Boyfriend "doesn't believe" in sharing passwords, what do I say to him? (Page 2)

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been with boyfriend about 6 months now and it's going pretty well, I brought up the other day about sharing phone code and passwords and he said he will share his phone code but that's it, he "doesn't believe" in sharing passwords, and that people have a right to privacy, and this I don't agree with, once we've had sex, there are no longer any boundaries for us, but he's refusing to budge, do I break up with him, is he doing something wrong, or am I being pushy, I've always had passwords in relationships and regularly check their accounts to make sure they are faithyful.

abc3643 · Answer

You need to grow up fast. You are your own worst enemy in every romantic relationship you are in.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

YOU should say I DON’T TRUST YOU & I want your passwords & if he says I think we should break up it’s all on you.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

He should break up with you. You have no business asking for his passwords and you certainly have no business checking up on him.

boggboss · Answer

What beed do u have to his passwords and ehat needs does he need yours sorry

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Wow this is a popular post. It's only been 6 months. After 6 years he'll be asking you what his passwords are lol

Anonymous · Answer

Problem: No joint vision Leads to: War between undefined, separate visions Leads to: Physical separation or dissatisfaction  My advice:  You 're not ready for a relationship

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Learn from him to not share passwords. That is the most insane thing you do. Never do that. Never share and ask for passwords.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

You have no business to know his passwords nor him yours.  According to you the relationship is going well, don't be stupid and ruin something good because you desire to be nosy.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I never understand why women do this. Why do you need his password to his phone that's his private phone. 🤔 You only been with him 6 months slow down you obviously have trust issues. Your in a relationship that going well so just chill and enjoy it

spartan55 · Answer

Hahaha, he should dump you today. Why are you with him if you don't trust him?

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Then you should break up. Obviously, you both hold different values in privacy and you clearly can't respect his.

rienna888 · Answer

Umm I wouldn’t share pass with my partner either. Like yes your soulmates but a little bit of privacy would be good. Like he could be hiding some embarsssing childhood photos etc

DarkLegacy · Answer

You regularly check to make sure they are bot cheating. This is one toxic relationship, and you should trust him. He should drop you like a penny.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Well not everyone is gonna be okay with it... it's not a must... It's a plus... so you can't really blame him... Although I can understand your frustration... He's just not that of person...

Pohjolan · Answer

Its not just his privacy but the privacy of the other people he is interacting with. Yeah you should break up  and  refrain from dating until you are enough mature to handle a relationship.

Wade12345 · Answer

Sorry, you're not getting my passwords before we're engaged.

EmmaMary · Answer

Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Say to him "I know I'm unreasonable and distrusting and scared and unhealed."

ThinkFitness23 · Answer

Put a 4 digit pin on your puss*… Using digits 0-9 has 10,000 combinations.

annabananna · Answer

You have to respect his decision on this one and say ok. If this is not negotiable for you I guess find someone that want a relationship like that.

Shamalien · Answer

Sharing passwords is way too fking far, even phone pass is too far. It’s called trust. You gotta risk it for the biscuit

najekim · Answer

You have trust issues if you feel the need to have to check up on him. Wife and I didn't know each other's passwords and such until we started living together.

Stoner710 · Answer

you break up with him and say have a nice life

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Passwords aren't to be shared, unless mutually agreed upon. You're going to wind up driving this guy away.

strlb · Answer

Why should he share his passwords. If you don't trust him leave. Somethings are private for a reason even in a relationship, just saying.

Marked_Man · Answer

Either you trust him or you don't. He's not comfortable so can you trust without verifying? If not, you have your answer.

clampfan101 · Answer

This is one of many reasons I’m waiting for marriage before sex. That’s going to be when the gloves come off and what we own we own together.

OddBeMe · Answer

Idk…some people are more private. Really, your only option is to accept it or demand he change, which isn’t likely. He could be technically cheating, but prob just likes being private. As I do.

Anonymous · Answer

He's right Guess you want his social security number and card details as well so he can finish his transition to living breathing ATM for you

Pinkspark · Answer

I agree with him. I wouldn't share my phone code either.

Iron_Man · Answer

I don’t have a problem with my girlfriend using my tablet or my phone. I’ve done nothing wrong.

Paul09 · Answer

Say nothing. None of your business. Passwords are not meant to be shared. Let the man have his privacy , as he gives you privacy.

RHK36 · Answer

You don't have rights to someone else's privacy and that entitlement is lowkey nutty.

SolitarySolace · Answer

He probably had a shitty experience and doesn’t trust anyone with his password. Can’t blame him.

boobliker · Answer

in law, he is correct none of us should share passwords.

Lazyrider67 · Answer

The whole point of passwords is that they are private. Of course he doesn't want to share them. Why do you want to know his passwords, anyway?

nawtee_me · Answer

Relationships are built on trust, do you not trust him?

gorydetails · Answer

you say "ok, I respect your privacy"

LiamJHayden · Answer

If you disagree over this you cannot build trust. You might want to move on.

Anonymous · Answer

He isn’t married to you, could be sensitive things on there through work other things since you only know him for 6 months it’s not long enough, I like to have some privacy and individualality

Mangospacho · Answer

You’re not married. You don’t have to share passwords.

msc545 · Answer

You say thank you very much for injecting some sanity into this relationship.

Maya_LaDiosa · Answer

Leave it alone. There's no need to share passwords. If you don't trust him, then you're wasting your time.

InsecureLivesMatter · Answer

He has every right to do that. I don't expect a password from my girlfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

I share my passwords, but I don't I don't share all of them. I give her what I choose. You see where this is going? You have to trust him, or else don't be with him.

Fuentes · Answer

I would not share passwords because their isn't a reason to do so

maximumpower · Answer

Say "OK."  Truly - it's none of your business.

melanieeeB · Answer

Nothing, he is right.

Anonymous · Answer

You only share passwords with your spouse. And even then you should keep at least one to yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

wow you're a psychopath wow you're a real sociopath

BearDed08 · Answer

Just respect my boundaries is what he means :)

Straight2thepoint · Answer

You are controlling and a toxic breed.

magiusX26 · Answer

you say "ok" and respect his wishes on this.

iSensei · Answer

He is right every person need some privacy

TheFlak38 · Answer

Good job being a control bitch.

In_Trance · Answer

You're wrong. Toxic femininity

TrillXHippy · Answer

So you don’t trust your boyfriend? Noted

driven159 · Answer

Being pushy and controlling

EaterPeter · Answer

I respect that and you should too

Anonymous · Answer

It is 99% likely he is hiding something.

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