I’m not worrying about my looks fading soon - I’m a model and don’t even have wrinkles. I look young so still have time. Any comments about the “wall” will be deleted. I am a great person but am having trouble getting into relationships and wonder if I should just accept that I’m meant to be single with everyone else marrying.
If what you say is true, then you are suffering "Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2".
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If you Google "Beautiful Girl Syndrome", that's basically saying that beautiful girls can be bitchier and high maintenance because guys are willing to put up with more because she is so beautiful. Guys won't put up with so much shit and work if the girl isn't so attractive.
"Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2" is a phrase I coined, but it's a real thing I discovered not quite 40 years ago. This will take some time to explain...
All guys need to feel that they can "win". They view things as something like a competition in which there is some goal that they want to achieve. If a guy wants something and he believes that there is SOME possibility that he may get it, he will get emotionally involved. If he begins to believe that he won't get that, then he begins to withdraw and get emotionally detached. However, sometimes a guy doesn't even think he has a chance, so he doesn't bother...
And this is where "Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2" comes in. If a girl is really beautiful, a regular guy thinks:
1. There are a zillion other guys who want her.
2. She almost certainly already has a boyfriend.
3. There is no way she'd be attracted to me; I am not anything special.
4. If she did date me, she'd dump me for some better-looking guy who will hit on her and there definitely will be such a guy.
5. She's going to be bitchy and high-maintenance. (In other words, he thinks she suffers from normal Beautiful Girl Syndrome.)
So, he basically thinks that
1) he doesn't have a chance to get her,
2) if he did, he'll lose her, and
3) she's going to be a lot of work.
Because oceans of guys think like this - the only exception being the hunky guys - the beautiful girl either can't find a guy or goes with dickhead hunky guys (who suffer from Beautiful Guy Syndrome). Of course, the regular guys see the beauties with the hunky guys and that just reinforces their belief that they don't have a chance...
Oh, and one more thing: Since beautiful girls can get guys, they are getting laid... So, any new boyfriend has to "compete" against all of her past lovers and many guys don't think they are going to "measure up" (if you know what I mean) compared to those past hunky guys.
So, a beautiful girl needs to be proactive and hit on men instead of waiting for them to hit on her. A beautiful girl being proactive removes doubts males have regarding Beautiful Girl Syndrome Type 2.
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You shouldn't panic but you should also realize things only get worse, not better. The men you have access to are generally going to be the best ones you will ever have access to. Short of you making drastic changes to your life which the average person is not willing to do. Ie move for dating prospects, change careers, engage in high level networking. Just some ideas.
So to some degree you should settle but also maybe your standards are too high? Something a lot of women struggle with right now is they want a man smart capable one with many options and the brains to know what's what YET he must also be willing to marry them. Which marriage is no longer a good proposition for men and most men with a brain are not doing it. So I mean... pick one or the other.
Hell no, you won’t be happy just settling that’s for sure. Trust that what’s meant for you will never pass you by and don’t settle for less.
Don't ever settle. Wait for the right person, otherwise you'll become disappointed.
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It's not about panicking. There is no need to panic. Please don't panic.
Finding love and finding a relationship is not a chore. Stop thinking of it in those terms. Just open your heart up and date different people. And if the right guy comes along, Marry him! If he's NOT the right one, move on.Maybe not panic but it's unreal how many good guys are basically ignored by women because they think they can do better rather than take an honest look at themselves and the kind of man they are going to get.
Is it possible that as a model you're too good looking and intimidate some guys who think that you might be out of there league?
No you just have come across your knight in shining armor, but it will happen don't bush it
I don't recommend settling for loser guys. I myself am looking for love and a good girl ☺️💕
no, it won't make you happy.
Why would she panic?
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