Guys, what is your opinion on a stay at home wife with no kids?

[ScarlettLowe21]

I personally am married, and my husband makes good money. I do not contribute too much to our income, but I do work full time. Id love to stay home and take care of the home. I would make sure he has a clean, loving home to come home to every night. I would have dinner prepared for him every night and prep his lunches. I would work out myself to make sure I’m in great shape. I work a 8-5:00 job five days (sometimes) even six days a week. I get tired, and sometimes I feel I can’t stay on track with what needs to be done. I don’t want to appear lazy (he knows me by now, though). Should I mention cutting my hours to part-time? Or quitting work all together? Is it wrong to want this? I do not have kids yet, keep in mind.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

From what I understand, your problem is that you feel bad cause if you stay at home, you'll be "lazy". Well, it's true that it is easier to be a housewife but it's far than been "lazy". It's a responsible role that you need to do everyday. And that is without including children that you may want to have. So wanting to do something that's easier, yet still a responsible "job" is pretty fine in my eyes. We are creatures of comfort anyways ;)

If you don't like your work and you can afford it, then you can quit it and be a 24/7 housewife. If you don't mind (or even like) your job, then you can cut some hours (if possible) and have more time for the house jobs and also split some jobs with your husband. This will work as well!

The only thing to keep in mind is that the economy isn't stable (and it gets worse) so if things get bad at some point and your husband losses his job or if they money will not be enough when you want to make children or if something comes in the way or in general if you need more money at some point, that would have been different if you had kept your job and you had saved a little bit of money and continued to made more. I do not say this to discourage you but that's something you must talk about with your husband and have in mind. The last thing you want is to go bankrupt when you don't expect it...

It's probably every guy's dream to have a stay at home wife but unfortunately, it's just not possible or at least "safe" for most people. For me to agree to do it here in Greece, I would want to get a salary of at least 2K euros. And this is simply IMPOSSIBLE given the fact that the average salary is 700 euros. I won't even talk about saving. You can't even live a human life with this amount of money (maybe even if you have your own house). So at least a part time job would be appreciated and then we can split the house jobs. But that's just me. I just wanted to give you my views.

Wish the best of luck!

[TonyMetal___86]

Tbh i'll only marry a girl who adores becoming a housewife with or without kids but i understand if she wants to make an activity in case there was no kids...

Personally i don't work for long hours, which means she won't be alone for a long time and maybe would barely have finished the house chores till i come back 😄

Nothing like a good loving down to earth simple and devoted housewife...

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for the mho 😊

[LazerBean]

LOL I like how the same guys who are constantly whining about "modern women chasing careers" tend to be the same guys who whine about wives not working enough. And it's mostly if not always single men, too 😂

But you answer your question, stuff like that is best discussed before getting into a serious relationship. Since you're already married though, I would just say talk to him and try to get a feel of what he wants. My husband and I always definitely wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom once we had kids. While we don't have kids, he's pretty much left it up to me. He has a good job, and I'm licensed in an occupation that is in high demand and has a starting salary that would double our household income. But he works odd hours and we like to take a lot of random vacations, so for us It just fits our lifestyle better that I work part-time at a flexible-hour job. That way we can leave whenever we want and I get to be home waiting for him when he gets off work so that we can maximize our time together. It just comes down to what your husband's values more right now. We both value unprocessed foods pretty highly, so being mostly a stay-at-home wife has allowed me to learn how to make a lot of my own stuff. We are saving up for a baby fund plus a crazy vacation, and also I do love my job so I have been working more lately. But if both of you are comfortable with your finances then maybe being a stay-at-home wife would be a good fit for the both of you.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And what all so funny is that the same women claim to be modern women but at the same time they are the same women who whines about modern men not being the man they dream of and expect men to be traditional

[LazerBean]

I agree. But the subject wasn't about modern women, so it would have been silly to go off topic 🤭

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Well ironically you're talking about those guys here which has nothing to do with the question. I mean i'm aware that you answered in your second paragraph but your first paragraph is also irrelevant. I even if what i said was irrelevant, as if i care.

[LazerBean]

It's relevant because those exact men are responding to this post in the exact way that I specified 🧠

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then what i said is relevant because talking about traditional gender roles involves both genders so. Anyways the main topic was still about a housewife who doesn't want children so that is the subject which is just a question for men to answer. However nobody ever asked you to talk about guys answering this question if i ask who asked? You can't answer that

[LazerBean]

I'll answer you when you give me her exact quote saying she doesn't want kids, since that is the basis for the premise of your argument for the validation of your reply and this if she didn't say that then your premise is incorrect and proving that your reply is irrelevant.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Yeah she doesn't want kids but still not doesn't have anything to do with guys here. Nobody still asked you to talk about those guys. Anyways i wasn't even talking about modern women but i was talking about women claiming to be modern women so just like how you are saying it you're not talking about modern or nor traditional men. You're talking about men here just like how i am talking about women here. You are pretty much aware that nobody asked you to talk about guys here so therefore you prettymuch don't care how irrelevant you sound so therefore i'm arguing at your level

[LazerBean]

Still waiting for the quote of her saying that in her post 😇⏳

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Still waiting for your answer who asked

[LazerBean]

I already told you I would answer after you proved you aren't a liar 😜

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Well you haven't proved i'm a liar either. So i can also say for you to prove you aren't lying about me lying, i need that answer who asked you to talk about guys here?

