I think my girlfriend is the most ungrateful person I’ve ever met. What should I do?

[chopper]

Well we’ve been together for 4 months and I've never felt like this before. She literally never appreciates whatever I do for her. I generally ask her about where to go or what to eat but she always looks dissatisfied. What do you suggest?

[misogynistic_pig]

Each man owns his own life and must make his decisions based on his own values ​​and personal goals.

If you feel that your girlfriend is the most ungrateful person you have ever met, the first thing you should do is reflect on the reasons why you feel that way and evaluate if this relationship meets your personal goals and makes you happy.

If you decide that the relationship is not making you happy and is not meeting your goals, then you may want to consider ending it.

As a man , you are free to set your own guidelines for relationships and you should not feel obligated to maintain a relationship that does not bring you emotional satisfaction or well-being.

In either case, it's important to be respectful and empathetic in how you handle the situation, and not place unfair blame on your girlfriend.

She may have her own motives and reasons for acting the way she does, and it's important to try to understand her perspective before making a final decision.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling frustrated with your girlfriend's behavior. It's important to communicate with her about how you feel and try to understand where she is coming from. Here are some suggestions for how to approach the situation:

1. Have an honest conversation: Sit down with your girlfriend and calmly express how you feel. Use "I" statements to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, say "I feel unappreciated when I do things for you and you don't seem satisfied" rather than "You never appreciate anything I do for you."

2. Listen to her perspective: It's important to hear her side of the story and try to understand why she might be acting the way she is. Ask her if there's anything specific that's bothering her or if there's a reason why she seems unhappy with your suggestions.

3. Work together to find a solution: Once you've both had a chance to express your feelings, work together to find a solution that works for both of you. Maybe she has a hard time making decisions and needs your help in a different way, or maybe there's something else going on that's causing her to feel dissatisfied.

4. Consider seeking help: If you're having trouble communicating or finding a solution, consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide an objective perspective and help you work through any issues in your relationship.

Remember that relationships take work and communication is key. It's important to approach the situation with empathy and an open mind in order to find a solution that works for both of you.

[fonduegirl]

I love how women in the comments are jumping onto conclusions.

Like, it really depends yk? If you had your first date at Taco Bell or you ask her stuff but always do what you want in the end, or if you're two people who are just greatly different from each other, of course she's gonna be dissatisfied! You can't blame her!

[jennifer_bloom]

Do not date an ungrateful person cause it leads to a life time of abuse and lying and if she does not love you she might not love your kids and she might abuse them when you're not in the room.

[OlderAndWiser]

She's not gonna change and it's probably not gonna get better. So, do you want to live lke this for he rest of your life, or do you want to start looking for someone who is a better match for you?

[Joker_]

It is selfish for you to believe you deserve her gratitude. If she does not appreciate what you do for her, perhaps what you are doing for her is actually not worth her appreciation.

Alternatively, she may just not appreciate you. No matter what you do for her, she may never be grateful. That's possible, but I wouldn't go down that route of thinking.

So what do you do? Well, try doing nothing. Sometimes the right action to take is one of inaction.

Pull back. There is a joke to be told here about how @Degenerate was not able to pull out in time, thereby nascently resulting in a nightmarish ordeal for himself and rendering his future utterly and inescapably bleak.

If you do not change your behaviour early enough, you will cause more ruin to yourself than you would have if you just pulled out in time.

Uh, returning back to you, @Asker. Pull back a bit. Stop trying to deliver acts of kindness or whatever acts it is that you're aiming to deliver. In truth, you're probably not the good guy you think you are. Or maybe you are, but you're too asinine to realise it would be better of you to actually appreciate her feelings and then alter your behaviour with respect to her reception.

This is my suggestion. Whether you want to think of it as "pulling back", "actioning inaction", "giving her space", or a different way (within reason) based on your own personal interpretation and prerogative, essentially you at least need to try something else. And I would advise you to pull back as opposed to pushing forwards.

Even for your own sake, you should actively employ effort to impregnate yourself with more self-respect. Consider giving your attention more value.

[Levin]

Well, stop being weak, and 'call her ass out', as I believe you Americans say.

The only problem with that, is if you call out someone's bullshit, you have to put up with their temper tantrums and the possibility of the relationship ending. So if you're not strong enough to deal with the fallout and keep your boundaries, then don't bother.

But yes, direct communication is the way.

Doesn't have to be as abrasive as I suggest. Just a pretty direct, you seem dissatisfied with everything I do, type of thing. Rather than being accusatory.

[RealMarek]

Don’t do what I did and marry her then try to make it work for a couple decades. She most likely won’t change and could become emotionally abusive. It’s horrible never being able to do or be good enough for someone. There are kind women out there. I highly recommend finding one of them instead.

[megabamse]

You sitt her ass down and have a talk. Depending on what you learn from that conversation will dictate if you continue or break up.

Do not accept red flags, don't ignore red flag.

A life wasted on the wrong person is time wasted that could have gone to find the right person.

[TheFlak38]

3-4 months is the amount of time a woman can hide her true self. You were smart enough to recognise the red flags. The better question is are you smart enough to abandon ship? Because that's the only thing you can do. She will treat you like shit and this is not a surprise. Women only care what you do for them.

[NotTacocaT6969]

You should probably date someone who doesn’t take you or your effort for granted instead of remaining with a woman who is already hurting your feelings in less than 6 months.

