Would a partner phoning their mum everyday upset you?

[Anonymous]

I'm sure I will get different answers for this question but wanted to get people's opinions. My girlfriend, it's nice that she likes to be friendly with her family but it's getting a bit much recently... we live together she went and saw them for 2 weeks by herself came back and is ringing them daily for like 1h30 to 2h... while I appreciate its her family. It feels like we don't get time together much because of it, she said she missed me came back but has spent the whole time since coming back, going to work, getting home then phoning her mum every evening. It was like this before but it's gotten worse. Would this get on anyone else's nerves a bit? Or should I just be happy? It feels like I'm just doing most the things by myself at the moment, she doesn't even really tell me her problems anymore either

[Guy13]

My partner calling her Mom is fine. The fact that I know that she calls everyday says much about me. It is not like this has to happen in front of me or that I would ever know about it so I guess my partner is comfortable with me. And, I know women have to have girl talk and often that is with Mother. I know it is coming and as long as partner knows where to draw the line between our household and any other household then there will be no problem. A good Mom will not want to know the blow-by-blow anyway...

[Anemone978]

I used to find it annoying because my ex used to do whatever his mom wanted him to do... Even drive her out of town multiple times in a month and he would be gone the whole day... when he has two other brothers that could do it once in awhile... Then she would call daily and he would have these long conversations with her in his language and they would be laughing and sometimes he would talk to her for 2 hours... but then have nothing to say to me no conversation, just sit there and watch youtube crap...
I honestly really didn't like his relationship with his mother because he always put her over us... He used to say he loves me the most but nah his mom was number 1 to him... that's why he was never my number 1.

[LazerBean]

I feel like if it was constant, excessive and cutting into quality time like that then I probably would be a bit irked. As it is, we both talk to our parents pretty much every day, either on the phone or in person. If I talk on the phone for long, though, I usually do it before my husband gets home from work so that it does not cut into quality time.

[Asker]

That would be great, no she does it usually when we are spending time together. I'm not going to lie, I sometimes feel like she doesn't want to spend time with me... as she came back from that 2 week holiday.. and it's been constant calling her mum every evening still. She hardly spoke to me when she was away because she was spending time with them. I think we had like 2 calls...

[Asker]

Also thank you for your reply!

[OlderAndWiser]

That does seem to be a bit excessive. If you got married, it would not get better.

[EmyyWolf]

Then she lost attraction to you. Or you turned her off indefinitely.
I don’t know what you did to her, but it’s one of those.

I know this cause. She’s treating you like a Friend. JUST A FRIEND. I live with my parents but I’m not talking to them every second. She’s focused and interested in someone else or something else. The parents probably know that person.

Who knows that behavior is really weird. Something else has got her interested though.
I’d take a break from the relationship. Give her 2 weeks to make up her mind. Say it’s you or the parents. That you don’t feel happy with her behavior.

[Asker]

Out of all the answers... I'm just going to say I wish you hadn't answered..."I don't know what you did to her"... I'm sorry but you are what is wrong with society now a days, automatically blame the guy... or assume its the OPs fault. Go take your assumptions elsewhere because they aren't welcome here

[EmyyWolf]

But I might be right.. Did I say it’s your fault? 🤡

[Razp_Sorbet]

Every day is a bit much. Wouldn't upset me but annoying for sure. How could you possibly have anything to talk about. My boyfriend use to ring his parents to catch up every week or two but that got old very quick. Now he doesn't talk to his mum and calls his dad to wish him happy birthday, or when something stressful happens and he needs to vent or he just wants to chat.

[Razp_Sorbet]

I don't call my parents because they just live 5 min away. I just walk over if I wanna chat

[DizzyDesii]

It wouldn't upset me but i’d think they’re a mamas boy and ion really want that. I would prob call once a week or month but not daily

[DizzyDesii]

My grandma called my mom at least 3 times a day everyday and she wonders why she doesn't date ole dude anymore 😂

[annabananna]

It wouldn’t bother me if done everyday as long as he also made time for me. If she isn’t making time for you maybe talk to her about balancing her relationships.

[exitseven]

My wife came from a close family, just the opposite of me. I never minded it is she called her mother or sister.

[XXblack88]

Them talking to there mom every day wouldn't but for 1h30 to 2h every day would get annoying.

[Anonymous]

She's weird. Her behavior sounds immature. Are you sure she's messaging her family and staying at her family's home? Are you sure she's not talking to her side piece and staying at his house?

[sheikalana]

No, as long they don't stay on the phone for hours.

[tfan1]

No my wife calls her mom and her sisters almost every night but we still have time. 🙂

[Kinkyhubby]

In my cade, my mother in law calls my wif.. it does get annoying, sometime 2 to 3 times. Day

[Rockstarrrrr]

If it's that much then yes

[Straight2thepoint]

Wow walk away reason number 1