I will try to explain everything in my question because I want to hear answers from people who are good in this. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My crush is also my best friend (entj) and i am infj anyway maybe not all of you know what is that. It's called (mbti). Anyway she really cool person and i love her sometimes i think she likes me back but we don't tell each other that. We are good together but when I text her on whatsapp or insta etc she always gives short answers for everyone not just me. If it's important she answers and explain to me my question.. And she is like never online you can't see her online anytime. Before you answer me if you want to know more little bit about something tell me.

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1 mo

Not sometimes i forget to put a dot after her... It should be like ( her. Sometimes i think she likes me back etc)

[PrettyPriya]

Love her sometimes? How does that work? Is that like a convenience thing for you? Just speaking from experience here that I love my spouse ALL the time. Not sometimes. This is doomed to fail if you do not have consistent feelings for her.

What is mbti? Sorry, just not familiar with that term or group of letters. Anyhow, sounds like even though she has social media, she really isn’t into it that much or invests a lot of time into it. Some people sign up for that stuff only to get bored of it quickly.

This is no different with people texting on mobile. Though I’m my experience it is normally guys, maybe she is just not into texting or social media and prefers a real conversation. My husband is like that. Getting him to text is not easy.

So long as there are no indications outside of the short answers on social media apps, I wouldn’t think too much into it. She may just not like spending a whole lot of time on them. Also possible when she does check them, she has so many messages she quickly responds to everyone with short messages just to get responses out.

[PrettyPriya]

Ref update: ah, that makes more sense now. Thanks for the update.

[Asker]

I updated my question. Sorry i made a big mistake.

[PrettyPriya]

No worries at all. This makes more sense now. I still think she may just not want to spend a heck of a lot of time on social.

[Asker]

Yh even when i with her and her get text she read it from window and don't answer. She like face to face conversations and sometimes like i said i think she likes me back.. We can feel it when someone likes us do we i mean eyes can't hide

[PrettyPriya]

Have you asked her out on a date or at least explained your feelings?

The only issue I see is that if you are friends and you end up telling her you like her more than that, she may not feel the same way.

That could potentially ruin the friendship.

[Asker]

That is the issue.. I am not like other people i don't believe in love at first sight thing and i didn't know that i love her and i think she is the same. You there is people who can't fall in love fast but slowly what is the odds that 2 people of this kind met.. I don't know how to tell her she is my best friend and I don't really don't like people i have only like 2 friends and i don't want to lose her. I am waiting there will be a time when i won't be able to hold it inside of me and tell her. I sometimes try to flirt with her.

[PrettyPriya]

Does she flirt back or give you any signs she has feelings more than just as a friend?

[Asker]

I don't know. She always make jokes and use my name sometimes there is no need to.. And I she saw me upset she ask how am i and put all her focus on me to make me laugh.

[SueShe]

When you say "... i love her sometimes", does that mean that you don't love her all the time but only occasionally when you want?

That is not what love is all about. If you love someone, it is either all the time or never but not just occasionally or from time to time.

Also, this MBTI is not really something that is reliable since there is no scientific proof behind that scam. You can text yourself 10 times and you will get a different result each time.

The fact that she is never online speaks in her favor. That simply means that she has other priorities than to waste time online.

What you should do? Simply meet her in person on a face-to-face basis and don't waste your time being on those social media. That is not really productive and staying behind a screen is not really having a social life.

Go out and meet people in person.

[Asker]

I love her all the time of course she's the one I know it for sure i always try to understand her. Yes she's always say she doesn't like to talk online or text anyone and i see her she does this to everyone. She like to talk face to face and when we meet she completely different person and lovely and I can't explain how much I love her. I always buy Attention to her and do little things she loves and that makes happy a lot and she really appreciate it.

[SueShe]

Well then, there is not really a problem. She simply dislikes social media and that is a very positive point for her.

[Asker]

Then I shouldn't take it as sign that she doesn't like me because she like this with everyone even her family and in uni we always together and we look for each other. And we always spend time together.

[SueShe]

No, don't take it as a dislike since she is always like that with everyone.

[Asker]

Ok thank you for everything you have been really helpful.

[7Phoenix7]

I'm an infj too. But anyway, yeah she said she doesn't like to text or message on social media and mentioned that she leaves short messages to not just you but everyone.

I'd say your solution is to spend more quality time with her and tell her how you feel in person.

[Asker]

Thank you. That is what I trying to do. It's hard but she is worthy and i don't like stupid relationships so i can wait for the right one.

[Random_g]

That reminds me... I wasn't online in social media for over a month now 😅😅😅..

Anyways.. I didn't get your question tbh, are you trying to confess or what? Or do you want to know why she is doing this? ...

[Asker]

I don't know how to confess to her anyway. I am afraid because i will lose my best friend and same time the person i love so i am taking it slowly and trying to express my feelings for her by the time goes on. I just don't know why she is like this i know it's normal everyone have a thing and hers is not being on social media she like this with everyone but when i with her she is completely different person and i think she likes me back but how we can confess this for each other out.

[Random_g]

Simple... if all doors are closed , there is always the classical truth or dare.

[Asker]

Lol That is funny sorry we are too good at hiding feelings. It's just our personalities.. I don't tell how i feel i show and she do the same.

[Asker]

But when someone loves you. You can see it in their eyes don't we. I know it's stupid but we can feel loved by that person even if they don't show it

[Random_g]

I actually disagree.. I will talk about myself, I'm good at reading others, so I would know who has a thing for who , but I wouldn't know if it's about me, I would just "assume" based on how i feel, that's why sometimes someone likes you but you don't notice, because maybe you are not interested in them to begin with.

I don't know your how is your mental strength, if you are okay with rejection or not, but my advice to you my friend is to just confess, no sneaky ways needed, and be ready to whatever comes out of it.

[Asker]

I will confess one day i don't like to play games.. People hearts are not a toy to play with it i know that.. Wish me good luck and i really thankful for your help.

[Anonymous]

Be an adult and drop the Whatsapp and Instagram nonsense and you might get somewhere.