Hello everyone, this is my first post on here and I desperately need help.
About a month ago a new housemate moved in. He is 17 and that alone was already a red flag for me but the landlord rents rooms on a first-come-first-serve basis so I couldn't say anything.
However, the new guy is very loud, does not clean at all and does not even flush after going number 2. His sister often comes over to cook for him and they are both very loud. He constantly walks around playing music really loud. When I tried asking him to wear headphones he got really abrasive and started asking me "do you have a problem with my music?"
I work from home and one day I had to ask him and his sister to be mindful because I was in a meeting online and they responded: "So do you not want me to cook? Do you want us to waste our food?"
I got into 2 arguments with him already. Once because he was using a pressure cooker at midnight and the second time because he wanted to keep all the lights in the house on since "it is good luck".
I tried talking to my landlord about all of this and she says she cannot pick side or evict him because she has no grounds to do so. She talked to him about the house chores and gave us an ultimatum to fix things between us.
I tried having a talk with the guy, asking him to respect boundaries and personal space. He said he does not even understand what those words mean and that people in his country don't have manners and that I should adapt.
She said if this is not fixed she might have to ask both of us to move. This is starting to affect my mental health. I literally start shaking when I think his sister is coming. I am a very quiet, studious person. I am barely out of my room, always pay rent on time, am nice to the other housemate, do my part of the cleaning all the time, never bring anyone over.
This whole situation is just too toxic for me but I cannot really move right now. I really need to study but I just cannot because I am anxious. What can I do?
She said she didn't appreciate him not cleaning and being noisy as well. She said she wanted to talk to me about it but we just have different schedules.
So she talked to the landlord and now he's moving out. I AM RELIEVED. It was getting so bad.
