My boyfriend doesn't care about anything, including my thoughts... What should I do?
It can be difficult to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't seem to care about anything, including your thoughts and feelings. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and to communicate your concerns and feelings in a clear and direct way.
Here are some suggestions that may be helpful:
1. Have an open and honest conversation: Try to have a conversation with your boyfriend about how you're feeling and why you're concerned about his lack of interest in your thoughts and feelings. It's important to be clear and direct about your concerns, but also to approach the conversation in a non-judgmental way.
2. Listen to his perspective: It's important to listen to your boyfriend's perspective and to try to understand why he may be disinterested in things. He may be going through a difficult time or may have other reasons for his behavior.
3. Set boundaries: If your boyfriend's behavior is making you feel neglected or unsupported, it may be helpful to set clear boundaries around what you need in the relationship. Let him know what you need from him in terms of emotional support and engagement, and be prepared to follow through on your boundaries if he doesn't meet them.
4. Consider seeking support: If your boyfriend's behavior is causing you significant distress or if you're struggling to communicate effectively with him, it may be helpful to seek support from a mental health professional or relationship counselor. A professional can help you navigate the challenges of the relationship and develop effective communication and coping strategies.
Remember, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and to communicate your feelings and concerns in a clear and direct way. With open communication and mutual respect, it may be possible to work through these challenges and build a healthier, more fulfilling relationship.
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What kind of thoughts are we talking about here? It does depend. Changing job/career? Difficulties at work? Or really mundane ones?
My female housemate doesn't have a good female friend, and a lot of the time her thoughts go back to when she was a little girl and she seems to think I should be a little girl with her when she is recalling these memories. Which is not only extremely difficult never having been a little girl but these little girl memories are bat shit boring.
I wish she would hurry up and get a female friend that she can exchange memories of playing elastics with.
So my question back is are your thoughts are on significant things or on things that guys just aren't going to be interested in like playing elastics as a little girl? The fact is girls are interested in things guys aren't and guys are interested in things girls aren't. That's why we have same sex friends.
If the thoughts are significant and he is not interested then perhaps he is not really interested in you. Or your thoughts bore him.
I think you know the answer, and I'm gonna help you out.
Dump him.
The options are:
stay- and be undervalued/ mistreated
get dumped
or dump him
guys don't really change because of lovers- they usually just change from the aid and perspective of a mentor or friend. Someone they'd respect and who gets them. The respect/ reverence is the most important part.
Even aside from this, it's hard to change anyone. People RARELY (practically NEVER) change for other people. That's not a good enough reason to 'messed up' people. They need something that will be convincing to them- a better and direct alternative to what it was that made them hurt or cynical about life.
There is nothing you can do to change others all you can do is change yourself and your position
You either stay as a victim asking what where why when or leave.. and be the ceo of your life without the suspense of why what when where.
It’s up to you how much common sense you have
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Accept him for who he is, or move on. You knew who he was when you got together, you just thought that out of all the things he didn't care about, you would be special. I mean, it sucks for things to turn out that way, but people only change on their own, if they don't care about themselves or their friends, they won't care about you.
Say good bye and find a new one who cares
In short: Get a boyfriend who does care about you.
Relationships are a two way street. Both people benefit by listening, caring and communicating. The fastest way to kill a relationship, any relationship, is to stop communicating.
If your boyfriend does not care what you think, then he almost certainly does not value you as a human being. It is not going to work well for you if he values you only as a convenience or something to use when he has whatever urge. Don't let yourself get trapped into that kind of situation.
Beyond that, I can't suggest anything. You have a mind, you have thoughts. Follow them to a happier and more fulfilling relationship.There are people who care and people who don’t and nothing you can do to change that. What you can do is put up with it or you don’t. Any situation they causes you distress ask yourself and be harsh and honest in answering is it worth it? Then act accordingly. You might find other good things that outweigh him not caring only you would know.
Best of luckSounds like a pretty lame one sided
Relationship to me , , what’s the point of being with someone of you don’t have anything to share with each other and they don’t care? I would be making my plans to move on if that was meWell if he doesn't care about you or your thoughts then maybe you should move on he's never gonna change some guys are just like that they don't care about anyone but themselves I bet if you broke up with him he would just get with someone else but if he cries when you break it off with him then he does care just doesn't show it
break up. one of the most important things a boyfriend should be is caring and if he doesn't care about you that's a big red flag. you deserve someone better.
Do you have any intresting thoughts? If not why would it occupy his mind? Men are not women so unless your thoughts actually add value to some task, it's often seen as irrelevant.
If he doesn't care now he's just a boyfriend, what more if he becomes your husband? and have kids? 😬
Talk to him about this, know this is bothering you.
Dump him, if he doesn't care what you think, he doesn't love you.
I wonder how these type of men ever get anyone. Dump his ass. Is he doing you for sex? Either way red flag!
Leave him. He doesn't care why should you? Find someone better that will listen and be there for you.
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why? Like what made him stop caring about everything or who made him?
At 41 years old, I have faith you know what you should do.
You should end this dysfunctional relationship how long have you been in it?
We need WAY more than this. Like, give us examples.
Well he is not going to change. So you have to decide if this is the guy for you or not.
Do you feel like he at least respects you and loves you
Dump him for someone who does care.
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