[notwoke]

get rid of her, why would you get yourself in deeper? At your age you are not going to "fix her" so don't make the mistakes a woman would make by keeping her. Just think 5 or 10 years down the road when she is not as attractive, still has these qualities and the sex has died down, how will the value proposition look then?

[Anonymous]

Tell her you don't think you two are a good match anymore. She's going to either agree and then you both can go your separate ways. Or she's not going to agree and either respond surprised that yourself say such a thing. Or tell you what's eating her. Either way you're going to get some answers. Considering she's a woman they still might be convoluted.😆 But the point is you'd at least have a better idea about whether your relationship is salvageable or not.

[yourlocaltherapist]

first try talking to her about it and then ask he what she likes and or whants and then try that out if it continues to not work just break up with her.

[Adaeva]

Other than the first time, a girl will not be grateful for what you do. From a girl's viewpoint, she deserves more because she is doing you a favor by dating you.

[Beatrix7]

my ex was like that a was so loving and caring to him he never took notice in how i gave my whole heart and be broke it cheatingvon me ungratefull basterd he was not my type of guy

[Anonymous]

welcome to my world that's exactly what I had to go through for 5 1/4 years with mine and her family. Towards the end it got so bad that when I helped her little sister out her own mom begrudgingly and reluctantly said thank you it got so bad and so ridiculous from them and their overinflated egos that was one of many reasons why I left

[Opinion Owner]

but a word of advice to you though you said "ask her about where to go or what to eat" that's where you're screwing up. You're suppose to be the man and take charge of the situation. Tell her we're going to xx to eat get your coat.. or we're going to yy get your bag.. don't ask her where to go just tell her take charge of the situation own your instincts be a man and take charge of the situation don't rely on her to lead or do the decision making in those type of situations that's not her role in the relationship it's yours. sometimes you can plan stuff if it's a big thing but small stuff be spontaneous spur of the moment type of stuff

[Opinion Owner]

this is stuff your parents should of taught you or you should of learned about it online

[Sour-rose]

Drop her. Drop. Her. You got that? She ain't appreciatin' what ya doin' so fk off. She'll be fine without you

[lightbulb27]

always and for how many days in a row?

Ask her what is going on. she's miserable about something, maybe a lot of something.

[TacosRAwesome]

Take her to eat where you want and like to eat. If she's going to complain at least you'd have eaten what you wanted. Also ask her what's her problem.

[Boomchakalaca]

4 months and acting like that. Imagine dating her for a year, but that wouln’t happen right 🙏🏼

[FilmGuy93]

Why would you ever stay with someone like that? You've recognized that she takes you/others for granted.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Show her the door. People like her will never be happy with nothing you do for them.

As a matter of fact people like her tend to be just horrible human beings, typically very demanding and do nothing for anyone else unless it benefits them.

[JessicaEarl]

Ask yourself if that’s something you can live with forever

[Orion76]

Get her a happy meal, ever occurred to you the toy might distract her? Get apple slices instead of fries though, it Helps with the nutritional guilt.

[Nikki1989]

Leave her. This is obviously not working.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

She takes you for granted. Stop doing nice things for her

[FifiJones]

Some people are like that. Some people luve like that.

[itsalyssaagain]

I think you need to step it down so she can appreciate it more.

[RavVid]

Dump her. She will always be unappreciative if she is after 4 months.

[DermalPunch]

You have likely moved too fast. I don't know.

[fantasticass]

Move on. Leave her. She doesn't deserve you. Lots of single women in this world. Go find one ✌️🇨🇦

[Fireguy17]

time to move on.
Life is too short to put up with that.

[Gloree]

you're not serious. even if you are I've noticed good guys always like stubborn girls and vice versa.

[LiamJHayden]

Tell her. If she doesn't change, dump her and find someone else. There is no reason to stay with someone who does not appreciate you.

[alina177]

Is she hot? If she got and young then I can tell she can get away with anything

[MysticDevice]

Leave. I've been in that situation and it sucks. So don't even bother.

[Softlife808]

4 months yet you're still there? 🤣 I would've been gone.

[TheeTrybrid]

See me personally...
I can't stand a ungrateful person so i would be break up with then for someone who does appreciate me

[Anonymous]

Show her the whatever and Fresh & Fit podcasts lol

[Staximus]

Tell her that she doesn't seem happy with you and you are leaving her

[xJayleenx]

Break up it’ll get worse in the future I know someone like that

[Anonymous]

First of all my question is why do you want to stick with her even though she doesn’t care about you? I would guess you have similar relationship with your mom. You just hope that she will change but she won’t.

[Danzyzz]

Get a female in Mexico or Central America. No more dissatisfaction.😊

[spartan55]

Dude come on. Don't let the pussy blind you.

[supercutebutt]

Give her an evening of romantic buttsex.

[slatyb]

End this torture and don't look back.

[douride2]

Possibly you should find a new girlfriend.

[JSmuve]

You break up with her.

[DiegoO]

It brings some memories.

[nawtee_me]

be grateful for her

[In_Trance]

you accept it or you move on. your choice

[kim1626]

Break up with her and let ger learn her lesson.

[Anonymous]

Probably time for a new girlfriend

[BrookeS]

Dump her ass

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Dump her ass

[Aliciaissocool]

Break up