hi guys, my boyfriend of nine years barely takes me out anywhere. i asked him why he doesn’t and he says it’s because he doesn’t get any reward from it and that i’m boring. it makes me sad because he goes out with his friends and we don’t do anything. i can’t even have him go across the street with me to get breakfast, he would rather sleep, but he can go out with his friends by noon. with me he sleeps until 2 in the afternoon. let me tell you a little about our past. in the beginning of our relationship, i was so nice and so outgoing. if you see me now it’s a complete 180 turn. i don’t recognize myself. i’m not nice anymore because he used to like girls butt pictures and bikini pictures on social media, he DMed a bunch of girls telling them how pretty they are, he talked to this girl on facebook, he screen shot a bunch of girls pictures on his phone. i saw all this over the years and it turned me cold. i stayed because i always hoped that one day he will stop and change for me. in October of last year his instagram got blocked and no longer can get on. i was happy. in February i saw that he liked a butt picture of this girl on facebook and i couldn’t take it anymore. i was so sad about it, but i still had hope. unfortunately for me, all this could not leave my head or my heart. i became bitter, resentful, annoying, nagging and a b****. he made me feel that him doing all this was my fault. so i became very insecure in myself and hated who i was and hate him for it. but was he the one who was insecure all along? him doing all this while being with me a sign that he wasn’t ready for a relationship and stayed because he was selfish? could i have let the past go and be happy with him? i didn’t know how. could i broken up with him? yes, but i had hope. here we are, nine years in and he broke up with me today. i’m still wondering, why he stopped putting effort into taking us out and valued his friendships more than he did me. why?
Why doesn’t my boyfriend take me out anywhere?
