Why do people say “lower your standards”?

[Anonymous]

I use to frequent the bars semi often and try to talk to the girls there. It’s easy to do if you’re 6’4, white, and muscular, but I’m not. Now I’m around 0-30 and the simple advice I get is “don’t go for girls at the bars, go for less attractive girls”. I think it’s a stupid response. Do they expect me to go date the weird weaboo chick who smells funny, doesn’t lift, and acts strange? That would be an insult to my years of training at the gym and years of self improvement. Why even suggest that? I’d rather be alone if that was my option.

[thegirlfromthething]

“Lower” just means they have to be less high than they used to. It doesn’t mean your standards actually have to be low. Maybe try going for average looking girls you can still be attracted to even if they aren’t totally stunning.

[Asker]

How can I call a girl beautiful if she isn’t stunning? What would I say if she got dressed up and wanted me to call her beautiful? “I mean, you look ok enough for me to like you, but I’ve seen better”?

[thegirlfromthething]

If you like her personality she’ll probably seem more physically attractive too. You could eventually get to the point where you think she’s beautiful even if she’s average by conventional standards.

[Daniela1982]

Why would you even go to a bar unless it is for a one night stand? You probably will not find the wife of your children or the woman of your dreams there, unless all you dream about is sex, drunks, Ho's, and desperate women.

[Asker]

You’d be surprised at the guys who actually get girlfriends from there.

[Daniela1982]

Yes, but what kind? And how long have they been with them?

[hammo21]

People are saying your going for girls out of your 'league'

[PielDeMiel]

People do that when they want to get laid. Or they think you’re ugly so they’re telling you to be more realistic.

[Duckysback]

Dude, you gonna try and shoot for the moon when all you have is a bb gun? Come on, be realistic.

[Asker]

Why would I date a girl I can’t stand to look at for longer than 10 seconds?

[Duckysback]

Why would the girl who’s already been hit on by a dozen other guys that night pick you?

[Asker]

My wishes to not be with an unattractive girl are greater than my feelings of being rejected by an attractive girl. Therefore, I prefer to die alone if that is the case.

[Duckysback]

Lol, okay.

[medbutterflykisses]

Because this world is so shallow

[Asker]

It’s called natural breeding selection.