How does it make you feel when members of the same sex hit on you?

[Equi2ube]

Guys and gals, this didn't even used to be a thing. Now it happens to me quite often. I don't consider myself gay (though I've lived with and loved a man for six years now. It's complicated, I am decidedly bi I suppose, but almost never see a man I'm attracted to. Women are another story. We have a semi-open relationship in the fact that, with prior notice, playing w/someone on occasion can be tolerated.

But seriously, does it happen to a lot of people? Personally, it makes me uncomfortable, sometimes flattered, sometimes disgusted if it's an ugly guy. How bout y'all?

[msmissydc]

It didn't happen that often. I can remember 5 instances, where it happend. In my experience all of them where more understanding, that I was not interested, than the average man. Three of them where probably even a bit easy to understand me wrong. Going out with a lesbian and a bisexual girl who are obviously partners can give a wrong impression, when there are two other women in the group as well.

One time I felt bad for her. It was actually the first time. My at the time fiance, went away getting new drinks. It was on a city festival/fair. She came up to me and I dindnt even relized she was trying to flirt with me. I just chatted with her thinking it was a friendly chat. The moment I realized I tried to make it clear I missunderstood her. This was obviously embarrassing for both of us. She was sweet and I kinda felt bad for her. I was used that when someome is hitting on me, that its more obvious and by men.

How it makes me feel depends how she is doing it. As I said most of them where not as intrusive as some men so it was easier to make it clear I am not interested.
But normally not much different than with men.

[jennifer_bloom]

I had that happen a few times. I refused to meet in a private place cause I was afraid they would rape me.

[BradBoy]

I've had some mixed feelings on it. I'm bi as well. When I was 15, I was on vacation and at a hotel and this old guy in his 60's if I had to guess just comes up and goes 'are you legal?' and it was super creepy the whole conversation. Literally the same year though, my baseball coach who knew I was into at least one of the guys on the team hits on me and I totally loved it. He was like late 30's or early 40's but I was definitely into him so I felt way different about that. I had the highlighted hair back then so I think lots of people assumed I was gay because of that. Ever since I stopped doing that, it's pretty rare I get hit on by guys. Last time it kinda happened was years ago and I don't remember exactly what he said, but he was just like 'hey gorgeous' or some kinda name like that and I was just kinda surprised was all. He looked younger than me. I wasn't uncomfortable or flattered or anything, it just had been so long, I was kinda surprised he was just that straight forward with it. Now I'm usually out with my girlfriend though, not so much by myself so I think that's why it never happens anymore.

[RobT312]

Im recently bi, and find its now happening more. I think its because im putting myself in more situations for that to happen. When im out with my bi buddy we may give off gay vibes as i think we may look like a couple when together. When i get hit on i dont act on it or say much. A little flattered and a little weirded out is what happens to me

[CheeseMonster]

Nobody has hit on me, like flirting or anything. I've been asked on a date once by a member of the same sex, but that was back when I was living as the opposite sex. So even that I wouldn't count. I guess it felt awkward anyway cause I didn't know what I was doing.

I would probably feel awkward again now just because I know I don't want anything like that. So I'd have to turn them down no matter how hot or cool they are. And hopefully they'd believe when I say it's not them.

[Levin]

If men want to be attracted to me, while that is fine and natural.

But in my experience, guys are pretty creepy. Some guy fucking kissed me from behind at some club thing. I was all about ready to smash his face in the next time he tried something like that. No respect of boundaries and act stalkerish.

[Levin]

And incidentally, no respect of patent heterosexuality.

[Sour-rose]

Happy. Knowing even among my own sex, im definitely hot

[mobiusforniner]

Not often. The few times it happened, I felt weird.

[Jocktober]

I'm bi, but never really had a guy hit on me. I think I'd like it lol

[Anonymous]

Flattered.

[Emmamcclallen]

Awkward