What kind of approach do you tend to take when dealing with problems related to love, relationship or of such nature?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I know a mix of both is the ideal answer. And it is viable as well. But still, you cannot be 50/50 right? What is your inclination?

An emotional approach.

A somewhat practical approach.

[dynamicyandere]

Emotions can weigh in, as emotions can be an indicator of what you value, how much you value it, and why.


Humans are emotional beings and it’s part of the human experience, so I allow my emotions to have a “voice” or a “say” if you will.


But, ultimately, the way I feel or intuit about a certain decision is still only going to be 1 factor of many.


It has its place, and it will be heard, but it does not dictate my final decisions.


At the end of the day, there’s a problem to be solved.


How I feel about the solution is irrelevant if it truly is the right solution.


But, I may need to listen to my feelings as part of that assessment to figure out what exactly is the right solution.


For example, if I notice my fiancée isn’t acting like her usual self, I can take the logical route, notice her behavior and cross reference memories I have of her displaying similar behavior and finding correlations between past behavior and past outcomes, and coming up with an estimation of how likely this behavior is going to correlate with the estimated outcome, then act accordingly.


Or… I can listen to my intuition, my feelings, my senses, and something tells me it’s XYZ that’s the reason. Then I ask if she’s going through XYZ. She says yes, how did I know, and then I give her support and reassurance.


That’s an example where it would be very important to allow feelings and emotions to be very much a part of that decision making process.


When it comes to comforting your loved ones emotionally and giving emotional support, they need to feel warmth from you. So allow yourself to feel and let your love pour out.


But, when it comes to certain other things and other decisions, like if you’re in the middle of an argument, it’s better to cool off and calm down and get to a place where you are calm cool and collected so you can think clearly about what is the best sustainable solution resolve the conflict.


If that means you need to do something hard or uncomfortable, something you don’t feel like doing, then too bad. If it’s the right thing to do, it’s the right thing to do. So you need to make yourself do it, no matter how you feel.


So, different situations call for different things. But with every decision, it’s usually a combination of both logic and emotion for me, and how I allow it to lean depends on the context of the situation.

[NathanDavis]

it is both... always, both

about leaning to either side... there's always a different approach, and it will depend on a few things... the issue (s), your partner... and the kind of relationship you have with your partner

[OlderAndWiser]

A solution that ignores feelings may have a hard time gaining traction. A solution that ignores practicalities may not solve the problem in a lasting way. Why can't a solution take account of feelings and logic?

[Anonymous]

A very practical approach. I don't tolerate nonsense. I've been alone before and have no problem being alone again if you bring more aggravation to my life then joy. Then I will choose to be alone again.

[Jamie05rhs]

A practical approach. Every time.