Why are millennial men so obsessed in dating 18-25 year old woman?

[Alwayreckles93]

One of my best friends she is 30 about to turn 31. Her boyfriend 29 of 8 years left her for a stupid 21 year old. I just can't understand. They live a good woman that is capable of being a good wife and yet this guy lives her not caring about her at all. What is wrong with Z generation woman that don't seem to have respect over other people's relationship. My head just can't seem to understand. Love is painful it's all I can say.

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Weird thing apparently now a days with guys my generation millennial if a girl cooks for a guy or she runs favors for him apparently we are going insecure.

[Anonymous]

Things have changed a lot in recent decades, and this was the inevitable outcome. Here are the biggest contributing factors.

Modern women are not what women used to be. You said she is capable of being a good wife, but what does that mean? If she's like most women today, she definitely would not be a good wife by the standards men could expect 50 years ago. If you remove sex from the equation, most women are just men with vaginas in terms of what they bring to the table in a relationship. For example, I have literally never met a woman my age who can cook well. Ever.

Marriage is also nothing like it used to be. Not only do most marriages not offer men the same benefits of the past, but half of today's marriages end in divorce, women initiate 70% - 80% of them, and it's no secret that men get screwed in divorce court and child custody. Men see this happening all around them, all the time. Every guy knows multiple others who have had their lives ruined by marriage / divorce. It's one of the biggest reasons the suicide rate among middle aged men has skyrocketed in recent years. Why would a guy willingly choose that path if he didn't have to?

Finally, women have made casual sex the norm, and the expectation. Marriage is no longer a requirement for men to have their sexual needs met.

What I don't understand is why women are surprised by all of this. Anyone could have seen it coming. Women changed the rules without asking men about their needs, but expected men to just willingly continue to play the game with fewer and fewer benefits, and more and more risks. It was never going to last under those circumstances.

[nawtee_me]

I am sorry but I look at it as being the fault of both of them. And part of this may be why he left. First off you should not be dating for 8 years. By then the two of you should be married or split up. If the relationship is not moving forward in eight years you don’t need to be together. You are just playing house.
She may have talked to him about this and he decided to leave or he may have felt this and left while he had someone to go to.
Either way if the relationship was not going anywhere then the break up was for the best.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Well because youth is attractive especially if you want kids one day. I think I’m reasonably attractive but I’m almost 41 I’d expect to lose out to a 24 year old! That being said in general that age range. They don’t own a cook book and feel entitled

[JDavid25]

Depends.. There are some sexy 40 year Olds out there..

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

@JDavid25 sure and if there was an equally attractive and sexy 23 year old I’d fully expect the guy to pick her

[Alwayreckles93]

I bet you look way better than a 24 year old.

[Alwayreckles93]

Why? I mean a 23 year old does not own a house or financially stable.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Lol maybe. Why because I’m 41 widowed have a son who’s gonna graduate HS this spring my child rearing days are over!! Long gone!! I’m still fairly attractive like I’m still a size 2 still a 25 inch waist I still am fairly youthful looking but I’m not 23 anymore and that’s ok

[JDavid25]

Well that's not wrong, but older women do have a different feel to them, and if they age really well.. Oof..

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

@JDavid25 but that’s just sexual fantasy my boyfriend is 21 I am still not sure why he wants to date me lol

[Paulalove98]

@PizzaPieMamaBear he wants you because you're beautiful and incredible just the way you are and sees you for more than your age:)

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

@Paulalove98 yea he does he’s obsessed with my body I freakin love it lol

[Alwayreckles93]

That's because you look 1000x better then a 21 year old.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

🤗 thank you sweetheart

[Alwayreckles93]

You are 🤗 welcome

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

It’s actually 12:30 where I’m
At and we’re having one of those mornings that we’ve been in bed all day 😉

[Alwayreckles93]

😂😂😂😂

[JDavid25]

Not necessarily.. I mean there is this woman who is older than me at my job that I have gained a crush on.. It's because she is pretty, and weird.. And tall.. 😋..

[Apple1996]

Millennial men are a joke. That's why I married a gen z man. They are sweet and respectful 😊

[WhiteBoyChill]

Uhm. Gen Z women sure aren’t that way

[Apple1996]

@WhiteBoyChill true. It's just mostly the gen z men that are good

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah but I still feel weird about dating women older than me when I’m still in school tho

[Apple1996]

@WhiteBoyChill if you are in college then it's not too weird since there are 30-40 year olds still doing college too

[Alwayreckles93]

It's a long story I had a huge crush on guy name Juan Longoria he was the popular dude evey girl wanted to date. Then on my senior year I've date a guy name Jestin I wanted marriage with him but he was a womanizer he dated a lot. In my experience millennial guys a re rude. Gen z guys are more sweet.

