I don’t feel comfortable communicating to my partner. How should I fix this?

[Anonymous]

When I miss him, I’m afraid to tell him. When I talk about something that makes me sad, he gets quiet. Both of us have a tough time being vulnerable.
What questions or discussions should I bring up to slowly make communication easier step by step?

[Guy13]

It is hard to make another feel your pain and concern much less communicate in a way that it could be understood. If he feels your insecurities then he will act that way too.

You guys are too much alike feeding each other’s weaknesses. Your felt instabilities and concerns make him that way and vice-versa. He makes you insecure too.

[jennifer_bloom]

A persons emotional life is not always reflected in their social performance so you should not fear a lack of concern if he doesn’t verbalize it or express it and many people who do express sympathy are faking it.

[LazerBean]

Sounds like you shouldn't have gotten married. Since you did, though, get therapy.