Can a relationship survive after someone cheated?

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Moose304 · Accepted Answer

As a general rule, they can't. But allow me to point out the actual question. The word relationship was used. For the purposes of my reply, I am using the word marriage. All I can report is what I have seen with my own eyes. I have seen people forgive the cheating and attempt to reconcile. The problem is trust has been destroyed. Later on, if the partner is due home at 5PM and they are not there within a reasonable time afterward the betrayed partner can't help but wonder where they are. The wayward partner starts to resent being a prisoner and having to account for every minute. This usually begins around the 3-year mark after they reconcile, and finally what's left of the marriage implodes. OR the couple just become roommates and almost all love is gone. In all honesty, when a couple becomes roommates they are only really doing it until the kids move out, or for financial reasons. In the old westerns when a horse broke a leg the cowboy shot it. In a lot of ways, the most merciful way to handle cheating is to put what's left of the marriage out of its misery. But, here is a word of caution! Don't be giving advice either way. When I am asked what I think I always point to the person's stomach and tell them to listen to their gut! Then I respect their decisions and let them know I am available if they need to talk. I can't overstress this point. DO NOT be giving relationship advice in these situations. 99% of the time the person giving such advise doesn't know their asshole from a posthole!

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

Can? For some. For me? Nope. I'm gone after that betrayal.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

yes it can, it usually takes one person to ignore the cheating as the cheater will very likely keep doing it. Very rarely do they stop.

The relationships that don't last is because the person being cheated on was not willing to deal with the cheating.

if you ever see a couple that has been together for a super long time, you know one of them is putting up with cheating.

the only faithful ones are the ones that don't get an opportunity with someone they want to cheat with.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

To me no! She can have him

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Not a relationship that involves me. How could I ever again trust her? And why would I want her?

Avicenna · Answer

Only rarely

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , just depends on what happened and why it occurred in the first place , The cheater is going to. Have to prove to their partner that they will not do it again and prove that they really do love their partner , Me personally will not take a cheater back what so ever but I know a lot of guys and girls that did , and they are still happy together , the cheater has to be willing to understand their partner’s feelings and understand that it’s not going to be an easy ride , that they are going to have to prove that they are not going to cheat again and understand they will be on strict boundaries, if they can’t handle those boundaries then the relationship will not work period , The cheater is also going to be faced with the fact that their partner might cheat on them for revenge so again that’s why I don’t take cheaters back there is too much at stake , yes a cheater can change their ways for the better but doesn’t mean you have to be by their side while they do that , if they couldn’t sacrifice for you then what makes ya think they will sacrifice for you now? I have slept with married women that lied about being married that went back to their husbands like nothing happened , and I slept with a married women that got busted by her husband and he still took her back for whatever reason , so yes apparently a relationship can survive after cheating occurred

Motiv8edMan248 · Answer

Absolutely. I unfortunately when I was 20 years old found out the hard way. Also I was being absolutely stupid because truly the girl that I cheated on was actually the one I wanted to be with truly. However she tried to let it go and I made sure she had whatever she needed to know that I was being faithful. However about a month later she apparently had been doing a bunch of research in that month and decided to give me an ultimatum out of the blue by introducing a chastity cage to me, and giving me the ultimatum of either I try the cage on for 1 week monitored by her and her having the key and letting me out whenever she'd like whatever, or her leaving me because she said that she tried to get over it all but she wasn't able to and some of the research that she started with let her down this path and she loved me enough to be able to learn these things and when the cage came completely flipped the script of her being the submissive to asserting she was going to be the complete opposite and I agree because I did not want to lose her at all and over the next two years together she definitely got completely enthralled in that kind of a lifestyle and Incorporated a lot of absolutely amazing aspects that made her and I much more completely satisfied like cuckolding and the trust we built yada yada yada unfortunately I had to move out of state for work and her dad had gotten sick like a month before so I talked to her once in a blue moon but that was like 10 years ago

TheAllFace · Answer

Whether a relationship can survive after someone has cheated depends on a number of factors, including the severity of the infidelity, the willingness of both partners to work through the issue, and the overall health of the relationship before the cheating occurred.

