I Don't Like Men, I Barely Like My Boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I've always wanted a family, children, a big house, happiness but now I'm not really sure. I've come to the realization that I don't really like men, sure I like my boyfriend but men make me uncomfortable, they're rude, most are gay and have disgusting kinks, don't genuinely care for women or their feelings, will stare down other women, check them out in front of their partners, will sexualize their own daughters and female family members. Men have always been ungrateful for women. I don't want a daughter because I'm afraid for her, most women who have been married have divorced because they realized that they were never happy. I like my boyfriend but rarely these days, he can be very aggressive and get violent about certain topics, he says really mean things that he disguises as "jokes" most men do that to their gfs, I'm beginning to understand lesbians a bit more each day. Why do I feel like this?

[inhua]

a lot of this stuff isn't even remotely true and men have spent millions of years making the world a more comfortable place for women, wiping out predatory animals, building homes and shelters, inventing dishwashers and washing machines, installing air-cons and mattresses etc all so women can relax often at the expense of a man's own mortal lifespan taking on the majority of life's burden.

the laws of the land are specifically designed to protect women, they protect men as a byproduct but it's mainly there to protect women. if you don't feel safe it's because you're trying to idealize some utopian fantasy that doesn't exist. if you're trying to look for that gentleman, he's been ridiculed, rejected and cheated on so many times he sees no benefit in being a gentleman. if your boyfriend is a jerk, then you're probably bringing out the worst in him. a good girlfriend always brings out the best in any man.

and if you wanna mention divorces, lesbian divorce rates are much higher than hetero divorce rates and studies have shown it's women getting bored in marriages which has nothing to do with the man and all to do social media, pop culture, feminism and peer pressure telling them ruin a perfect marriage all for some excitement.

[Asker]

Just because men create things to make life easier doesn't mean they care about women as beings. Men are the predators straight women are the only ones who have to date their predators. Being treated poorly is not an excuse for being an ass and women are always receiving men's anger regardless if she is nice or not.

[Asker]

I'm not comparing divorce rates I'm just saying I understand why women go for other women.

[Asker]

Name what I said that isn't remotely true.

[Asker]

If men cared for women and little girls as beings we would have high sexual abuse and assault rates or go missing every other minute. Or be abused verbally or psychically just because a man cannot control his own emotions. Wake up

[inhua]

name one thing? sure. "most men are gay" there.

[Asker]

I've had three comments so far say this was untrue. This one is the least craziest one on this list and that's all you guys can say? Not the fact that men don't sexualize women, little girls, anyone with a pussy? But gay is what triggers you all ffs

[Asker]

And yes most men are gay the love male validation date pretty women as trophies for their friends, care more about the opinions of men than their own lady, they watch a bunch of tranny porn, and buy the most trans escorts. Even will go as far to tell women that they aren't competing face wise with transgenders. Because men love their image and love themselves they even believe they're the better woman.

[inhua]

you're trying to idealize a utopian fantasy free of crime that's never gonna exist. there's always gonna be criminals no matter what.
as much as you believe society doesn't care about women, they care even less about men. men are often the ones doing the most dangerous jobs, men are expendable and get sent to war to protect the country, men are the ones constantly demonized and driven to suicide for the exactly the type of beliefs you have of them right now. men will even turn on each other just preserve the perfect image of women.
if you wanna talk about men being unable to control his emotions, you shouldn't be shocked when you're deliberately trying to piss them off with your negative rhetoric. not to mention the majority of emotional men come from fatherless homes often raised by a single mother. there's your source of their emotion.

[inhua]

you wanted me to name one thing so I did. everything you've listed applies to a small minority of men. and if you want to go the sexualizing route, there's no shortage of women sexualizing men and boys too and rather openly too and no one calls them out for it.

