Which gender struggles more with getting over someone and why?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

Well first of all you have to understand love and it doesn't matter what gender you are it's painful it's a beautiful thing when you're in love and when something happens is painful now you have to understand why it's painful the first time we fall in love it is something brand new that we just experienced for the very first time your heart skips a beat you say stupid things it's a brand new world everything's fresh and alive we have a soul of spirit we also have an energy and our energies who we truly are. And when two energies become one it's like they work off of the same heartbeat..

It doesn't matter if your male or female when you break up with somebody it hurts you cannot eat you cannot sleep you constantly think about that person 24 hours a day you want to stop hurting and you know you can stop hurting but there's something inside of you that just makes it difficult and that's your energy your energy became one with that person and now you have two things you're fighting your energy is Mourning the energy of that other person so you're constantly fighting yourself so when you break up the best thing to do is accept it because once you get through that this is the part that I'm really sorry to say is that you will have another breakup and another breakup and another breakup until you find that one person but he's done you break up it's been learning experience it becomes a guide to who we become as a person how much crap we will take and it becomes how much love are we going to give this person it changes your destiny because the odds are you're going to break up again in the next relationship and it's really sad to say but until you understand who you truly are it's hard to understand anybody else so the odds of breaking up again with somebody is not good just remember this in any relationships that you get into people call it a 50/50 deal it's not that means you love everything equal and it just doesn't work out that way for me I will give 100%, and I know that I can't make anybody love me all do my part and give them the love that I want to give them it doesn't matter which direction it's going to go I will still be myself either way I would like to say the odds are in your favor that they're not so anyway it's painful and that pain will go away when you wanted to because you are the only person that lives inside of you that can give you that pain nobody else can so when you wanted to go away find something to take the Pain's place hopefully something happy and it will go away

[lightbulb27]

I've heard there are 59 genders and I'm not sure if that includes gender fluid.

So I'm going to say gender fluid... unless the fluidty enables them to get past the emotions sooner.

Regarding the "old world" male/female genders, I'd say women. Women tend to soak in their emotions more and men can numb up and avoid the feelings whereas women spend time processing. Some men can be stuck for long time though, it may be more a matter of the emotional makeup and personality of the person.

[DizzyDesii]

I think its about if you feel you accomplished all that you could with that person. I move on quickly because i understand when we reached a standstill and it was nothing else they could do to make me want to stay. The two people i haven't moved on from are the two i never dated in the first place lmao. So i’ll kinda always have that “what if”

[PrincessBunBuns]

I think it’s similar for both genders. Typically men appear to handle it better because you can’t be sentimental with your peers or the outside world.

[coachTanthony]

The gender who has less emotional maturity does which can be either one. We have all had that crushing break up but the next one and the one after that we coped better because we matured and didn't put all of our emotional energy into that person.

[red324]

Yeah my heart is pretty guarded now after meeting the one. I think most people settle enough these days that it's not that often they meet that special someone

[coachTanthony]

@red324 I think we all settle in some regards. I can't imagine ever getting everything I want in one person.

[ManOnFire]

So I think breakups tend to hurt more men more than women, because I think the connection means a lot more to men when they really have a woman on their life that they like a lot. But as far as getting over someone goes, I'm not sure which gender it would apply to.

Usually the person who cared the most or was the most invested will generally have a harder time getting over the other person. Male or female.

[Luopio27]

Dont think its gender. I think its more of a matter of popularity in the dating world. A man who is desired by women just as much as supermodels, have no problems getting someone else within minutes.


Those who always get rejected, then get accepted and dumped, have way higher risk of depression.

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna say women.
Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but generally I think women get far more emotionally invested into someone and it's much harder for them to move past it when it's taken away from them. Women also tend to fester on things longer than guys.

For most guys, a night out with the boys and a few meaningless flings is enough to get him over a girl.
Again, there are exceptions...

[Juxtapose]

Men do usually because the average guy will have a much harder time getting a new girlfriend so the loss is felt more keenly.

Meanwhile women can replace the guy within a week without a lot of effort so it's easier for them to move on when they're in the arms of somebody else.

[Hassan_8]

It's not about the gender, it's about the person

not all guys are the same and not all girls are the same

[WanderingLoveWizard]

True, but there are still generalizations you can make that apply to a large portion of the population. There's truth to every stereotype

[prensesmishka]

The only thing that has to do with gender is how the pain is experienced after a breakup. Pain does not depend on gender.

[Anonymous]

I like it how men are saying “men struggle harder over getting over someone” just because women seem to have more options.

even if they have 5 more guys lined up, the woman liked that particular one.

[Anonymous]

Women because they emotional bond with men before thiers any real logical reason to. Men take a much more measured approach. Women base thiers more of thier emotions and men base thier's more off logical reasoning.

[Sunssong]

The more superficial one will always hurt more.

[genericname85]

it doesn't have to do with gender. i'd say usually the one who's broken up with struggles more.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It doesn't depend on the gender, but the individual. Some people just have a harder time than others to let go and not all relationships are the same.

[Molly1997]

I just think it depends on the person. But from my personal experiences men do.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Men because we love women for real

women love under the premise that you provide value

Men love idealistically

women love opportunistically

[lottiebannotie]

I think it's fairly equal I am aware that there is a general consensus that women can replace a man more easily and that's probably true but doesn't help you much if you really love someone

[Babygirl_S]

I can't forget my ex while he has probably moved on. I don't know for sure. I think it's because women are more emotional.

[msc545]

Men struggle more. It is easy for women to replace a man, but not so easy for a man to replace a woman.

[John_Doesnt]

Girls struggle more because they have no Flubber.

[Vegasrunner]

That's an easy one. Men for sure takes longer to replace the person.

[Hardworkingguy]

It's an equal struggle when you really fall in love with someone and they break your trust but each gender deals with it differently