In some cases, couples are able to overcome infidelity and rebuild their relationship stronger than before. This may involve seeking counseling or therapy, being completely honest and transparent with each other, taking responsibility for their actions, and actively working to rebuild trust.

However, in other cases, the betrayal may be too much for the relationship to recover from. The hurt and betrayal caused by cheating can be difficult to overcome, and if the cheating partner is not willing to take responsibility for their actions or make the necessary changes to prevent it from happening again, the relationship may not survive.

It's important to note that every situation is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer to whether a relationship can survive after infidelity. Ultimately, it's up to the individuals in the relationship to decide if they are willing and able to work through the issue and rebuild their trust and connection.

SarahS98 · Answer

Anything is possible except death so yes it can but it takes tremendous work on both parties to rebuild trust, be an permanent open book and give the children a stable life.

Last year, I found out through my father's old, abandoned journal that my parents cheated on each other and survived that. My mother cheated on him with his best friend way back in 1992. Somehow they worked that out, still got married in 1996. Dad revenged cheated in 2000 but unlike mom that got caught, he confessed (I was only 2 years old at the time), got forgiven too, worked it out again and well neither me and my twin sisters even suspected they ever had any issues so yes when I read all that, I was shocked. I had no idea.

One thing for sure if parents wouldn't have survived this, neither me nor my sisters would've been born.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

Some people say they can. After it happens though, things just get weird. You lose all trust in the person, you're always worried when they're not around if they are doing it again, and even if they aren't, you still believe they are.

I dated enough of them to know people say they can change but never do. Even if a girl liked me but had a boyfriend, and she planned on cheating on the boyfriend to be with me, I still wouldn't date her because one day she would do the same thing to me.

One thing all cheaters have in common, they all think they will never get caught but their actions always speak for themselves.

ohsheeT · Answer

I think it depends on the couple for me I wouldn't want it to survive if she was the one that cheated and was coming home every night as if nothing happened playing me telling me she loves me and blah blah blah and the next day going out hanging out with that guy and coming home and just acting like nothing's happened that means she's think she's smarter than everybody and she's not going to get caught and it's all about her and that part of it right there is worse than cheating I think so for me nope I don't want to be in it

ZackBan · Answer

It shouldn't.

Cheating is breaking the very foundation of a relationship. Exclusivity.

When two people decide to share with eachother all the good and the bad about them under the condition that neither shares it elsewhere, doing it is nullifying the entire purpose

TruthBringer · Answer

Fuck No.

And don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Hear out the stories of people who got back together after one of the two cheated. 99% of the time, that relationship did not last. The only people who would like to think it can 'survive' are people who are way too invested in the relationship and clearly lack some self-respect if you think about it.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Didn't survive when it happened to me. I probably considered it since I was literally blindly in love with this woman up until she did what she did. Then she cheated on someone to try to get me back and I was like "fuck this" lmao ✌🏼

Thatpearl26 · Answer

I don’t think so because once trust is broken it’s very hard to repair. Either way the person who was cheated on would be constantly worried of being cheated on again. Then there’s the whole thing about how the person who was cheated on can feel like they aren't enough. Which could ruin their self image and confidence.

king34 · Answer

depends on who how when why etc. it can survive in the same way that some people survive gunshots to the head. it won't be pretty or easy and things will very likely never be the same. "relationships aren't hard they are actually very easy, their only hard when 1 person is working on it" -chris rock that quote isn't verbatim but its pretty much what he said, and he's 100% right, my advice try to work things out, you aren't getting any younger.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

In most cases I don't think it can. Once you break someone's trust they will usually always have it in the back of their head moving forward. It's probably best to just end the relationship right there and then.

strateguy632 · Answer

it can but... i recommend a man divorce (not death penalty in religions gasp) if she slept with other man. consider lady usualy less libido than average man so a cheat seems more severe than a man cheating. so if lady explode for man cheat, lady cheat is worse as above.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

The one thing I've learned in this lifetime is anything. It's possible as long as they both want it. Of course a relationship can survive cheating the person that cheative just has to want to change. They can't be that same person if they are then of course. It won't work but if they change for the better and mature and learn to respect and appreciate their partner it will definitely work

Walt832 · Answer

Nope just move along. You won't see your partner the same way as used to be. Reason, the trust. Without knowing you are or you may feel, obligating or obligated. Feeling either one fault.

