I'm in love with my best friend and it hurts. How to handle this?

[josie]

Have you ever found yourself in such a love affair? What should I do? I am very worried about the possibility of bad relations with my best friend. Any suggestions?

[Rosexøxø]

Tell them. Try to cultivate something CLOSER with someone you consider closer than most (both get along well, vibe, and have mutual understanding/respect).

OR

take a year-long (yes) break, without talking, and give some excuse. While on break, focus on self and talk to a bunch of other guys. By then, I assure you, if he doesn't see you as more, he will have his own girl which will be the perfect 'slap-wake of reality' for you and get you to properly prioritize, while preserving the healthy friendship. You both will come back with much to talk about.

Feelings come and go, and sometimes we exaggerate/ romanticize/enlarge or paint people to be saints. Either way, you choose. Commit to confessing, or try the break.

if you can't choose, try the break and then confess if you feel the same.

(Nothing short of a year. A year will do it). If you can't decide, and feel like you need this friend... TELL HIM. TELL HIM YOU NEED HIM lol

and if he says 'nooo isshhh, let's be homiessss" lol, then you get your act together- go serious mode and become independent like he is- not needing him either, as he wouldn't need you.

BEST to you both sis!

[Genie23]

I would say it's better to take a chance by expressing your love than feel suffocated while being friends with him for years. If he reciprocates, that's great. If he doesn't at least you'll get your answer. Sure, it will hurt for some time but closure is something that everyone needs it helps you stop wishing and hoping for things to happen and helps you move forward in life. So, if he doesn't feel the same way, you maintain some distance from him since then or you should take a long break from him until you move on.

[Finchie40]

Why guys and girls’ can’t really be friends because usually one likes the other more than the other , So if you really feel this way about him then the best thing for you to do is tell him you like him more than just being friends , as long as he isn’t involved with someone else and you aren’t either he will more than likely feel the same way you do , if not , at least you tried and you will have an answer instead of never knowing

[razelove]

See where it goes. Seems like it's already affecting your friendship, so it isn't likely that it would be affected any worse to pursue that feeling.
The worst outcome is having some good memories while you part on bad terms for a few months. It makes a really big difference if even one party makes the effort to patch up that relationship, whether it be as friends or lovers. I say give it a shot and see where it goes :)

[Wild_princess]

You can confess... but there could be good or bad consequences... i confessed to my very dear friend, we did try to date... but now we don't even talk to each other but at last i know i would never regret that when i had time , i didn't confess. i told him my feelings and i am proud i did😊

[Anonymous]

I totally understand how you feel, I have friend that likes skinny girls. I know that he doesn't like me ( I'm overweight ) but sometimes he would say things or do things that makes it seem like, he likes me more as a friend, and when that happens I will like him even more than trying to stay away from falling for him.

Honestly it's best to tell your friend how you feel, that's what I did even though he didn't feel the same, our friendship grew in a special way surprisingly.

[MementoMori777]

If you think there's a chance then make a move I'd suggest but if you know you are just going to stick around suffering then I'd say give yourself some space from the person and give yourself enough time to get rid of any emotions you got for them.

[serious]

I don't know what to say, unless your best friend also loves you back this is one sided love from your end and that really hurts I can understand.

I just hope you are okay.

[DancingQueen16]

I've been in this situation before I had a big crush on one of my best friends but I was too scared to tell him but it all worked out because found out that he actually liked me back and we've been together for almost a year now

[Anonymous]

For me I told her my feelings she wanted to know turns out she didn’t feel no the same way cause of a certain reason I won’t say but Ik I shouldn’t of told her cause now she acts like she doesn’t like me even as a friend. Ever since then things have never been the same

[TheSpaceGnome]

If your best friend is single, ASK HIM OUT.

Do you have any idea how many guys fantasize over their female best friend falling in love with them?

It's at the top of the list.

[Z1pTD]

I've been there and from experience the only two ways to deal with that without torturing yourself is to either 1) ask if your friend is/could be interested in you or 2) try really hard to just shut down any interest you have

[jshm2]

Don't be stupid. You'll ruin it for both of you

[Twalli]

I only date friends, so go for it. Let's say he feels the same, then you have a strong foundation for a romantic relationship. Most successful relationships come from close friendships.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Keep being that friend. Trust me, that short "romp" will at the very least damage your current relationship.

[ranjanchickfight]

I was in love with my best friend who was a girl. When i told her my feelings, she stopped talking to me.

[Anonymous]

doggystyle thats how, specifically in a tolling office chair

[ImalwaysrightOK]

You should go for it.

[itsalyssaagain]

I’d take the chance. Life is too short.

[Wise4myage]

What does your gut feeling tell you?