[Alwayreckles93]

@WhiteBoyChill You are always very sweet.

[Alwayreckles93]

Apple1996 Long story I feel so deeply in love when I was very young like 17 about to turn 18 I was dating this guy name Jestin he was a junior at that time I was a senior. I wanted marriage from him we dated. I ended up pregnant I was so in love and Jestin broke it off. I was heart broken I cry a river like no joke. Sadly I had a miscarriage. It was a slap in the face watching Jestin holding hands with some other girl name Brenda.

[Apple1996]

Oh no that's sad 😞

[Apple1996]

And yes agreed @WhiteBoyChill is one of the better guys on GaG

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes he very sweet and he is a Christian too.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Thank you both for the kind words! And I get that maybe there are some 30 year old women in college but I don’t notice any around University. Presumably they must be taking stuff online or doing night classes.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’m a millennial (11-8-1996). Am I a joke to Y’all?

[Alwayreckles93]

@HippieVeganJewslim Not really , Are you Emo?

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I ain’t no Emo. I try to always look on the bright side of life. I’m just hippie, nerd, vegan, and sometimes dress like Gothic.

[Alwayreckles93]

@HippieVeganJewslim Hey I like that about you. You ambrace who you are. I like it when people express them selfs.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Thanks. A fellow hippie told me that one thing He could tell me is I got to be free (John Lennon).

[Apple1996]

@HippieVeganJewslim not a joke. I'm a 96 baby too but we are very close to being gen z

[Paulalove98]

@Apple1996 wooo! You nailed it. My boyfriend is Gen Z born in 2002 and I was born in 1998 but I definitely SEE the difference too. We can like younger men and date them too but they for sure have more open minds than the millennial guys.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@Apple1996, that’s like saying a 1997 baby is very close to being a millennial. When playing a game with a six-sided die, never worry that it might land on a seven.

[coachTanthony]

Is the 21 year old stupid or the one who stayed for 8 years with no standards or boundaries on marriage?

[Avicenna]

I'm wondering why she was together with him for eight years and didn't ask him to marry her.

[Apple1996]

Millennials think marriage is "just a piece of paper"

[Avicenna]

@Apple1996: Some of them obviously care about marriage

[Apple1996]

Yeah but it is few compared to other generations. Even gen z a lot are getting married, starting families etc at 20. While milleninals are like in their 30s just starting to date a little then maybe get married at like 40 😂
Just what I've noticed from being in the inbetween of those 2 generations they are very different on marriage views

[dynamicyandere]

As mentioned earlier, I don’t think it’s a millennial thing necessarily, but just a male thing.




Typically, women are attracted to men who are tall, strong, and mature.


Typically, men are attracted to women who are young, healthy, and beautiful.


Women that are 18-25 are usually in their physical prime and can fit that criteria easier than in any other time in their lives.



(This is just all just shallow physical attraction though.)


For attraction to last, it should be based on something that time and age cannot take away.


That’s why for me, a deep bond and connection is super important.


Depth and connection is something that will only grow stronger with time, as long as it’s properly nurtured.

[Paulalove98]

I am in a relationship with a Gen Z guy for a reason lol. My boyfriend was born in 2002 and he's 20 and has an open mind being younger than me compared to men much older who are so fixated on ageism. He doesn't care about this whole"younger older stuff" like much older men do..

[Paulalove98]

If they go younger then she should go younger too lol.

[Anonymous]

That just isn’t a millennial thing, that’s most men in general. Whether that’s hardwired or not by nature I don’t know. But regardless of continent a majority of men seem to go for women w in that age range. Maybe Mother Nature’s way of letting men know which women are the most fertile. Once a girl hits her late 20’s and up her chances of meeting someone, having kids, marriage, etc, they slim down. That’s why a lot of these career oriented women who have this attitude of I don’t need a man are hitting rock bottom once they realize they’re lonely in their early 30’s. You may not agree w what they say but watch fresh and fit on YouTube. They explain it better than I can. Besides why was she w him for that long w out marriage? If he didn’t want marriage she should have left king time ago.

[Vegasrunner]

You're always going to be asking yourself this question until you learn to open your mind to the realities of the world. Men value youth and beauty it's not that complicated.

[Alwayreckles93]

It's creepy when a 30 year old men dates a 21 year old with daddy issues.

