My husband has an office job. Should I be suspicious that he wears cologne everyday? ?

[Anonymous]

My husband has an office job. Should I be suspicious that he wears cologne everyday?

[L12xX]

Well, you really know him better than any of us do. So my question to you would be this : do you find it suspicious based on knowing his character?

Personally, I like wearing a nice perfume when I go out. I like dressing up because it just makes me feel good about myself. Many men and women wear cologne when they go to work. It's also considered professional in certain industries to smell nice. And many of us just feel extra clean and fresh when we do. And then you come home to your romantic partner and feeling good and sexy and ready for them!

Another option is that some of us like dressing up and feeling sexy and nice for our significant other. It's just part of our love language. I want my partner to imagine me attractive not only at home but at work too. And they might visit me as well! I tend to dress better over all when I'm in a relationship. That's just how I am and what I like.

But overall, honestly I really don't think it's a big deal. If you find his behaviour is NOT consistent with the man you know him to be here's what I recommend. Why don't you just causally ask him why he likes to wear perfume at work? Just keep it light and without accusation or judgment and you should get your answer. Just be careful not to sound accusatory because it could feel hurtful to him especially if his intentions are completely innocent. It's not good for the relationship to assume bad of your partner. Trust is super important if you want your relationship to last.

[L12xX]

One more thing I wanted to add is this. Would you want your boyfriend to change himself and no longer wear perfume at work? I personally like a man who likes to take care of himself. If he stopped dressing nice or wearing perfume would he feel as confident in himself and his success when he saw you? Possibly not. Careful with these things. If he has always done this, thats the man you fell in love with. Do you really want to change him? Would you really be as attracted to him if he changed? Would you actually be happy? It's a slippery slope to start wondering if you can trust your partner. I'd say focus most on his character. If he has a good character, then know you can trust him and ask him questions as things come up. But try not to dwell on these ideas too much. It's not healthy for either of you.

[L12xX]

Also, some men don't dress nice at all. They kind of just wear track pants and don't smell great... because they aren't washing their clothes or showering enough! If you got a good one who likes to stay sexy for you focus on THAT! Lucky girl!

[Asker]

Thank you for your response. Very insightful!

[L12xX]

Glad you found it helpful! :)

[AmandaYVR]

The answer is in the office culture there, in general. Have you ever been? Have you met various male colleagues? He could be simply playing the part, doing what he can to fit in and be at everyone else's level.

Is he management? Does he have a private office? I'm not exactly sure how those factor in, but they also came to mind...

[Asker]

It’s a small company. Maybe 10 people in the building/offices. He has his own office. He is management. He doesn’t have to dress nice. Very very casual.

[AmandaYVR]

I think you should just ask him directly why he suddenly started.
The behaviour can be interpreted just as easily two ways - completely normal, and, a little bit odd, given the size of the staff and that he has a private office.
Does he go out for lunch every day? If so, then he's out in public regularly, and maybe he just wants to smell good to people in general.
If he eats in his office every day, then he's wearing it for his colleagues.
Some companies actually have a perfume policy, which forbids wearing it because of peoples with allergy sensitivities. To some, perfumes and colognes are sensory offensive, not pleasant.
I don't think you need to be worried, and I don't want to add to your anxiety, or add paranoia. But I would be wondering too, if I were you. I'd wonder about the female employees there, and how he feels about them. But, as others have said, some men wear cologne, like the electrician, and are not around women every day.

[bzcxx]

NO. Wearing cologne does not mean he's trying to seduce another woman. Why is it acceptable for women to say they dress up 'for themselves' and not for anyone else and wear makeup (and perfume) to boost their own self-confidence, but when men wear cologne, it's often construed as an attempt to seduce woman?
I think that thought is highly flawed. Unless your husband displays consistent suspicious behaviour, I'd say trust him! A relationship that has no trust is NOTHING.

[Asker]

I didn’t say anything was wrong with it. I just wanted opinions on the matter I was cheated on 5years ago…. So my anxiety gets the best of me at times and talking here helps me see all sides which I appreciate.

[ThinkFitness23]

Don’t be silly, he’s probably wearing it to smell nice for the hot women in the office 😆…


Even if this is the case of things are as they should be within your relationship then you have no worries, you give him what these woman never will.


Do you suspect he’s close to a particular woman?

[Asker]

There are ladies there but no one I’m
Suspicious of.

[ThinkFitness23]

I’m an electrician rarely see woman all day and I wear cologne daily. Unless you think he’s talking to someone at work about private matters non work related and is going for lunch with a particular woman daily or frequently o wouldn’t worry.

[Guy13]

Close quartered cubical any the wrong office mate can be filled with garlic and red pepper blend, cumin, body odor etc. Sucking cologne can be a way to handle the office stench.

Hows thst for posit and convincing?

[Summeroflove]

That in it of its self isn’t suspicious. NO… But. If you have a bad gut feeling or notice other stuff. Possible.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I mean, if you're in an office cubicle all day, you're around other people and if you smell, people notice. It might not be that he's trying to win someone over, he might just be trying to avoid smelling like ass so people don't complain about him to HR.

[Snedger____]

I have an office job and I wear perfume everyday. We just love to smell good just like you girls love to show off your body

[Asker]

Thank you so much!

[SlavicThor]

Not at all, be proud that your man is investing into his appearance

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Blackcupcake]

sure go ahead and make up issues in your relationship.

[Asker]

No making up. Issues have been there years ago. Hard not letting anxiety get the best of me at times

[boggboss]

Did he just randomly start wearing it or has he always done so

[Asker]

Just started wearing it but he also just got some new.

[boggboss]

Did he wear stuff before he got this one and have other actions lead you to worry or just this

[Asker]

Hasn’t warn cologne in a long time but he hasn’t had any either. No other actions.

[Iron_Man]

not sure if you should be suspicious. But Yeah, I don’t feel that cologne is necessary at the job under arm Deodorant is enough.

[admles]

Are you freaking serious?

Women, why do you overthink so goddamn much?

[Asker]

I probably am but I’ve been cheated on and sometimes my anxiety gets the best of me.

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes, you should lose your mind with jealousy and rage against him.

Do you think cologne makes panties drop?

[BJP21]

Thats just the office culture. OR would rather him wreak of BO?

[Anonymous]

Yes, especially if he just started wearing it to work.

[Asker]

He did just start but he also just got it.

[Opinion Owner]

Interesting

[jimmy2]

Lol that's better than smelling like a skunk but Check his phone 😂

[L12xX]

Haha true.. but I highly recommend not to check his phone. Sounds like she might have a guy who cares about hygiene which is amazing! So I recommend not to break the trust. That could cause issues in the relationship.

[midnightmoon05]

Amy other reason aside from the cologne?

[Pink2000]

Perhaps he just wants to smell nice.

[-Mad-]

You should also wear some perfume all day👀

[TheFlak38]

just another nut job turn off wife

[Twalli]

He doesn't want to stink

[TallAnon]

No, he likely wants to keep the same flow going.

[Agape93]

Do you trust him?

[Asker]

I do.

[Agape93]

Then don't worry about it