What can I do to accept that the person that I love doesn't love me back?

[03981722]

[MrOracle]

You have to accept that you aren't a princess and that live isn't a Disney fairy tale. You aren't guaranteed a happy ending, or to get everything you want. If you fall in love with someone who doesn't love you, you have to be an adult and realize that you can't change how that person feels, and that there's no point in putting any more effort into that person. Make a clean and complete break from them, and continue meeting new people.

You cannot change how other people feel about you. The BEST that you can do is figure out what the majority of men are looking for, and to become those things - that's what will give you the most choices and likely the best choices. Regardless of how you feel about the things that men want (you may disagree with the things that men prioritize, but you will not be able to change what men care about), if you make yourself attractive to the largest percentage of men, you can vastly increase your chances of finding some great men that YOU like who also like you. The less willing you are to be what men want, the fewer options you will have, and the greater the chance that you won't like the choices you've got, or that the guys you want won't want you.

Men have to do exactly the same thing: we have to become what women want, and the better we do that, the better our options, and conversely, the less we are willing or able to become what women want, the worse our options are.

Even if you do this, it won't guarantee you any specific man in particular, but it greatly increases your odds of finding a match that YOU like, who likes you back.

[Anonymous]

Ok lets unpack this and find the truth of it.

There is a saying and like most sayings it is true it goes as follows; if you love someone you will set them free / let them go.

This means that love is not selfish and possessive it supports what is in the best interests of the loved person.

So loving the person is clearly not the problem here.

So it would seem that the problem is infact that the person who you previously thought was your person turned out not to be your person.

Well that is a disappointment but thats all it is, when I was a child I clearly remember being told that I 'should not get my hopes up' meaning that I should set myself up for a bad time by allowing myself to believe that an undetermined outcome had to resolve in my favour.

Presumably one of the criteria for your person is that they want to be with you as much as you want to be with them; this person does not meet your criteria so by definition you are not in love with this person, you are really in love with a fantasy that you have created or centred around this person.

So just stop doing that and continue your search for your person.

In future it will save your feelings for you to find out where you stand before you invest yourself.

[Rosexøxø]

Love yourself. Spend time loving other things/activities in life.

Love striving and the exhaust of striving from hard, sought-out goals.

Love other people who mean well for you and mean much to you.

Adjust your love and you’ll be adjusting focus.

adjusting these means you will have room to be happy.

you loving someone who didn’t love you back means and meant that you were invested in someone who wasn’t invested reciprocally and so that made room to be hurt and notice that emptiness.

so adjust the focus and loves for a while, so you have room to notice the things that do promise to make you happy.

Whether that be a moment, a time, or a time of many times.

[Rosexøxø]

Best to you, truly.

I understand the theme to this sorrow, and I have made progress. Time and time again.

Any pain that is caused/ inflicted from another person as the direct source- can usually only be healed by means of distraction

And distraction leads on to a proper disassociation and disconnect from someone who would ONLY hurt your emotions and esteems.

Distract in this case, for the proper and rightful disassemble. It’s the best thing for you or anyone like you in this particular situation.

[SueShe]

If you continue to think about it, you will never get over that fact.

Those are things that happen in life and that you have to accept, just like you have to accept the fact that you are getting older. There is nothing you can really do about it.

Love reciprocation is not something you can buy but you have to earn it. If it does not come naturally, then you can try to force it but it will never be real love.

Get over it. The best is not to dwell about what could have been or what you should have done. Get rid of trinkets, pictures or other memorabilia that reminds you of him/her and concentrate on the future rather than to mourn the past. Good luck.

[OlderAndWiser]

What are the circumstances of the relationship between you and your love interest?

[xJeremyx]

All you can do is just smile and keep on chugging along. Loads of things in life do not go our way, its our job to deal with the blows and go with the flow.

We all know it sucks, but the good thing is you are not alone in this experience. At some point or another, most of us have experienced what we call "unrequited love". And lots of people have gotten past it, so it is doable.

So pat yourself on the back, get a nice dinner with your friends, and do something you enjoy (with the exception of alcohol).

Then get up the next day, remind yourself that its not the end of the world, get to school/work, and put in your best effort. Keep doing that and you'll eventually feel better!

[Anonymous]

maybe he does love you back but you hurt him tremendously caused him so much heartbreak and pain and suffering endless crying and tears for months on end. panick attacks every night unable to sleep completely petrified of you scared of you. complete fear. all the mental and emotional abuse you put him through. you don't fully realize how bad it got at times the amount of tears he shed the endless painful days and nights in fear and longing. wishing he was no longer alive living with scars on his forearm and swallowing pills don't work electrocuting don't work even isopropyl alcohol don't work and a bb shooter with the safety off might of but didn't pull the trigger. he was suffering a lot from all the pain you caused him

[Opinion Owner]

do u know how humiliated he felt while you were up on stage saying what u did in front of hundreds of people how heartbroken he was how much he was crying the amount of hurt and betrayal that you caused him back in October and prior and even after and all the horrible things your family said to him as well. he loved you with all his heart he gave you roses he prayed for you a lot he gave you everything he had and all you did was crush his spirit and destroyed him from the inside out. you broke him down so much emotionally and mentally caused him so much pain and suffering and heartache and all the times you made inconsiderate posts knowing he would see it but you still didn't care and did it anyways

[Opinion Owner]

you hurt him so much things will never be the same between you and him no matter how much he may had wanted it to be

[Simspawn]

Grow up, have a sense of self worth, find value in yourself and find someone who values you to the same level.

Simply accept that they don't love you and move on with your life. Why would you ask for advice on how to live with someone that doesn't live you? That's like asking how to live eating half the amount of food you actually need.

[RHK36]

Move on and stop with the Disney bs, the "there's a soul mate for everyone". That's a bunch of bs, relationships work when both people are actively trying or the chemistry is just that on point. The constant thinking and trying to make it work is only holding you back from finding someone new.

[SpanishRose]

Unfortunately time and space will be your only hope. Time will heal and space will help it not hurt so bad. You can't make anyone love you, and we can't help who we fall for. It's life Unfortunately. Wish you the best.

[Staximus]

It happens. Move on with your life and find somebody better. Just protect your heart in the future and don't fall for or love somebody that doesn't care about or love you as much as you do them

[WhitneySnow]

Just focus on being unselfish and caring about them even if they don’t feel the same way

[strlb]

Find someone else that will love you for you. You're young and it will happen just be patient and keep your options open. Best of luck

[Guy13]

Stop focusing on it

[TheAfrikan]

Not being loved back by the one you live, it does not mean that the world is ending. Perhaps there is plenty of fish 🐠 in different waters.

[Anonymous]

Let me put it this way, "what is your other option".

[Anonymous]

Sadly, that is life.

[03981722]

yes 🙄

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Break all contact