My fiancee wants a polygamous relationship but I don't, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

He seemed like a very good person from the outside. We met last year and got engaged. But he told me last week that he wants a polygamous relationship I told my family but they told me not to break up with him. They said they would be disappointed if I broke up with him. Now my fiancee is quite happy. Wedding preparations continue at full speed He just smiles at everyone with his handsome face and acts like it's okay. What should I do?

[MCheetah]

That is disgusting and grounds for an immediate breakup or divorce. Whether someone was male or female and they said that, they'd deserve to get dumped. Your partner clearly does not respect you, and will not respect you in the future. Who cares what your family thinks if you end up being married to someone who openly admits they're going to cheat on you?

Seriously; f*ck that dude. Leave and leave now! I know this is GAG and all, and advice on here is typically awful, but if someone openly states "I want to f*ck other people besides you" when you're supposed to be married, then ANYONE with self-respect, who isn't also a degenerate like them, should immediately break up with them. That is beyond disrespectful; it's disgusting too.

My wild guess here is that you're Indian and that this is an arranged marriage, which is why your family is supporting such a sleazeball and why you haven't left him yet.

[Effably]

There is nothing inherently wrong with polygamy if that is what you both want. However if one of you does not? No. Sincerely doubt it will work at all.

If you both want to try you should honestly go into the polygamy aspect at full throttle before the wedding. Bring home some men while he is there. Talk, flirt, so on. Then drag them lver to the bedroom for some loud lovemaking. Of course have him do the same. If that feels fine you'll probably be alright with the sexual part if it. If either of you feels unhappy in that situation? Polygamy won't work for you.

[Alwayreckles93]

Let me guess he must be in some dominational Mormon church. Break it off because at the end if you marry this guy you will have to put up living a miserable life not your family. Break it up it is only going to get worsed. You need to put yourself first because no one else will. I am sorry but your family is selfish if they think this behavior is okay. Believe me you deserve happiness.

[Jessica405]

He wants to legitimise cheating. Dump him. It will all end up in tears if you don't.

[Summeroflove]

This is SUPER weird. Maybe you should call the wedding off.

[Soldieronamission]

Is it a religious or cultural thing? If either that would explain your family supporting it however you have to ok which obviously you aren't. While plenty of people get married fairly quick I would say just over a great hasn't been enough time to truly know each other deeply.

Bottom line if you don't want it then break it off no matter what plans have been made, or who supports it. You won't be happy and won't trust him and that's a huge part of marriage. Good luck and let us know what you decide.

[abc3643]

You mean your ex-fiancé.

Open marriages never work in the long run. It's one reason why any form of polygamy is outlawed.

[Anonymous]

I don't know your circumstances or background but it sounds like you've entered the Twilight Zone.

Consider all possible applications of the word 'no' with high volume and tempo unless there is long term gain to be had.

[Berethor]

If you not bisexual or asexual you have nothing to gain from that, you can leave him.

[Anonymous]

Your family's sick in the head for pushing you like that. Let me ask you something is it your family that will be with him or you? Will your family suffer the repercussions when he cheats with other people or will you?

[Opinion Owner]

Or how are you going to explain to little bobby or little johnny who aunt jane cousin cynthia cousin wilfred aunt susie aunt doris aunt joan cousin patty cousin sam cousin trish are? And by cousin and aunt all his broads he's screwing around with that he meets and picks up? You think a child will grow up thinking that sort of behavior is normal?

[LazerBean]

Dump him and find a non-cheater.

[Shamalien]

Break up with him. Fuck your family