[LazerBean]

Looks like I'll be waiting forever for you to be able to be valid, per usual, and I just have better things to do. Bye bugoy 😘

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Lol nice excuse to dodge the question. Yeah "better" things to do. Another funny thing is you have all the time to make arguments like that then they magically stop having the time for it lol then do something else on your break time nobody cares about.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Anyways you wanted me to quote something, so how about if i just copy paste everything she said?

"I personally am married, and my husband makes good money. I do not contribute too much to our income, but I do work full time. Id love to stay home and take care of the home. I would make sure he has a clean, loving home to come home to every night. I would have dinner prepared for him every night and prep his lunches. I would work out myself to make sure I’m in great shape. I work a 8-5:00 job five days (sometimes) even six days a week. I get tired, and sometimes I feel I can’t stay on track with what needs to be done. I don’t want to appear lazy (he knows me by now, though). Should I mention cutting my hours to part-time? Or quitting work all together? Is it wrong to want this? I do not have kids yet, keep in mind."

I got the idea of what she said. But where did she say what's your opinion about guys here?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

At least i have done what you wanted me to do now so you can continue with your tik tok or whatever in your break

[itsalyssaagain]

If I reaaalllyyy loved someone, I might want to do just that for a little while. Literally just be his dream girl to come home to. I'll always make sure I look good and all I want to do is submit to and please my man.

[Datboi65]

Do not have kids, or do not WANT to have kids? There's a difference there.

The first one, no problem. Matter of fact, even better. If work is too stressful and your husband makes good money, then you can either cut some hours and do part time, or stay at home. Another option is you can get a job that can allow you working from home, like freelancing for example or IT, but that's up to you. Of course these jobs make decent money and give you the choice to work from home, but you need to invest in yourself first and do your due diligence, and also expect to have a hectic schedule. Or of course, you can be a housewife and take care of household responsibilities.

Far as kids are concerned, I do not believe someone should have kids until they are married and in a healthy marriage environment. If you have these 2 things in check, then that's amazing. However, it you do not wish to have kids, you should make sire that the two of you are on the same page when it comes to that, because I find out it's much better to tell someone the truth from the jump when you first start dating, rather than wait until you get married and then tell them they don't wish to have kids, that's just selfish. If you mean it as in you're starting out in your marriage and have no current responsibility of taking care of children because you haven't had any at the moment and you're asking if it would be OK for you to stay at home and do everything else, then yes by all means that's wonderful and it's your choice at the end of the day.

[SnowedIn]

Nothing wrong with that at all. Nothing wrong with working full time, part time, a little time or any permutation thereof. It doesn't make you less of a person or woman to not have a job. The thing is you have to be happy and your husband has to be happy. More importantly, a day is a really long time. There's only so much time you can spend prepping lunches, cleaning a house with no kids, etc. So think about volunteering (library, shelter, school, voting, veterans organization).

But, nothing wrong with this if it's what you want and works for you guys.

[Finchie40]

If you will be financially stable then I don’t see a problem with it , being a stay at home wife is hard work as well if you are going to do what you said you will do , I don’t see your husband having an issue with it if you both will be financially stable , the only issue that he would have is if you just sit on your ass at home all day doing nothing and not doing what you told him you will do , so as long as you keep your end of the bargaining agreement there shouldn’t be an issue

[BCA6010]

Personally, I think there's a lot of merit to being a stay at home wife, but it doesn't make much sense prior to kids being part of the picture.

[SlothySlob]

Hey, if you're willing to talk to your spouse about your wants, sure. Just come to an agreement with him.

[melanieeeB]

You do you and if everyone involved (you and your husband) are fine with that, it's all good

[HugeDikEng]

That's between you. and your husband. It isn't anyone else business to judge your situation. Especially if they not paying your bills. You obviously sounds insecure about the whole situation. Maybe you should branch out and do something. Volunteer work could help fight off this feeling you have.

[Anonymous]

I would be all for this as long as there is enough money to pay for necessities. Careers are overrated when you don’t need the money and people treat them like they’re hobbies when you don’t actually need a job when you already have enough money.

[Berethor]

Housewife trope, cleaning and cooking is good, but it likely not enough if you don't have kids.

[EricJonesAB]

I like if we both stay home and cook together and have sex all day.

[Puppystarfish23]

Living your best life, I honestly wish I could be a stay at home wife

[UniquelyBasic]

No point to be a stay-at-home wife unless kids are involved.

[Anonymous]

I think every marriage has it's own dynamic. I'm not going to pass judgement on a career woman or a stay at home mom. As long as both are giving 100% and what is needed for the partnership to thrive THAT is what's important.

[TheSpaceGnome]

My opinion of that is it's being a gold digger. Duel income is best when kids are not involved.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I don't think it's fine but it's not because she is a housewife, it's because she doesn't want children and same goes even if she is career driven who don't want any kids.

[joeldalton]

How much housekeeping is needed with no kids? lol.

[hafinjun]

I've always told my SO, they can work if they want to but it's not required.

[Anonymous]

Not for me. There is always the risk of losing jobs like it happened to me when Ukraine was attacked by Putin's military.

[LaineyLuiza]

I work from home so no problem

[Jhunitor]

She is a golddigger.