[Alwayreckles93]

I would rather see a 30 year old men date a woman your age instead of a 21 year old woman.

[Vegasrunner]

@Alwaysreckles93 But look at your statement. Women are typically closed minded and you're proving that. You believe it's "creepy" you are making the assumption that the woman has "daddy issues" and are attempting to state it likes its a fact. Reality is men like younger women typically because they are more beautiful and have less baggage. Women can't understand this because most women struggle to see past their personal beliefs as you have shown.

[Vegasrunner]

@Alwaysreckles93 Why should a man date a women based on what makes you feel better?

[Alwayreckles93]

Not fair. I got mad at my friend she's 28 because she married a dude your age when I was trying to get her to date my 30 year old cousin.

[Vegasrunner]

@Alwayreckles93 That only goes to validate my point. If women didn't have interest in older men you wouldn't have to try so hard to interfere. Unfortunately a lot of women have a difficult time accepting that people think differently, this seems to be something you're struggling w/ as well. Also if your cousin needs you to set him up w/ a women, then that's probably why she isn't interested in him. Women like type A personalities that go after what they want, and he does not seem to fit that mold based on what you have told me.

[Alwayreckles93]

But they have a 15 Year age GAP! S😱

[Vegasrunner]

@Alwaysreckles93 Lol, You know what's even weirder? Your question is why are men obsessed w/ dating younger women but your describing a situation of a women being obsessed w/ older men. This is another great example of why I say women don't take accountability. Despite all the evidence to the contrary you're still attempting to paint a biased picture that puts a man at fault of a females decisions.

[Alwayreckles93]

Only younger woman don't take accountability. Not the mature woman I hate the word old. Any way so older women have money own a house cars. Live debt free. And still I don't understand why a 30 year olds men want a young 21 year old that don't own crap and don't have. Money ! Mature woman have more money then younger woman. Look if guys dated older woman they wouldn't have to worry about the woman being a gold digger leach the guy wouldn't have to worry about providing a house. Younger woman don't know how to cook or clean or budget. Yet you say we mature woman are the problem? NO ! YOUNGER WOMAN ARE THE MAIN PROBLEM THEIR BROKE ASS.

[Vegasrunner]

@alwaysreckles93 I have been w/ women 15 -50 and all of them have one thing in common. Their inability to take accountability. It's not that difficult to understand. Men don't care about those things in women because those things don't benifit men. Men value youth and beauty, your money is irrelevant. Men aren't worried about "goldiggers" women are and their worried because they realize that men w/ money have more options so they create these scenarios in an attempt to Shane Men from doing what comes natural. Whether u believe it or not, I'm a man that has money, ad I don't give 2 shits about a women's ability to cook, clean or budget. I can hire a chef and I have a maid on the payroll. All I want you 2 be is beautiful and know how to conduct yourself around HV people in public. Show me where I claimed "mature women are the problem" the fact that you can't only proves my point about why women get so upset over older men being w/ younger women.

[Alwayreckles93]

Younger woman are the worst !

[Vegasrunner]

@Alwayreckles93 I understand why you feel that way because for you you're going to always loss out when competing against them for the men you want.

[Juxtapose]

If you go for men of high social status then they are going to have options and like you women, they are not going to settle. If they can get somebody they think is better, they will.

You can thank hookup culture for this bullshit, people don't value loyalty anymore and trade each other like commodities.

[Avicenna]

This explanation is perfect and applies to some extent to all age groups.

[Juxtapose]

I think my statement was overly broad, I know men and women who are better than that, they're not shallow. The actual shallow people are unbearable to me.

[Juxtapose]

Thank you though!

[Anonymous]

"she is 30 about to turn 31"

Sorry, but she reached the female sell-by date.

I know Di Caprio famously dumps them once they hit 26, personally I think that's a bit harsh. The top of the hill for most men is 30. 31 is over it, so yeah, good timing tbh.

Few women over 30 can compete with a freshly ripe 21 year old.

[loveslongnails]

Why aren't you asking what's wrong with the guy first? That's where the problem was, and is. If it wasn't some stupid 21 year-old girl, it would just be some other girl of whatever age or generation because the guy wanted out.

[Alwayreckles93]

Wow just a bunch of womanizers. FYI a beautiful 30 year old woman can look twice way better then a stupid 21 year old. At 21 year old woman are all stupid and broke. Unlike a 30 year old woman they own a house debt free career establish. A 21 year old woman can look 35 .

