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Any other girls want to help?

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Thanks

[Anonymous]

None of this makes any sense. What did she upload? Why would you be comforting her, are you like a close friend?

[Asker]

Yes

She upload something that says “me returning back to the streets after another failed relationship “

In a meme type way

Sorry it didn’t make sense

[Opinion Owner]

Oh okay, thanks for clarifying. Well if she uploaded that meme, I don’t think she’s taking the breakup too hard since she made a joke about it. Meaning that I don’t believe she needs to be comforted. If she just broke up with her boyfriend then I doubt she wants to jump into another relationship, she needs a bit of time to get over that. But if you want to reach out and check in, I’m sure there’s no harm in that, just don’t expect anything romantic.

[Asker]

Thanks for advice in last part
I am simply a guy friend
So asking her to hang out in person in real life is no harm either?

[Opinion Owner]

Asking in a friendly way yes, that’s fine.

[Asker]

How should i ask you think? Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Something casual. I don't know what you guys usually do but if it’s like going to the bar or something then invite her to do that

[Asker]

Thank you.
And if she wants something casual
So i ask to find out? How should i ask?

[Opinion Owner]

No worries☺️ and if you want to play it safe you can always ask her to hang out then ask if she has anything in particular in mind she would like to do. Since you’d be inviting her out, she would likely expect you to have a plan in mind, but asking her first is also a fair option.

[Asker]

Of course, a women loves a man who plans the date and hang out correct? Specially as it would be a winter, fall date 😅

[Opinion Owner]

A date? I thought it was just friendly hang out?

[Asker]

That’s what i meant!
Hang out could be a bar as you say

[Opinion Owner]

Gotcha, and yes a bar would be perfectly fine if that’s what you guys usually do.

[Asker]

Oh, we never hang out together before so i would be nervous 😅

I’m thinking at a bar that will show sports game so there would be a good crowd

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, so how come you never asked her to hang out while she was in a relationship? Or maybe you did? And yes, usually bars show sports channels but it doesn’t always mean there will be a lot of people depending on the bar.

[Asker]

One thing I’ll tell her is, a failed relationship doesn’t mean you did anything bad

You are 21, guys will come and go in life
You told me and shared your passions
Such as wanting to get married, have a family and live a good life
You’re a good women
Something like this is good to say you know?

I do think saying “high value” women is a little too much
It’s too over used

i meant if she wants something casual earlier,
Like one night stand type.. hook up sex
Should i ask her if she wants this with me? Because it might not mean she wants this with me
You know?

I’m shy in person in real life
I’m always happy to talk about the important dating relationship topics
Dating is so complex and so much you can talk about

[Asker]

We live in a small town

No me and her never exactly hang out much

[Opinion Owner]

No no, I would not encourage you to ask anything regarding a hookup. If it’s just a friendly hang out, don’t make it more. Remember she just got out of a relationship, so her mind is probably in a very casual place.

[Asker]

I meant what if she wants a hook up 😅
I’ll be very nervous low key

[Opinion Owner]

I know that’s what you meant, I’m just saying her mind will probably not be there, so unless for whatever reason she brought that up then you should not. Don’t get nervous yet, you still have to even ask. I wouldn’t worry about that part either, because if she doesn’t want to hang out then it’s nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

If she doesn’t want to hang out I’ll think she hates me

Girls what are green flags? what are the red flags and toxic traits of girls I should look out for in dating and relationships? ↗

Can you answer that dating question? I asked here

[Asker]

Yes, I understand
What do you make of car hang outs then? Where me and her sit and grab food?

[Opinion Owner]

Well you want to be sure she’s comfortable. If you two never hung out or never spoke much, she would probably want to go somewhere public. A car date is something I’d do with someone I hang out with more

[Opinion Owner]

Sure I’ll go look at it soon

[Asker]

Of course
You called it a date 😅
Yea a car hang out is a option

I would want to do what is she comfortable with yes

I’m perhaps not ready for sex if that makes sense because of how nervous I am

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I said date because one on one in the car that’s what it feels like lol so I would not suggest the car. That’s why I say something public with others around, like the bar or even to grab food somewhere or coffee. Also there’s no need to even consider sex at all right now. Like don’t even put it anywhere in your mind, focus on what you have in front of you which is asking her to hang out first and foremost. Then having drinks or food or whatever if you guys do hang out.

[Asker]

Of course
Please do help me with that other dating question

You seem like a good women 😊
Hope everything is good with your dating life

What i mean is she is 21 and I’m 24
Sex is a little common around our age
So I guess I have to plan the sex part if she wants a hook up 😊

[Asker]

When should i know when to give up for example?

Who is giving you your
thanksdicking this year?

Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

That’s ridiculously inappropriate and shows your true intentions. How can you keep saying you’re approaching her friendly, want to go out as friends and support her, etc but keep trying to throw out sexual commentary and “prepare for sex”? I’m not trying to be rude here but if I were in her shoes I’d never talk to you again. Seriously do yourself a favor and erase those things from your mind right now dude. Give her more credit than to assume she will suggest sex and treat her with the respect she deserves as your FRIEND.

[Asker]

Oh you mad

[Opinion Owner]

And before you try to remind me again: yes I understand that people can be sexual in your age range, I’m not much older than you I know how all that works. But being a gentleman and respectful never ever goes out of style. If you want some random floozy to hook up with, dating apps are flooded with them and that is easy. This is a friend going through a break up, so try to just be nice first. You will get blocked or cussed out faster than you think if your approach her like some gross guy looking to get laid.

[Asker]

How old are you then?

[Opinion Owner]

No I’m not mad, I don’t know you and this is not my situation. I am appalled because you will not stop trying to veer your approach towards her into hooking up and it’s just so disrespectful. I’m trying to help you from embarrassing yourself and looking like a jackass.

[Asker]

That makes sense
Yeah hopefully she is okay
She did upload something that suggests she is ready to date

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, please be respectful to her she deserves that much. You said before you are a casual friend, so why do you keep mentioning dating and sex?
Listen, if you want more with her then be honest about it. Don’t lie and act like you intend to take her out as friends if she even wants to go. Approach the situation correctly asking her on a date. If she rejects you then oh well, you tried and move on. But don’t fake friend to her, because I know personally it is very hurtful to be deceived.

[Asker]

Oh, i don’t hate her
I respect her so much because she been welcoming to me and talk to me during lock down time
So I would love to take her on a cute date 😊

I’m sorry that happened
If you want to tell as you are anonymous too you can
Hope you move on from her the fake friend you had

[Opinion Owner]

To be clear, when I talk about being deceived it is by a man pretending to want to be my friend but actually wanting more and having to turn him down. This is why I’m telling you to be straightforward. So if it is a date and nothing else (as you were saying previously) then straight up ask her on a date. Ask what she would be interested in doing and go from there.

[Asker]

You do love supporting me
She might not say yes as we know 😅

I’m sorry that happened
You must have enjoyed the friendship but want nothing romantic there