How can he be obsessed with me and still have a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to the guy for 5 months. We hung out all the time and whenever I needed something he was always there such a food, money, vent, etc. I didn’t really take him serious though but there was feelings there. Everyone down to his friends knew he was obsessed and he really liked me. He invited me too his birthday party back to back and his girlfriend was never there. Certain things he did I knew he really liked me and he always begged for me too take him serious but i never want too because i just didn’t trust boys and i didn’t want a relationship. He always said just put your guard down so i can show you that i won’t hurt you. I found out the other day he had a girlfriend and she’s younger than me. I feel like he was using the girlfriend because he needed somewhere too sleep. I confronted him but he lied about it. The girlfriend wanted us all too talk and she basically found out everything. I slept with him only once and he gave me head and he always begged too give me head because he said he wanted too make me happy. I don’t think he was trying too only sleep with me because I slept with him once and he still stayed months after and his feelings never changed and he never acted different. He was just always so pressed for me too take him serious. The girlfriend went through all our messages and he told me that he didn’t have no problem with me or hate me or anything when we are all talking. Now i haven’t heard from him now i’m just traumatized by this situation.

[JDavid25]

Well he was obviously not happy with his girl, and most likely was just using her at that point.. He took a liking to you and held onto it.. Maybe they were having problems in the relationship and he was coming to you to feel good.. The whole situation is pretty dusty really.. He shouldn't have done that to you, but this is your chance to leave it be and him too.

[Asker]

thank you

[JDavid25]

No problem. 😊

[Vegasrunner]

I'm going to provide you the answer that people on GAG won't. He was never obsessed w/ you. Based on what you shared it sounds like he was "banging for roof" and alternated between you and the other girl. According to u, he's obsessed but it's you that confronted him about having a girlfriend and u that have become tramatized. Once the girlfriend found out he moved on from you presumably because she has taken him back in gaining leverage over him.

[BlueScorpio]

Don't waste your time on men who show you they're not the loyal type. If all it takes is something new and shiny to catch his attention, then he'll do it again but to you.

[rienna888]

He's a disgusting man, be happy that miserable man is oout of your life. This will teach you that some men are trash and will do that to others

[spartan55]

She's just as gross knowing he had a girlfriend...

[rienna888]

@spartan55 I don't know asker, did u continue talking to him after u found out he had a girlfriend?

[Asker]

No when i found out about it i confronted him and the girlfriend n i confronted him together. I would have never messed with him if i knew he had a girlfriend. i dont do those things

[Asker]

thank you

[Asker]

@spartan55 nobody is gross u dont know the whole situation and your calling someone gross. Ask questions before u talk about someone. I didn't know he kept it a secret. He hung out with me everyday basically. I didn't know. Dont bash someone and call them gross

[Asker]

i respect this thank you for your response

[spartan55]

Yeah, sure thing. I find it pretty difficult to believe you had no clue. Most people ask about that when they start hanging out. Just didn't matter to you?

[coachTanthony]

He's a liar and a cheater and somehow you are hurt because you haven't heard from said liar and cheater? Self Love and some some self respect is my script for you.

[Guy13]

Creepy... beyond creepy into a dangerous and potentially explosive personality from my viewpoint.

Stay far away !!

[Avicenna]

This happens sometimes, but it’s definitely not OK. Stay away from him, block him if necessary.

[Asker]

thank will do

[Massageman]

If you have to ask, doesn't that kind of give you hint that he really can't be trusted either way? ( Giving up either of you for the other, that is? ). Time to move on toward some stability.

[Asker]

respect

[Massageman]

Stability - respect - sanity - worth for each other- yup.

[FilmGuy93]

It sounds like he liked you as a friend and a sex toy, but had his other emotional needs taken care of by the girlfriend. You and her were filling different roles in his mind

[Asker]

makes sense

[Gentleman900]

He was never obsessed with you. You were the other girl. No guy ever really likes the other girl. y'all are young, y'all both messing with an immature boy.

[Asker]

understood

[OddBeMe]

I watched a true crime doc of a guy stalking his ex, planning the murder all whilst flirting and planning dates via Tinder.

[JDAC092299]

He can’t in my eyes or you’d be his girlfriend and he’d have dumped his current one after telling you

[Ninania]

He's using you to boost himself. You deserve to be treated better by men and especially by yourself.

[Oddi_211]

Why do girls even stay in these situations. I don‘t get it. Just leave

[Asker]

i didn't stay i left i haven't spoken too him after i contacted him

[Asker]

i just don’t understand why mess with someone when you have a girlfriend

[Oddi_211]

Most people are weird, dumb or bad. Always expect the worst until proven wrong

[AmeerX]

Just go meet him if his girlfriend is so chill about it

[Anonymous]

Maybe he found someone who would commit to him and not make him work so hard.

[In_Trance]

Why are you talking to him if he has a girlfriend?

[spartan55]

She doesn't want to talk about that. Just pretend the girlfriend isn't even there. "Obsessed" with you...😂 the ego on display here.

[Asker]

i obviously didn't know he had a girlfriend i found out through a friend😑 if i known i wouldn't have messed with him

[spartan55]

When did you find out about his girlfriend?

[Asker]

i obviously didn’t know. he was hanging with me everyday. If i wouldve known i would never talked too him. im not that type of person. why would i come on here and say i knew he had a girlfriend 😑. someone told me he did and i confronted him. Before u comment on something dont be rude and u dont know. I ain't know he had a girlfriend

[Asker]

@spartan55 bro nobody knew he had a girlfriend. i will keep coming for u bc dont play with my character like that

[spartan55]

@asker yeah 👌. So why didn't ask him up front?

[jimmy2]

He is a cheater

[spartan55]

And she is with him knowing he has a girlfriend = she's gross

[Asker]

@spartan55 once again. i didn't know so don’t speak on that. i was informed through a friend he had one. Once i found out i confronted. Don’t speak on something u dont know

[Anonymous]

men love the pussies of beautiful girls.

[Asker]

true that lol

[WTFdivorce]

Sounds like to me he's not that obbessed.

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

no need too laugh. dont speak on something u dont know

[Opinion Owner]

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