Please don't. Just break. May hurt you but is the best. Can lead you up to depression.

chicken_nugget24 · Answer

My boyfriend cheated on me, not physically but he did it multiple times. I was in a bad head space and didn't break up with him as I should have.

Even though years later we are still together, I still feel uncomfortable with him talking to girls. And it's hard because he works with them obviously and is going to go to a strip club for a stag night in a few months. It's hard ☹️

MuchoCurioso2 · Answer

If the man truly loves the woman, yes.
If a woman cheats though, the relationship is over.

We as men know that you have to have admire and have emotional connection to a man to sleep with him.

A man will cheat with a chick simply to satisfy a temporary lust and be full of regret, still love his woman and truly beg for her back and want to fulfill his role as a provider for a family.

Men used to die to protect women, still do. GIVE UP THEIR LIVES. All they ask is that your legs remain closed except for him. We do not require women to protect us physically nor provide for us. When a woman cheats on a non-delusional man, he knows there's no going back. "I would have died for her." You don't take a woman back who opens her legs for another man.

Cathy7734 · Answer

I go to a Church that is very gossipy. I've heard of cases where the husband cheats on the wife and gets caught. However, the wife doesn't leave him. They have children and he is the main breadwinner. And the husband promises to never do it again.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If you're willing to settle for less than you deserve. But i rather not stick around. Been there, done that and remained unhappy because i knew i deserved better

Miristheiss · Answer

No. When one is weak and willing to be miserable for the rest of theit life. They aren't happy if they are too weak to dump the cheater.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s ok for men to cheat on women. I may sound like a sexist asshole but I’m not. Think about it, women don’t respect “nice guys”. No woman is ever sexually attracted to a man that’s nice. If you’re a “nice guy” and you have a girlfriend. She’s most likely cheating or gonna leave you for a good guy.

So if women are sexually attracted to the bad guy, more sexually to a man when they find out he has a wife, and “make the nice guy finish last”. Then they can’t complain when guys cheat on them

Jessica405 · Answer

Ya have to be damned strong to get it back on track. There will always be that doubt in the back of your mind.

ChipTooth · Answer

Not while in a relationship. A relationship meaning You really like the person and want to be with them, committed I guess I'm not a marriage person but had "passed up options" before during a longer term relationship I had. Emotionally couldn't anyway even I did like the other person how'd You get back into bed with them not trying to put people that have down at all You do You I just hope they find someone else that won't do that to em.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on the person. I got physically (she sucked him) cheated on by my boyfriend now father of my daughter with my best friend ( a prostitute ) literally. And after 5 years I can’t get over it lol. It’s still in the back of my head no matter what I’ve become SUPER insecure and completely lost myself. I wouldn’t recommend trying not because he’ll do it again or won’t 🤷🏻‍♀️ it only happened once in my relationship and I don’t think he’d do it again. But because it will eat you alive :) and it will slowly drain the life out of you

Anonymous · Answer

Mine did, My wife cheated on me early in our marriage,

Her ex got her pregnant. We spent about a year apart, then got back together and worked through it.

we have 2 more kids together (mine). And we are happy as can be.

it brought us closer together than even before

my life wasant the same without her, and she knew how bad of a mistake she made,

8 years total married and i dont regret any of it id choose her again

Johnny4473 · Answer

Depends on how much are they going to do to repent.
1. The reason they cheated.
2. Do they gaslight you about the chaetu.
3. Do they get angry whej you mention the cheating?

Someone who doesn't trll ypu the reason they cheated ( complete honesty) or gaslight you when you mention it. Will bot cha ge, dunp their ass and move on to someone who is a decent person

MementoMori777 · Answer

Not with me, I personally wouldn't be able to keep it going knowing they did me dirty

Anonymous · Answer

Not for me. I think anyone that stays in a relationship with someone who cheated and convinces themselves or allows themselves to be convinced that they won't do it again is deluding themselves. The ones that actually keep thier word on that is miniscule.

