My ldr boyfriend of almost 3 years struggles to do romantic things but promises he'll do it all when he's here with me? Advice?

[Anonymous]

For more detail My ldr boyfriend of almost 3 years struggles to do romantic things for me for example, ordering flowers setting up online dates, or sending gifts but promises he'll do it all for me when he's here. We've met multiple times before during the first year and half of our ldr and I have felt so in love with him he'd do special things for me and everytime he'd leave it'd be the worst feeling ever. However, he's gotten busy with university and internships and has shifted his focus on those more than me and I get that but I still want to feel special. I have set up dates for us but he never does anything back. Especially because I haven't seen him for over a year, I wonder if I should just wait 5 more months for when I see him in person or keep feeling like I'm not important.

Before any of you say it he's not cheating on me I know this 100%.

I just want advice for if I'm making a big deal out of nothing.

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UPDATE: We broke up

[Changiis07]

No you're not making it a bid deal. The fact that you haven't seen him in a whole year? That's crazy!! I would not keep waiting I'd distance myself he does not sound like he is putting much of an effort to see you because it doesn't matter how busy someone is they can always make time

[Asker]

You don't see a future if I wait a couple more months for him?

[Changiis07]

No, it just sounds like your his door mat and you'll always be there and doesn't sound like he s putting much effort

[DaveJord]

Yeah, you ain't really in a relationship if you have not seen him in person for over year. I hate to tell you, but a promise made and not kept is no promise at all.

[Asker]

So you don't think there's much of a point waiting? We do call overnight and text almost all throughout the day but I guess that would be the ' bare minimum'. I don't know because I still have so much love for him.

[DaveJord]

If you never met, and there's no plans to... seriously what's the piont?

[In_Trance]

This is a fairy tale