[SnowedIn]

Some men are like that; most are not or not all those things. You asked why you feel like that -- I'd answer because you've seen that behavior and it's not appealing. And that's awesome as are your feelings. So, just be patient and enjoy life until the guy comes along who doesn't do those things. You're wise and self-aware and just embrace who you are.

[Asker]

Thank you very much

[SaltyBeaches]

I have no doubt you've been treated badly by some men, but it's also clear you have very ugly attitudes toward an entire gender and have probably treated men badly too. You reap what you sow and you get what you deserve. You have a karma problem.

You should leave your boyfriend and become a lesbian.

[BlobbyMcBlob]

I can't speak for lesbians. But I guess they'd say : "We don't want her either."

[LazerBean]

If that is your view on men, it's because you have extremely poor choice in the menu associate with. I would say go ahead and dump your boyfriend and leave men alone from now on, or at least until you can figure out how to make better associations.

[Guy13]

You will eventually find the right one and land in never.. never land with all those things. If yo are a goal setter as I am.

[Asker]

Am I misandrist for how I feel? I feel like I have valid points for not liking men?

[Guy13]

You’re 18 years old. You are going to feel lots of thing. Phases unless you are determined not to forgive, think beyond your feelings, and morph it into hate rather than love. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[sirderpsalot123]

You need to actively put in the work and change your perceptions. You have been wronged by bad people, not bad men. The men you describe are just a handful of bad people. Stay single until you understand this.

otherwise, you're going to end up with an abusive guy because that is the way you have decided that men behave. Instead of finding a better guy, you will tell yourself "This is just how men are. If I want a man, and a family, I just have to accept this treatment."

You do not have to accept that sort of treatment. You can set standards and find someone who meets them.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I think that you need to fix the way you see things. Sure, there are disgusting people out there but that's not about gender. You talked about men but there are terrible women as well! What about the men that are respecting, will do everything with you, will give their love to protect you, will give you all the love in the world, will cuddle you, will make sure you have great orgasms on sex, etc? These men exist you know.

So the problem is not that you don't like men but that you are focused on the bad ones and you think that there aren't any good ones out there. Try to fix your mindset and you'll see that you're problem will magically go away.

[Berethor]

You sound like a feminist. Women marry and divorce men to take men's money.

https://witchwind.wordpress.com/2013/05/19/spot-the-man-behind-the-man/

[Asker]

What? Shut up

[Anonymous]

It's not that men don't genuinely care about women or their feelings. We do care about good women. We love and cherish the good women in our lives, and there are a lot of them, thankfully.

The problem you have with men is that they treat you badly, because you treat them badly. You clearly are a misandrist who thinks and says things like "most are gay", which is obviously false and just a way for you to express your disdain for men.

That's why men treat YOU badly... because YOU are a bad person. Bad people get treated differently than good people, for obvious reasons. You are a great example of the fact that bad behavior begets bad behavior.

If you want to be happy, you need to work on your real problem. And your real problem is not men... it's you.

[SaltyBeaches]

This is a solid answer.

[Asker]

I'm not a bad person

[Asker]

I treat everyone nicely

[Opinion Owner]

You can't post the kind of things you posted here and expect anyone to believe you when you say you're not a bad person. You may not realize you are a bad person, but you are. Good people do not think the things you wrote here.

People have to choose whether they want to be a good person. Being a bad person is a choice you make, whether you're honest with yourself about it or not. Be a better person. You'll be happier, you'll attract better people, and you'll make the world a better place than it is right now with you in it. You owe it to yourself and everyone around you.

[Opinion Owner]

@SaltyBeaches Thanks

[Asker]

I don't treat people badly nor am I a bad person, I just wrote what I felt and that's not the worst thing that has been typed in this site.

[Opinion Owner]

I never compared what you posted to other posts on this site, so that's irrelevant.

Yes, you just wrote what you felt, which is exactly why we all know you are a bad person.

[Asker]

That I've come to the realization that I don't like men? I'm just saying it men show it look at sa rates, ra'e stats, murder and domestic violence that men do towards women, but me saying that I don't like most is bad?