Cut your losses, take what's left of your pride, and move on I say.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Depends on how stupid the other person in the relationship is.

mobiusforniner · Answer

If there is communication, compromise and understanding, yes.

humanearth · Answer

Their gone, I would rather live out of my van then spend another day with a cheating whore

imawfulatusernames · Answer

I don’t believe so. I think you can continue it but I don’t believe it will survive as a happy worth while relationship

crazycagurlz · Answer

It depends. If it's because the man wasn't mindful of her needs, but he can swallow his ego and is willing to make sure her needs are met, then maybe.

yourlocaltherapist · Answer

No after a partner in a relationship cheats the other partner can never truly trust them again breaking the trust in the relationship unltimently ruining it.

AdithyaR · Answer

Never. I don't believe a relationship can ever be salvaged after someone cheats.

JustMeL120 · Answer

No a cheat will be a cheat. And I wouldn't date a cheat. Imagine if he gives you and std like hiv. I know women that happens to they trusted their husband and one day the found that they have hiv.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Only if the guy looks like younger Henry Cavill 😌. No kidding.

richardcory · Answer

It depends. Different people are able to tolerate different things. Cheating is nowhere near the top of the list of things what would bother me, but I know it is for others.

Alinejanelle · Answer

No cause that means you don't actually like your partner if you cheat

LovingJo · Answer

Personally  for me,  I don't think so. It would take a hell of a lot of work to rebuild the trust broken. I know it can be done, but how, I don't know

Likes2drive · Answer

Can for some, but there will always be trust issues

RingOfFire · Answer

I have known couples who got past it. But I've known others who didn't. It may be possible in some cases, but very very challenging and both people need to have the right kind of personalities and ability to communicate.

Tiffany1996 · Answer

No cause the trust is gone you never see them again. Especially if you catch them.

Anonymous · Answer

Define cheating? If it's sexual, then yes it's a deal breaker. Sadly, people cheat when they act on their brain chemicals. Just think about it, if someone cheated you spiritually would you see it as a same problem?

Not to sound sexist, but in a retrospect adult stars are the only set of people who are able to see sex and love as the different means to form relationship with other people. Sex is their profession, but love is their treasure meant for only one.

fonduegirl · Answer

It shouldn't. Cheating, long term or one time, can be very damaging. Fuck second chances. If they cared enough, they'd never have cheated in the first place.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

no it can’t. Even if you stay together emotionally it’s broken and irreparable. Don’t waste your time trying to build trust back because it’s gone forever.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

My question is should you let either of them survive when you find out?

Flower7 · Answer

It shouldn’t, because that’s like giving the person permission to keep doing it.

Compassiondude101 · Answer

Absolutely not, he/she does not care enough to make it work. Accept that it won’t work and MOVE ON. You may end up single for a while, but it’s better than being with someone whom doesn’t reciprocate the feelings

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes it can, but the effort to rebuilt the trust is going to take both people putting full effort into 100% honesty and openness at all times to make the relationship work in a healthy way otherwise it won't work at all.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If both parties want it to. But people cheat for a reason. Without fixing that core issue it's a pattern that'll most probably repeat

Red-Blaze · Answer

Yes if both sides willing and ready to work it out so it will not happen again

Screenwriter · Answer

It's completely up to how flexible a couple is and how forgiving. All comes down to cases.

Anonymous · Answer

It can survive and I’ll make sure I am the one who finishes it off in the most brutal way possible, hope your dad isn’t available because you’ll have a new little brother!

Nikki1989 · Answer

It can, but it will never be the same again.

Arik_jade · Answer

Yes.. ofcourse... depend on person approach... the word "Sorry" and acceptance of mistake. And other person accept the appology and forgive his/her mistakes.

Andres77 · Answer

Yes it’s possible, however unlikely. lots of discussions are called for and true repentance

kevypatyy7 · Answer

I saw a reply I liked a lot, it was by olderAndwiser, not a relationship that involves me. I can't be cheated and again I go back into it

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