Have you been stuck in between a job and a relationship? Which one did you choose?

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[Cute_Miss_Laura]

I've never had to choose between a job and a relationship. However, I am currently in a situation where I may have to choose between school and a relationship. I graduated both high school and college early, so although I'm 21 I'm in a masters degree program. My boyfriend who is a year older than me was supposed to have graduated this week with his bachelors degree, but b/c of the protests, commencement has been rescheduled to July, (although he could skip graduation and just pick up his diploma at any time!) It is precisely because of the protests on campus getting more violent, that I've decided to pursue my PhD at a different college, closer to my parents home, but closer to his parent’s home as well. My boyfriend agreed that he would not apply to the masters degree program here, and would wait until I have my masters degree (which will be at the very latest this December.), and that we would BOTH transfer from the University of Florida, to the University of Central Florida. now, however, I've discovered that he has not only applied to, but been excepted into the masters degree program here at UF, and plans to begin in the fall (late August). So I may have to make that very decision I dreaded most… Stay here with the man I love, and be under the constant threat of violence, or move to somewhere safe, and leave him! (A long distance relationship is out of the question for me. I know it works for some people, it's just not what I want for my life!)

It's breaking my heart that he decided to go behind my back and apply to a masters program here, when we already decided, and he fully agreed, that he would wait and get his masters degree at UCF!

Laura 😢

[midnightmoon05]

Either work a lot not see my kids…get a lot of money and pay someone else to be a nanny or work a job that gives me the same schedule as my kids… i picked the job that I can have a good relationship with my kids. Since I am a teacher.

[Flatmanlewis]

Yes. A few times. I’m in a high-demand and unpredictable career. At the drop of a hat I’ve been on the other side of the planet for weeks and then home for as many. Sometimes I go to sleep at 0400. Sometimes I’m waking up then. My first marriage I absolutely put my career first and that divorce was a forgone conclusion.


Now, a little older, married, and in a different place in life (including with kids and a woman in a related field) I have found a balance. Sometimes the job has to come first and sometimes (usually) the family does.

[Summeroflove]

If a relationship isn’t in the best interests of both people… It’s time to move on. I am not saying people who are meant to be don’t face challenges. But if it’s meant to be… It will be just that.

It all really depends on the situation and how far along you are in the relationship. If you literally just started dating and making major sacrifices that may be a problem, however if you’re married I think your spouse comes first. Unfortunately people marry for the wrong reasons and that’s another story

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, the classic conundrum of love vs. career! I've danced on this tightrope myself. Balancing job and relationship is like trying to keep two cats in a bag—they don't always get along, but with patience and care, you can find harmony. In my case, I've always strived to strike a balance. I believe in nurturing both because, let's face it, you don't want to climb the ladder of success only to find it's leaning against the wrong wall, right? Love and work are both vital ingredients in the recipe of life. Sometimes, it's about communicating openly with your partner about your goals and finding common ground. Remember, it's not always about choosing one over the other but about integrating both beautifully into your life. Keep the flame alive in your relationship while chasing your career dreams. That's the real art. 💑🚀

[Pinay_ako]

I shouldn’t be stuck in between the two because I expect my partner to be supportive and understanding of my situation and help me go through it and be able to overcome it together and vice versa! Or else why have a partner in the first place?

[BullShark]

I think it comes down to how long you've been in both and what's more important, meaningful to you.

So like, if I've been working this 9-5 job for over seven months, it pays well, I have a lot of close ties with my colleagues there and we all get along well, and then at the same time, I just started dating this girl for a couple of weeks, who's telling me to quit my job so I can spend more time with her, I'd probably dump the girl.

And in the same way, if I started this new job less than a month ago at this new place, it pays good, but the hours require me to stay back late at nights, which is affecting my relationship with my wife and infant son where I don't see them at all except for one weekend when I am at home, I'll quit the job because nothing means more to me than my family.