[loveslongnails]

What does your reply have to do with anything? My comment is about why you're asking this: "What is wrong with Z generation woman that don't seem to have respect over other people's relationship", instead of this: "What's wrong with a 29 yr old guy who dumps his girlfriend of 8 years (a 30 yr old woman) for a stupid 21 year old girl"?

You're complaining that the millennial girl is a homewrecker, which doesn't matter NEARLY as much as the fact that they guy CHOSE to dump his girlfriend for her! What if he told the girl he was single or already broken up? It's not the bimbo's fault, it's his doing. That's my point, reckless.

[bingbongbangbung]

You're thinking like a dude. Most men don't care about superficial societal attributes when seeking women. But ofc you're too jealous to realize the truth

[bingbongbangbung]

Ignore her, she's clearly a troll

[Alwayreckles93]

@bingbongbangbung No I'm tired of 30 year olds men chasing after younger woman!

[Alwayreckles93]

@bingbongbangbung DON'T CALL ME KAREN.

[loveslongnails]

So what if YOU'RE TIRED OF IT. LOL That's what some men do - they chase younger women. I prefer younger women myself, but I wouldn't dump someone I love just to find a younger model.

[FilmGuy93]

I can only speak from my own life experiences, but I've found that younger women are more enjoyable to date, for the simple fact that they have less emotional baggage to work passed. The immaturity sucks, but I've seen some pretty immature women my age too, so it doesn't seem very age-dependant.

[Alwayreckles93]

Seriously 😒 ? Why would you say that woman your age are immature. I mean get real woman your age make much more money then a younger woman. A Woman your age owns a house car possiblity to be debt free.

[FilmGuy93]

They're immature in the emotional sense. The way they handle difficult situations, the way they approach sex, basic conflict resolution. I really don't care all that much about women's financial situations; that has nothing to do with their level of maturity.

[Alwayreckles93]

I mean financial statues is important you don't want a money hungry younger woman. Chances are a 30 year old woman has more things in common with you then a 22 year old.

[FilmGuy93]

Eh. Trust me; money hungry women are going to be money hungry, regardless of age. I definitely have more in common with the women my age though. You’re right about that

[Alwayreckles93]

Believe me a younger woman only want money. A woman my age we make good MONEY we have degrees must of 30 year old woman have Phds something a 21 year old woman does not own.

[FilmGuy93]

That’s why I choose to focus more on the emotional baggage side of things. Also, you should know; men basically don’t care about women’s professional achievement, from a romantic standpoint. So while it’s true that women my age are going to have more PhDs than women your age; it’s not… really… much of a consideration to most men.

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm actually 29

[FilmGuy93]

Ah… why does the site say that you are 21?

[Alwayreckles93]

I hit a wrong key

[Alwayreckles93]

In accident

[Berethor]

It not about generation, men has always preferred young women, also why she not married?

[Alwayreckles93]

He wanted to wait.

[Berethor]

For whole 8 years? she was easily fooled by him, marriage and children are binding men.

en.wiktionary.org/.../why_buy_the_cow_when_you_can_get_the_milk_for_free

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I’m a millennial (11-8-1996) and can date anybody. Some of my girlfriends are Generation X and some are Generation Z. I’m like the youngest millennial and dating one one year younger ain’t a big deal.

[BCA6010]

Pffft 25 is about the youngest I'd even consider.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Cuz younger girls are attractive, adventurous, submissive, not high maintenance... Everyone likes a bimbo lol

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Now that I think about it I rarely date women who are my age most of them are at least three to five years younger

the women my age have babies and complain too much

[LiamJHayden]

Boyfriend for eight years? If he's finishing his degree, and he isn't proposing within two years chances are he has no intention of doing so.

[User3191989]

Why do women, want "older" men, so much

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm confused 🤔

[User3191989]

Women keep saying they want “older” men. Why

[Alwayreckles93]

Do you get a lot of 21 year olds flirting with you?

[Alwayreckles93]

I guess maybe woman suffer a traumatic relationship. One of my bff not to be putting her business out here just an example this happened back in 2013 my friend was 20 at that time dating a 19 year old guy in college it was a toxic relationship. I mean it did really messed her up to the point she can't even remember events of that happened in that relationship. I mean my friend suffer a dramatic break up with this guy. That she went from dating a 19 year old to dating a 36 year old. Yeah it messed her up big time.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

With a boyfriend like that, your friend dodged a bullet long term.

She has to pick and date better men to be with.

[Iron_Man]

They should be loyal to the woman that they’re with

[bamesjond0069]

I'm about to be 36 and my girlfriend 20. Young women are way more suitable for long term relationships.