Would you break up with your boyfriend if you felt like you’re not being heard in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been arguing about the same thing. I’m so tired I feel like I would be better off without him. We have a car together and he wants to get another car. I don’t want another car we keep arguing about it. He doesn’t seem to listen to anything I’m saying. He is still going to car dealership behind my back running up my credit. I built my credit by myself he’s already used 26 points. Every time I express to him how I feel all he says is I told you I’m gonna pay to fix your credit. It doesn’t matter I don’t want anything else on my credit. I want to break up with him today. It’s draining me

[quaranta]

Breaking up is the only thing in a couple that doesn't need mutual consent, so yeah, you can break up if you want. But make it a serious decision, don't come back later when guilt and needs will kick in, you'll have to resist and let yourself move on, letting the time do its course with its ups and downs until you'll be over him. Make it a responsible things, so let the steam off for a week and if you're still firm on your point of wanting to break up (and it proves it wasn't just an impulse) then you should break up.
You're already doing it right by expressing to him how you feel instead of telling him what he should do. But also, you have power on the situation because if he is using your credit then you are the one who is entitled to buy a car for him (by yourself) and going to dealers etc, and to take the ultimate decisions about that, not him. This should be obvious but for some reason you let him do that. What about his credit instead, then? Is he treating you like a mother? That would be quite weird but anyway, whatever the reason you should prohibit him to use your credit if you don't agree with its usage, and if you have enough you should feel free to break up as well, without his consent (I specify this because since it looks like the way you seem responsible for his problems somehow, you might even think you can't break up without his decision first, or something skewed of this sort). And you should break up especially if these problems in communication persist from a lot of time, which means things are probably not going to change and similar arguments will arise through other important topics later anyway.
All in all, if you feel drained and he doesn't give you enough to repair it, the balance is negative and the relationship ended its purpose. Before breaking up you can still giving him an ultimatum in case he wants to carry responsibilities over the relationship and change a lot of things of that but if he is not cooperating then the negotiation of the ultimatum fails and the breakup should come as a consequence.

[LazerBean]

Yeah, in a heartbeat. The minute something is proving to be consistently off in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship I would have broken it off.

[teamvic]

Well, just ask yourself this one question twice, once without the whole buying a car and messing up your credit and again with that in mind.

Are you TRULY happy with him in that relationship?🤔 once you figure that out your next course of action shouldn't be that hard

[OhyeahCumHere]

Yeah