What does it mean to lower your standards when your boyfriend requested?

[tischro]

My boyfriend and I've been living in the same house for months. I asked before that he doesn't pay for the bills nor the rent. And now he states that I live in too much luxury, so he can't adapt to my life and I have to lower my standards. What does it mean to lower your standards when your boyfriend requested?

[OlderAndWiser]

In this case, I thin what all this means is that you are living with a guy - and I guess engaged to him, also - and it sounds like a horrible mistake. Where do you see this relationship five years from now?

[Screenwriter]

He means you'll have to stop living so luxuriously. And he is refusing to raise his standard of living to meet yours.

You two have got to work this out or you won't be able to live together or BE together. Money is a big obstacle with couples. He thinks you spend too much. You don't think so. Where is the wiggle room in those two statements. How can you compromise?

Talk this through and see where you end up. It's either a new beginning or the end.

[MzAsh]

I’m confused, who’s place is it? You’re paying rent and bills? If you’re spending your own money, you have every right to use it how you want. If he doesn’t like it then it’s on him to deal with that. It’s not for you to worry about.

[Adam1978]

It's complete bullshit. He can always argue that you live more expensive than he wants but he can always contribute with what he think is an acceptable living standard. Ie what such a place would cost. Then it would be up to you to decide if the luxery is worth it. But you should always request rent the same time they move in permanently. That was your error, never let them live for free because they will keep wanting to live for free.

[anon1903]

My boyfriend and I've been living in the same house for months. I asked before that he doesn't pay for the bills nor the rent.
>> the fact you haven't kicked his sorry ass to the curb is astonishing.
And now he states that I live in too much luxury,
>> sounds like a bucket of excuses to me. unless you won a lottery and got rich overnight lmao.
so he can't adapt to my life and I have to lower my standards.
>> then he should stop wasting your time. if you can't handle a bad bitch, maybe don't date one.
What does it mean to lower your standards when your boyfriend requested?
>> your standards aren't high, ftr. asking to split the rent and stuff like that is not much, it's normal. you can't mooch off your partner just because they make more money than you or whatever.

[Yazu-chan]

I’m so sorry but this situation has my dying laughing😂 Girl, you should NOT have to lower your standards. If he isn’t meeting your requirements, find someone who will, this isn’t build a bear workshop with a build-a-man special promotion🤣. If you want to live in luxury, and he wants to live in squalor, let him!

[Pudsmucker]

I think it's time that your boyfriend leave the house. If he can't help with the bills of luxury and it's time to go. If he doesn't leave get a restraining order on his laziness. He thinks he can live like he did with his mother and father. Tell him it's time to go you're not his mama. Keep your standards high. Don't give in to his little crying little childish attics. Send him a bill for his luxuries.

[AshViper]

@tischro - maybe you should stop dating trash? I mean you're obviously involved with a deadbeat if you live together and the loser can't even think to help pay bills. Does he even work or does he leech off the government?

[melanieeeB]

Lmao I would get rid of him. He is just cheap and wants you to pay for the bills and rent smh
He wants you to stop asking him to pay his part but that's just total bullshit!

[smilelots]

best to ask him what standards he is asking you to lower then you will know first hand.. I on the other hand would not say or do such a thing I live the way I do and if you wan to be part of my life that means everything we share good and bad..

[EmmaMary]

It's long past time that you woke up, smelt the coffee, and kicked this pathetic lowlife parasite OUT... Period.

[FreyaRed]

It's perfect question for him. In my opinion if you can afford your standards you shouldn't change anything.

[richardcory]

Between the two of your incomes, can you support the sort of lifestyle you want while saving enough for the future?

[katiesmuff]

It means you two are on totally different pages and why you still have him around is very puzzling.

[Djaay]

How about you stop expecting so much from everyone. And learn a very intrinsic lesson to stop harboring expectancy to run your affairs with others. Encapulate a moral decency between both of you instead.

[OfMiceandMen]

It means lower your cost of living. You're too expensive and need to simplify.

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't know maybe he isn't ready for a relationship with you?

[FilmGuy93]

It means that you live a more lavish life than he is comfortable living.

[Softlife808]

You're 41 years old come on now you can't be this dumb

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Welcome to GaG

[Softlife808]

The women here are airheads

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol, you're not wrong

[Softlife808]

🤣🤣🤣 let's be friends

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Deal 🤝

[ColHathi]

Sounds like he thinks you have too high expectations of him?

[Jamie05rhs]

What exactly are you asking him to pay for?
(Don't just say "bills.". Be specific.)

[Wise4myage]

It means he is a cheap bastard who likes to use you.

[Malwins3]

😅😅

[Greenbins]

He want you to eat at McDonald's now instead of a steak house... go shopping at Walmart instead of Tiffany's

[noohair]

He wants you to spend less and not desire more luxury things.