No matter how into the guy i may be, I’m a flirt, so being hurt is not going to keep me down for longer than a day or two. Thats just how I’m built. Like my no good daddy and my grandpa... we just flirt with others a lot. Its what we do. I personally wouldn’t physically get with someone as a way to get over someone but like i said, i technically would already be over the person either way. However i wouldn’t fully be over how the situation went down. So yes sometimes i need a distraction and a mf can forget real quick. But i like to turn distractions into permanent interactions. I don’t want temporary fun. I want something everlasting. Anyways, i’ll always love this song. I’ve posted it before but it continues to give me the chillzzzz
In my case hooking up with others doesn't do the trick. After the love of my life broke my heart and basically killed my ability to love, I did exactly that - hooked up with other girls (following a friend's advice) and yet it took me 13 years to forget her completely. Probably because I was always comparing those others to her. In fact, the thing that had the best effect (meaning that my mind was off her) was to play racing PC games until I fall asleep of exhaustion - mostly NFS U2 at the time. That game might be a 100% arcade (meaning 0 simulation) but it still requires a good amount of concentration in order to beat the bots or the real players in multiplayer and because of that required concentration I wasn't thinking about her.
I relate to this so much, man. I am finding myself doing the same thing right now. Playing games until I fall asleep of exhaustion. Specifically Forza 5 with my best friend.
@MagicHands You got the wrong car, that's why. The Supra is basically a fancy vacuum cleaner! I suppose I could install Forza 5 again (I removed it bc I needed the space for something else) and show you my favorite car (it's a track toy American muscle car) which destroys almost everything else. Even the Jesko suffers on some tracks with more corners than straight lines bc the Jesko can't make a turn without spinning out of control, LOL My in-game and community name is SPEEDERBG.
I take the time to heal and grieve the loss of the relationship before I start to talk to other people with the intentions of anything romantic. I wish I could move on faster but the idea of giving myself to another person in bed when I am thinking of someone who I love and they're gone from my life makes me want to cry my eyes out. Also I can't fuck someone because I'm hurt and angry at another person. It takes time to let go and process everything.
I don't easily move forward (unless the guy is so terrible, which is rare, considering, I haven't been in THAT many relationships) . So if I give my best... the relationship must have already been sensed to be dying... I'm already detaching before it ends... thus
I don't "hook up" but I would be open to getting to know someone else, not long after it's end... I know how long relationships take to establish...
I usually take time for myself to reflect and mentally recover. Especially if I have come from a relationship I've invested in deeply and had plans for in the future. Like my first relationship. Despite that I was the one who broke up because of narcissistic abuse and racism, it really affected me for many months. I would take as much time as I feel like before I start dating. Mainly because I don't want to burden the other person for not being over an ex. That wouldn't be fair. The only time when finding someone new would truly help in moving on is when you've gotten over the break up for the most part. Rebounds are pathetic and for most people, they don't work. Only the weak ones go for that and from my observation, are often people who are fundamentally unhappy and will never get satisfied with anyone.
Some people truly do get to move on by getting with someone else. But in their case, you would really start questioning whether they truly were serious about their previous partner.
My fiancé died 20+ years ago, 2 weeks before our wedding. I was devastated. I worked, as did she, for an Agency of the Federal Government. I then took the most dangerous jobs the Agency had, spending 15+ years with a team of other guys, primarily in the Middle East. Working 24-7 for many years, I finally took an early retirement, now spend my time fucking, much more enjoyable.
@DizzyDesii Thank you for the Like. It was a hard 15+ years, most of the time sleeping in the outdoors when we could sleep, no sex (but didn’t think of it very much then). But now I want to fuck all the time, enjoy those great orgasms, make women cum as much as I can, unloading my cum in their pussys. I am happy now!
You know how that goes its like a real injury so sometimes you have to jump up and walk that shit off vs staying down and the pain making it harder to get up as time passes. That being said you always run the risk of causing permanent damage if you are careless and don't find the time to deal with it.
Depends on the person and circumstance, I suppose. There were some who I have dated for years without as much as having batted an eye afterwards, and then there is someone whose memory of has been ruining me for the past 4+ years, in spite of knowing them for less than 2 months.
In their defense, they haven't done anything wrong. They just made me realize that I have flaws which I can't identify, it's the can't identify part that has let me down. I just don't want to be the reason why good people make shitty decisions, and frankly that's why I have shunned everyone else ever since.
It depends on what type of relief I want. Swiping through dating apps right away for the quick hits of validation. Holding a few playful convos with people that show great potential for the peace of mind/certainty this will turn out well if not better. I try to refrain from the self soothing I equate with "taking time for myself" (binge eating, binge TVing, & other misbehaviors...) However, there were two times in my life after a break up where I did decide to "not date anyone" on purpose. In both cases I felt aimless in other areas of my life and was compelled to stew on that instead. Lmao. Rumination about the breakup event sprinkled throughout. I should probably just go out and physically hook up with people instead. Sounds bold. I can get lazy
I give 100% to every relationship I'm in, but I learned from a very early age never to get upset when they break down. IF they work out great, if not I thank them for the good times we shared and go find someone else.
So far! I have been through this situation and as mom said! You isolated your self for two weeks, not even going to the gym. After two weeks! I was back to "normal" until i met the wife (8 months after).
i just get into new relationships the virgo in me ain't really a hook up person and that's because it's too easy for most women to get vindictive wit ya based on catchin feelins so i feel if they get the relationship and commitment that they want from me first if they do then that keeps em from gettin like that wit me
I think it’s a bad idea because you are using someone as a tool to get over another person and it’s hoe’ish behavior. I wouldn’t feel bad leaving a girl who can bounce around that fast from a breakup. For me, The breakup isn’t finalized until cheating or seeing another person. Otherwise it’s just an argument with distance.
Just saying I've broken up with my girl multiple times and after some distance we miss each other and get back together again. But if she started screwing someone else during that time that would end it. I know it’s childish behavior to break up like that but it’s pretty common.
Usually I hit tinder and hook up literally straight away. Bad idea if you are still hurting. Give yourself time to heal. Which is what I'm doing this time around.
I dated several girls in the space of about a year. As soon as one relationship went south I would try to find somebody else. I thought I was being really cool. Some of these girls were bimbos but some were very nice. I treated them all badly.
my opinion in this one, take one day on your own and later on it's better to meet your friends and family and talk about other stuff so it helps your mentality, it's best if your friends are around in that time
I have done both I honestly do hookup with a another girl while I am on the rebound but if it was a long term relationship I might take a couple months and enjoy being single for awhile.
Yea getting ghosted is so common now a days that it’ll shake u up for a bit but you’re back flirting the next 24 hours like oh well on to the next haha
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