[Asker]

I'm just saying not doing

[Opinion Owner]

Only you can help yourself. Here's a good place to start.

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[QuadDamage]

Gotta give it some time and not all men are like that. Just like some women are incredibly hard to read even though they think men is, and bitch a lot.

When I was 18-20 I wasn't interested in women let alone humans at all. Even though they were interested in me. Took me several years before that interest came to be honest. Ignorance is bliss when ya don't know any better 😂

Hope it works out for you, good luck! 🙏

[FilmGuy93]

I can definitely empathize with your position. I feel the same way about women. I like the one I'm dating, but the rest are pretty much awful.

The best advice I could give is to just remind yourself of all the things that make your partner awesome and try to forget the insanity you see with the rest of people.

[Anonymous]

Then you should just breakup with your boyfriend if you’re unhappy. A lot of guys aren’t really like that. I’m not. Heck, I’d even die for any girl if it meant I could save her from death (I work as a firefighter). And a lot of what you think is true isn’t. You’re just being bias. You’re still too young to understand to not generalize men into one category.

[ZXCwWRQWz]

Perhaps (just possibly) because you make what the worst men you think about so true in their thoughts? Take the example of gender studies with major complaints about the lack of women in STEM. Hypocrisy much?

[Asker]

I'm not understanding...

[ZXCwWRQWz]

I think I might have made the most embarrassing mistake ever of responding with one answer to a different question! So many apologies for that! I was re-reading what you wrote and that's not the question I intended to answer. I'm so retarded!

[Tyrael]

Most men are gay? Lol, that's just not correct. At all. Some of what you say checks out, but most of it just inaccurate and it sounds like you maybe spend too much time on tiktok.

[Asker]

Lmao now I used to do sex work chicks with dicks dominated women in every way. Most men would deal with one that's why they're so obsessed with transgenders. Is that false?

[BeMuse]

Whatever tranny. Just because you were gay and slept with your father before you lopped off you cock doesn't mean that's what average men do.

[Asker]

Lmaoo 🤣🤣🤣🤣 what? Evil, you proved my point. How does it feel to validate what I said?

[BeMuse]

Proved your point that you're a homo that slept with your Dad? It's not really something that needed, proving. It was right there in the initial post. You admission was enough. We took you at your word.

[BeMuse]

Don't know why you're acting all indignant. No straight man wants to poke your filthy gonorrhea infested stink box anyway. As a man you should be seeking out women anyway. Calling yourself a lesbo just make you look like a clown.

[Asker]

I'm a woman, sounds like projection

[BeMuse]

I'm sure your Dad tell you that all the time when he dresses you up in your Mom's clothes. That doesn't make it reality.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Careful of the control freaks, Don't fall for it. Does he ever complement you? or are you just a punching bag?

[ArtemisSilver]

Have you tried taking to a therapist about your weird misandrist prejudices? When you have an issue with half the population the problem is almost certainly with you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you are likely a lesbian in hiding.

But for real it sounds like most guys you had were socially inept if not downright creepy when it comes to interacting with women.

[Asker]

Lesbian in hiding? I'm not sure but I am a woman that has been around men my whole life, I know enough to know that most men aren't good men like how men say

[Opinion Owner]

Alright, if you say so. Who am I to change your mind. 😏

[Anonymous]

You have feminist brain cancer and need help.
Men are the reason you get to live your entitled spoiled life comfortably. They do all the shit jobs that keep society moving so you aren’t living in a grass hut surrounded by your own shit.

[joeldalton]

Guess you have to get used to munching carpet, then.

[Anonymous]

You're narcissistic and bitter. You're welcome.

[Miristheiss]

Thanks for sharing.

[LimitedBenefits101]

It's understandable most women are queer.

[Twalli]

Most men aren't gay and most marriages don't fail