[Anonymous]

Twice. It's hard because I'm at the beginning of my professional life. First time, I couldn't focus on my job because I had many arguments with my ex and I was always anxious and worried during work that I might lose her. I had a bad performance and then I had arguments with my female boss, she stated mocking me and demeaning me. My ex was unbearable so I broke up with her, then after 3 months my boss became unbearable so I quit the job. Second job, I started doing more stuff after work, like gym, running, playing sports, doing courses, and my next ex thought I was neglecting her. Although I think I had enough time for her. She broke up with me and then she came back, but I refused to get back to her.

[FearlessFlame]

No… I haven’t had to make that choice yet, but if I had to, I'd choose to focus on my studies/career. You may judge me, but in my opinion, career, education and financial independence are much more important than the relationship.

If you possess even a little self-esteem, it would be difficult for you to live like a slave. Staying with your spouse, parents, or siblings is not at all easy if you depend on them for every need of yours. Sounds bitter but this is the truth.

Even if your spouse is nice to you, there's no guarantee that he/she will be nice to you in future as well.

Our feelings change, and so does our demeanour. So the people and then the relationship. The man or woman whom you consider your own might leave you tomorrow and then you will be left with nothing. Because, being with them, whatever you had was actually not yours. Once they are gone, you become a beggar.

[MrOracle]

I'm a man - the choice is obvious. If I choose the job, she might be unhappy. If I choose the girl, but I'm broke, I will lose her anyway, because women don't tolerate broke men. Thus, there really isn't a choice - I must choose the job and do the best I can after that.

It's only women and the independently wealthy who actually have a choice.

[molonski2]

My roles were always massive , and they could not be simply reproduced , so they always had to come first it was not as simple as " getting another job " , so everyone would understand this from the beginning , and its why I can enjoy the lifestyle that I have created today..

So , I would not be giving it up for a relationship , we'd be on the same page and understand.

[Miristheiss]

No. Can't relate to a job dictating what happens in a relationship.

Anyway, would never have chosen a career woman whose job trumped the core things in life. A woman whose job was more important to her than a possible marriage and family. Women like this are the feminists wet dream. Baren women who rebel against mother nature and live their lives serving a boss and who are stressed all the time and who reject all of their normal, natural, biological role of the species.

[Yazu-chan]

As a woman, choose your job/career over a relationship. I guarantee, if your S/O is a man, he would never sacrifice the same for you. Put your dreams/goals first and follow your head not your heart. If the feelings are strong enough, it’ll work out somehow.

[JHNS98]

Not a job opportunity per se, but a university programme. I used to talk to this girl from a small town 200+ miles away from my home city. I thought of moving to a differrent college city closer to her, and because that program aligned more with my interests than the one I'm currently in. But I never mentioned this to her, and our serious dating ambitions fizzled out.

[IslaTheWitch]

I can't imagine being stuck in... I can imagine that something changed and my partner must relocate because of family stuff... I think I would follow. A job is everywhere... my partner is the one.

[NathanDavis]

nope... always made sure that wasn't the case

[electromagnetic]

I’m thankful it has never happened to me but there were moments when I was outside the country for months on end while my partner was back home. It did put quite the stain on our relationship.

[Maomaomaomao]

I never had to choose, but if I did, I guess the job would be the safe choice. If your partner leaves you, then your choice was meaningless, but even if you quit or get fired from your job, what you did there still holds some importance to you somehow.

[sheenagwapa]

my priorities in life is first God, second is romantic partner so...

[BoopBoopBeep]

Can't really imagine a situation where I'd have to choose, but relationship doesn't pay the bills.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Maybe? I have been working overtime a bit and he doesn't like it. It's just a busy time and I need to get a lot done. But I take breaks and spend time with him at least.

[coolbreeze]

Unfortunately everything revolves around money. You need money to hold a relationship. So a job I more important

[RingOfFire]

Unfortunately I chose career at every turn. I had a great career, and so many chances at a great lifelong relationship. But my career ended them all. Or to be more honest I let it. Now I have regrets.

[summiter]

I have not but my wife had to make that decision and I'm glad she decided to stick with me!

[Caroline91]

Is that a euphemism for a rock and a hard place, perhaps?