I have anxiety and borderline personality disorder servere. Obviously I’m in therapy just not meds as I still felt the same. For example a situation arises today the guy I’m dating ignored me and it gives me anxiety thinking omg have I done something wrong, does he hate me, what’s going on. And it really really affects me to the point I turn myself insane and I end up clinging onto the person which probably pushes them away because I get so scared I’ve been abandoned. How do I deal with this. The old me would have double texted him loads of times but I’m trying something new where I don’t double text and freak out. I just don’t know if a relationship will ever be possible for me as this always happens. I may not be acting on the fact he’s ignored my message but it’s sure I’m my head and I get so wound up and anxious. Do I express myself to him or do I just not say anything. I know he’s busy and he does a lot but I keep overthinking it.
Dating someone with anxiety issues or an anxiety disorder can be challenging. Sometimes it can feel like the anxiety is a third person in the relationship, someone who wriggles in between you and your partner. This person constantly sows doubt and confusion.
Most people have at least a few of these negative thoughts. They are a normal part of being in a relationship, especially a new one.
People with an anxiety disorder, however, tend to have these anxious thoughts more frequently and more intensely, which can turn into full-blown relationship anxiety.
Anxiety doesn’t have to put your relationship in jeopardy. By using the right coping strategies, you can have a healthy relationship and stop anxiety from causing too much stress.
There’s a difference between providing support and becoming your partner’s unpaid, unofficial therapist. A therapist isn’t going to hold your partner while they cry or take them out for something to help relieve the anxiety.
Yes you can with little efforts. Good luck.
I hope it helps.
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Keep going through therapy and let the guy know what is going on. Sounds like you also have a anxious attachment style as well. If he cares he will understand. The more he knows the more he can support or bolt. I would rather have him bolt now then bolt because he thinks your crazy months down the road.
It's normal to have these feelings but as time goes by you learn to be happy with yourself that you don't have to feel anxiety if they don't reach out, you learn that texting isn't everything and that a phone call is much better, it takes time because I was the same I would get a bit clingy but as time goes by you learn to change your mindset and know that you are a great person and if they want you in their life you will know
Yes you will, and there’s really no normal. The thing is you have to know about yourself is what are your boundaries
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You just need to find the right one. Yes
First of all, I'd like to say that I'm proud of you for being able to push through this. You're a strong young woman for being able to live through it, as someone who has Bipolar Disorder. I suggest you should get medication if you can, since it may help. You will always be normal, you just tend to experience more anxiety than others and that is completely alright. Learn some healthy coping strategies, confide in the people you love and do what you love. Try meditation, it helps me. It's something I do when I wanna calm down. Deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth also help.
I wish you all the best.The woman i love has the same thing borderline personality disorder I've known that for years now and unfortunately she's w all these losers that she keeps chasing after which quite honestly breaks my heart because i been there for her for 5 years and love her deeply and immensely. As much as i may hate myself for giving this advice ill give it anyway to develop new behavioral habits/patterns new neurons and neural connections need to be made and old synaptic connections in the brain/old neural connections in the brain need to be broken. To do this the new behavior needs to be repeated consistently in order for new synaptic connections to be made. Very few doctors and practically no therapist or psychologist and psychiatrist will tell you this practically none because they're in business to make money which is you as a repeat customer who makes them money and there's no money to be made in curing people
Ya I'm Borderline too but none of us are labels; a human being is too complex for a label. The diagnosis should be a guide post to help in life's journey & help you make better choices.
If you're constantly texting him while he's at work then "yes", you're being overbearing. I told my nuclear family not to contact me at work unless it's an emergency; I'm too busy & it can waitWell I think the only way around it is through it. Courage is not being unafraid of something. Courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. Once you do it once or twice successfully the anxiety will likely disappear.
I’m pretty sure this is normal, actually. Mental health is severely underrated. I’m glad that you’re receiving help and coping the best you can.
If the person you're dating ignores you, then they don't deserve you, and you shouldn't be dating them. Dump him!!
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I'm not sure if you will ever get over your overthinking
You don’t have that disorder. It’s not real.
It’s just a label for doctors to use to help you avoid dealing with the root cause of what’s bothering you. Think for yourself and quit using a label to live your life for you.I think you are on the right track with therapy and you meet the right guy that will get you someday.
You need some fucking meds
Sounds like me, and meds did help in the long run.
Depends, how hot are you?
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